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Absolutely absolute! by Douglas Vermeeren

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I am absolutely thrilled about life. I wish I could say that I felt that way everyday and in every way all the time. The truth of the matter is that I get frustrated, hurt and angry sometimes just like everyone else. I am human after all. But I do find that there are several things I can do that keep me more dialled in to my best self and I’d like to share a few of those things:

1)Have a mission, set goals and revisit them often

As I feel like I have a purpose I become on purpose. It’s very difficult to stay frustrated or bummed out when I have something that I am working on. An idle mind imagines and dwells with more problems. When we are busy working at something that excites us we don’t have time or energy to waste.

thAs I regularly revisit those goals I am able to reignite myself and get more on purpose. It’s hard to stay down when you are busy. In addition, by revisiting these goals often I can often see progress (even if it’s it not much) and that motivates me to do more and helps me feel good that I’ve made progress. I’ve consistently found with my students in Personal Power Mastery and confirmed it multiple times in my own life that when we make progress we are most happy.

2)Surround yourself with people who lift you higher.

You’ve heard it said that we become like those we surround ourselves with. And you’ve also heard hat tour income, relationships and habits will gravitate to the five people you spend the most time with. I believe that’s because we rise to the expectations of our peers and we would do more for others than we often are willing to do for ourselves. A great example of this are most mothers I know. They serve everyone around them and are often the last ones to get taken care of. They do more for others than they will do for themselves.

Surround yourself with amazing people and you will rise to an amazing life.

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3) Decide what you will tolerate and raise your standards

You get absolutely what you decide your standards are. This not only applies to your finances, relationships, organization, cleanliness and so forth. Yes these are all standards, but this also applies to your thinking as well. You set the standards of what you will allow for your thinking. You can control your thinking to allow certain thoughts to stay. You’ve heard it said that happiness is a choice. So is worthiness. So is confidence. So is contentment. And any other positive thought you wish to have in your life. Set your standards high and put your focus on thoughts that empower you. When you have a thought that doesn’t make you feel good don’t give it space to grow. Dismiss it and remind yourself that it is below your standards of thought.

Stay tuned for more! Until then remember that now is your time! Make it count!

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Get to Work – Douglas Vermeeren

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In 2006 the most misunderstood personal development movie in the world came out. That’s right I’m talking about The Secret. With the movie appeared a concept many people had never hear of before “The Law of Attraction” became the hot topic of conversations everywhere. While I am a firm believer of the law of attraction it quickly became evidently clear that most people had the wrong idea of what it was and what was required to activate the law.

One of the more memorable experiences that I had was with a friend of mine. After just learning about the Law of Attraction he told me how he was going to test it out by using it to acquire a brand new Ferrari. Long story short, after meditating, hoping and wishing for his Ferrari something happened. I’ll never forget the day he invited me for lunch to show off his Ferrari. As I sat at the table across from him he pulled out the business card for his new assistant whose last name was Ferrari. It had arrived but not in the way he expected.

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It was a valuable lesson. we can’t leave what we want out of life to a wish, want, dream or regular thinking. Those things are important.But without the element of work focused on a specific outcome you have very little control over what arrives in your life.

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The Law of attraction requires us to have strong feelings around what we want to attract and then do everything in our power to bring it about.

As I interviewed more than 400 of the worlds top achievers I saw this formula at work again and again. Each of these top achievers possessed a highly emotional commitment to what they wanted to achieve and then they worked harder, longer, more constantly and consistently than everyone around them to make that goal happen.

If you want to be a success you will have to do the same.

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Decisions and the power to change everything – BAM#11

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Decisions and the power to change everything – BAM#11
By Douglas Vermeeren

You are just a new decision away from new possibilities in your life. All things change in the moment of decision. Many people recognize this truths yet very few people make real decisions to start living the life they’d prefer and feel they deserve. Why is that? And for those that do attempt to make a new decision why is it that they have so much difficulty making those decisions stick?

One of the definitions I like regarding decision is that it is a conclusion drawn after consideration. So if now is the time you’d like to bring some of the less desirable situations in your life to a conclusion this article is for you.

Here are 3 tips to keep in mind when deciding to move forward on what you want in life.

1)What you expect you get. As you embark on this new decision you need to expect to succeed. You need to expect that people and things will fall into line to help you. You need to expect that when things get difficult you will find a way through and you will succeed. Expecting tough moments and preparing ahead of time mentally is important. Most people stop trying to achieve their goals because they hit a difficult moment. Expect that those moment will arrive and have a strategy for breaking through. (More on strategies later.)

2)Decisions are not decisions until they have action attached. When action is attached to a decision it gains momentum. As you begin to move forward and take a step into the unknown the universe conspires to help you. Action always has consequence and bold action towards good things always comes with reward.

Your mind also recognizes the forward movement into action and develops confidence that you will actually achieve what you decided to do.

In our Personal Power Mastery seminar we talk about the importance of consistent progress. If you add new and regular activities that take you in the direction of your decision you will stay motivated to continue forward. People are happiest when they are progressing and there is a lot of strength gaining if you recognize your progress towards what you’ve decided to do. In the seminar we encourage our students to have 5 action steps towards their decision each day.

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3)Own the future destination of your decision in the present tense. How we think determines ultimately what we believe and will take action on. If your decision is to achieve the goal of becoming a top sales person in your company you have got to begin by saying to yourself that you are worthy to be there today. You have got to see yourself as the person who has accomplished this goal.

More important that what other people say to us is what we say to ourselves. There is an ancient saying attributed to the Samurai which says that, “When we conquer the enemy within, no enemy from without can destroy us.” While it is true that others may encourage or discourage us their words have limited power until we decide to repeat them to ourselves with certainty.

Your words must support this. You’ll have to eliminate all fluffy conversations where you say, “I’d like to…” “I hope to…” “I should…” “I could…” “I Would…” You need to start thinking and speaking in terms of “I am.”

Here’s one bonus idea that can be added to this point. In the Personal Power Mastery seminars we call it the law of probability. If you want to achieve the decisions you make quickly and in the most powerful lasting way possible you need to surround yourself with the people and knowledge that will make it more likely you will reach that destination. This also includes often getting to knew locations and activities.

The reasons why so few people get to live the life of their dreams is not that they abstain from making difficult decisions. It’s actually the easy ones that they don’t make. Rather than choose the life they want they accept the situation they are in. And nothing changes.

Go get what you want today. It’s a new day and a new opportunity!
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An Awesome life is living your life by decision. You are where you want to be, doing the things that excite you, inspire you and bring out the best in you and in those around you.

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June 10, 2016 at 10:36 pm

Our Natural Way is Negative – Bam#9

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Our natural way is negative – BAM# 9
By Douglas Vermeeren

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It doesn’t take long to see the negativity in the world around us. It seems everywhere you go there is negativity reported in the media, negative posts about people on facebook, gossip slander, haters and trolls online and whispering criticism at work, school and even in homes. It is a very difficult world to navigate if you are hoping to stay positive and surround yourself with inspiring people. Yet it is possible and even when surrounded with negative people it is possible to stay positive if you recognize why negativity is such a big part of our life.

Much of our tendency to become negative can be easily traced back to our human ancestors. Negativity is a form of survival. In order to stay alive our early human ancestors had to be very aware of threats tot heir survival and existence. As a result they had to become suspicious of things that we take for granted. In a world where so many things could be a threat it became necessary to be on the defensive. I guess you could say that our ancestors became so good at it that it became par tot our natural out look.

As things evolved and progressed survival became easier but the habit of being on guard stayed with us. Our environment – parents, community, society – had been trained to be on the look out for negativity and was determined to point it out. Often times the intention is still to protect those we interact with. Think of the last time you spoke ill of someone else to others. Was it specifically to bash the person being talked about it was it to protect the person you were talking to. In my case, I was at an event and someone told me about the history of another speaker. They warned me by illustrating a negative experience they had had with this person. Naturally you and I are wise enough to recognize that there are two sides to every story and often times simple misunderstandings can be blown out of proportion publicly and privately. But I did recognize as this person spoke to me that their interest was more in line to protect me rather than destroy the person I was being warned about.

So how can we control our response to the negativity around us? How can we remain focused on the positive How can we be inspiring ourselves? How can we shine like a light in a tunnel of darkness?

I have two suggestions.

1.Recognize the negativity for what it is and where it’s coming from. In doing so I want to be very clear! This does not mean endorsing it. This does not mean participating to empathize with the other person. This does not mean feeding it in any way. In fact, recognizing the negativity is as simple as saying that you see what’s happening and what the source is. It’s like wet paint. It’s possible to know the paint is wet without touching it. Especially if the sign is big and clear. (But just like with the wet paint the temptation to touch is there. Don’t touch.)

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2. Remove yourself. Continuing the analogy of the wet paint you would stick your fingers in it and draw pictures or sit down in the paint. You would leave it alone. Like the paint the minute you touch it it is on you too. Negativity also sticks to those who stick their fingers in it. Often times it may feel difficult to remove yourself. Especially when the person sharing the negativity has you engaged in a conversation. However I have found that if you don’t feed their negativity or endorse what they are saying they soon discontinue. (As a side note it has been interesting to feel the emotion that accompanies this awkward moment when the other person doesn’t engage in the negativity. It’s slightly embarrassing and often the person being negative tries to backtrack or recall what has been said. These emotions alone should give you evidence to recognize that this kind of talk is not on the right track.)

3.Realign yourself. Once you have left the negative situation it is important to realign yourself to your positive state and mission. This is something I recommend you do often anyways as there are so many times in a day that we interact with negative circumstances and situations that often we don’t even know we’ve encountered it.Realigning yourself is almost like washing off whatever negativity happened to sneeze on you without your control. You don’t want to be influenced by the negativity in any way.

Remaining positive in a negative world requires effort. It also requires constant addition of positive to your life. One analogy I like to use in our seminars in regards to being positive is this. Everyone is like a glass of water that is full of everything we let into our life. Most people have a mixture of positive and negative. This glass is also the lens through which we see the world. (But more on that later.) The glass is full and the only way to get more positive than negative and to keep the negative out is to fill the glass so full of positive that there is no room for negative.

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My challenge to you is to find more positive today and fill your glass with positive everyday. And every time you encounter negative follow the escape and cleaning route outlined above – Recognize, Remove, Realign.

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Powerful Thinking Powerful Results – New Website now LIVE!

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Powerful Thinking Powerful Results

Powerful Thinking Powerful Results

Powerful Thinking Powerful Results – New Website now LIVE!

The new Website for the TV show Powerful Thinking Powerful Results is now live. The Television show Powerful Thinking Powerful Results is focused on exploring insights into the psychology of success and how to harness the power of thought to create better outcomes in the real world.

The show is hosted by Douglas Vermeeren, a top personal development teacher often thought of as the modern day Napoleon Hill (Think and Grow rich) for  his research into the lives of more than 400 of the world’s top achievers. His research differs from Hills in that Vermeerens research focused on understanding the achievers cognitive reasoning rather than external behaviours. Vermeeren also explored a wide range of industries and business models that did not exist in Napoleon Hills day. Vermeeren has shared the findings from his research in several books, movies and at live training events.  Vermeeren is probably best known as the producer behind the Hit film ‘The Opus’ featuring many other top personal development teachers like Jack Canfield, Dr. John Demartini, Dr. Joe Vitale, Marci Shimoff, Mark Victor Hansen, Bob doyle, Morris Goodman, Bill Bartmann  and others.

The show Powerful Thinking Powerful Results will explore further the importance of our  thinking in order to create the desired outcomes in our lives. The show begins airing Spring of 2012 on Canadian television with dates in the US, UK and Australia to follow.

This website features many new and useful tools in regards to the show. Some of the features include information about:

TV Program schedule

Live programs

Appearances and events

Online programs

Information on show sponsors

Facebook links

Blog links

and more.

The site also features an opportunity for free gifts based on information from the show.  In the near future the site will also feature behind the scenes videos (including exclusive footage not included in the regular series) a photo gallery and exclusive tools for application of show principles. This Official site is a one stop location for all information on the show. Be sure to check it out  www.PowerfulThinkingPowerfulResults.com

 

 

#1 Secret of How Thoughts become Things

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Mind Secrets

#1 Secret of How Thoughts become things

By Douglas Vermeeren

We have all heard that Thoughts become things. This is true. They do become things.  The question that most people struggle with is how do they do this? It is estimated that each day we have more than 70,000 unique thoughts. So what is it that controls our thoughts? How does our mind select which thoughts to develop and which thoughts to ignore? How do the prominent thoughts become things?

In order for thoughts to develop into reality they must be permitted to develop in the mind.

As they develop they grow and are built upon. If the spark of thought continues to grow action can result. Action will then bring that thought into reality.

Many of the thoughts that develop in the mind do not become a reality. We have all had thoughts that began as a brilliant burst of inspiration. Perhaps these ideas even got you excited for a few minutes, maybe an hour, a day or even a week… Then they faded away.  Even though they started as powerful ideas they did not end up as a tangible reality in your life?

What happened? Where was the break down? How could an idea so bright and exciting turn dim or disappear altogether.

Even more frustrating are the ideas that do not disappear. They anchor themselves in the back or your mind, they cling to you waiting for the day that you may act upon them. These are probably the most painful ideas. You know in your heart that if you did something with these kinds of ideas they would really make a difference in your life.

Perhaps it’s a business idea that you feel would make a lot of money. Or perhaps it’s an idea  or innovation that would make life easier for someone somewhere. Maybe an idea about someone you would like to have a relationship with? Or what you should do to improve the health of your own body? These are all common ideas that we are excited about, but we don’t allow them to grow. They remain unfulfilled in our mind.

What is it that holds us back? What is it that keeps us from creating the reality we are thinking about?

Expectation & Belief

One of the most significant factors that determines our reality are our expectations.

What we expect dictates what we believe could happen.

What we believe could happen is the line that all thoughts must pass in order to become action. Taking action on a thought is the way it is translated into reality.

Expectations can include what we believe a specific outcome will be, but also what we believe we are entitled to and how we believe we should act in certain situations.

As expectations can often be based on past experience or pre-determined values often our expectations will cause our thinking to follow a similar course to what we have done in the past.

Expectations of outcome often guide our thoughts and our behavior to conform our new experience with a past situation. Here are a few examples of where we have experienced this:

  • Meeting someone we didn’t like the second time. (It is true that it’s important to make a good first impression.) We’ve all had a time when we have met for a second time someone that rubbed us the wrong way when we met them at first. Based on the first interaction all visits that we may have with them in the future may be jaded.
  • Physical characteristics – this idea of being jaded by someone can even follow to others who have a similar resemblance to the one who rubbed us the wrong way. I had an experience where I recognized that I became a friend with someone because he resembled someone I was already very close to. I didn’t realize it until my wife said ‘you know who your new friend reminds me of?” and then she pointed out the resemblance between my friends. Here’s an interesting addition to this story, even though the new friend was rude, sarcastic and less than charming, I still try to think of him in positive ways because my expectations had been previously set by the first friend who was kind, loving, caring and a genuine friend.
  • We also see expectations at work in the movies. If I said Tom Hanks is in a movie what kind of movie do you think you’d be going to watch? What if I said Ben stiller? Would you envision a different kind of film? And when you went to see it how would you feel if it didn’t jive with your expectations? You’d be disappointed. In fact, Hollywood has seen a lot of movies over the years that didn’t make it simply because they changed the formula, or constructed a story with an actor contrary to your expectations.

Entitlement is also an overlooked element of expectations.  What you feel you are entitled to will dictate your thinking on certain matters.

There was a study conducted some years ago to determine the role that sacrifice or activity had on entitlement. The experiment involved two groups. One group was given a variety of tasks to complete and then after completing the work, was ushered into an empty room with a table and chair. On the table was an envelope with $50 bill and the words thank you written on the envelope.

The second group was simply ushered into the room. They had no work to do. The same envelope rested on the table.

The majority of people in the first group that had done the work felt that the envelope was left there for them and it was payment for their efforts. Most in the second group felt the envelope was meant for someone else and it was probably left there by mistake.

Work, sacrifice and effort give the mind a sense of entitlement.

The same can be seen in people that win the lottery. Countless studies have shown that many lottery winners end up with little or no money after a few years. I believe this has a lot to do with the principle of entitlement. Their mind did not believe that the reward was paid for and so it did not hold the value in their mind necessary to sustain it.

Entitlement is a mysterious thing. I often encounter people who feel that they have not yet paid the price to have what they want, to be who the really feel they should be, or have the relationships they deserve because they have not sacrificed what is required. This is a victim mentality and it keeps many from acquiring the reality they truly desire.

So a great question I would have is who determines the price you have to pay? That’s right, in the end you do. And until you feel that you are truly worth the reward often times you can’t bring it into your life. It’s time to rethink things a bit.

The next expectations are expectations about how we believe we should act. I call this social expectation. I have seen many great examples of this. I will share two with you:

A friend of mine is a police officer who often arrives first on the scene after a car accident. Once when we talked about the power of social expectation he shared the story of an accident he was called to sort out. This accident could have been avoided if social expectation were not an issue. One lady had rear ended the back of a man’s truck. It was a beautiful sunny day and the road conditions were ideal in every way.

As my friend pulled up in his squad car he expected it would simply be a case that the lady was not paying attention. To his surprise when he obtained the statement from the lady she said she saw the truck ahead of her, she wasn’t caught off guard and she wasn’t surprised. She just had no where to go.

What about switching lanes quickly or moving to one side to avoid the collision? She answered, well, I thought of that but wasn’t really sure if that was allowed. And I didn’t have time to make an appropriate signal of a lane change. Thank goodness no one was hurt. But the social expectation of staying in the lane is an example of something she had learned socially and what was expected of her in terms of signaling overuled her ability to avoid the collision.

The second experience I have seen at numerous seminars and motivational events. This lesson is often used by the speaker to teach people to think differently and to consider that there are often more direct routes than those we initially consider to solve a problem.

This is how the scenario plays out, the speaker typically takes a prize (I’ve even seen it done with $100 bill) and simply holds it up and asks “Who would like to have this prize?” Naturally a number of hands raise within the group. He asks again, “Who wants this prize?” Still more hands are raised in the group and often people begin to get a little excited. At this point the speaker asks again with more intensity in his voice, “Who wants the prize?” By this time the audience usually gets it and an audience member actually leaves their set and comes to claim the prize. Again this is a great example of social expectation.

Why won’t we leave the seat instantly to claim the prize? We don’t leave our seat to get the prize because we question ourselves. Is it the right thing to do? What will others think of me? Is it proper?  We ask ourselves similar questions on a daily basis that and as a result we prevent ourselves from acting on the thoughts that will empower us most.

Am I allowed to be so bold in my thinking? Or I can think it, but is it proper to act on it? What will others think? And so on. All of these doubts extinguish powerful thinking. And even worse than this is the thought that ‘things just aren’t done that way.’ Or there is a procedure that must be followed in order for it to be done right. In some cases this may be true, but often the very best ways are discovered by innovators who look for a better way than that which is considered traditional.

In a study of the most successful businesses and inventions of all time, you will find that the majority of these successes are innovations on existing ideas. I always get a smile when I hear that Thomas Edison is considered the greatest inventor of all time. It isn’t true. Every major invention that he produced from the light bulb, to the phonograph to the motion picture camera is an innovation on a earlier effort by someone else. You can be an innovator too.

You don’t have to think according to a set of imaginary rules.

Expectations are a great source of power as much as they can be a great obstacle to your success.

If we expect to fail we will not think in empowering ways. We do not dedicate action energy to created failing expectations a reality. That doesn’t mean we don’t dedicate thought to create negative expectations. we do that quite often. If we believe that expectation to be the coming reality, we will create it positive or negative.

If we want success and to create the life we really want we have got to expect it. When we expect to succeed, our thoughts become like a magnet directing all our energies to the success of the thought.

Just a few more thoughts on why expectation is important

The subconscious mind seeks to find solutions to challenges quickly and so it seeks for the most direct route to solutions in the thinking processes. The mind doesn’t really care if the solution is positive or negative. It just wants an answer. When we are on “automatic” pilot, so to speak, our expectations guide thinking almost entirely.

Because our mind is always looking for immediate solutions we think and act from a reactive position.   Essentially what our mind is doing is trying to protect us. It is constantly analyzing scenarios and situations to prevents us from experiencing harm or other things we may need to defend against.

So how can we build positive expectations?

Positive and empowering expectations must be build on purpose and ahead of time. They cannot be reactionary.

Why must they be planned ahead of time and how can that help?

In order to explain why it is important to plan ahead of time what you to expect let me address an important characteristic of how our mind remembers.

Let’s try this together.

I am going to ask you to remember two things, notice which of the two things is easier.

1)What was the date that United States entered world War 2?

2)What did your first love look like?

If you are like most people you found the first question to be much harder than the second. Why is that? The first question dealt with the recall part of your memory. It was a cold hard fact your mind went searching for.

The second dealt with recognition. You probably also spent a lot more time thinking about the second question and you might even still be thinking about it now. emotion is attached more to recognition than recall. for those of you who are familiar with the 5 ways the brain learns this would be experiential learning versus factual learning.

What’s the point? This is the point: It is a lot easier for your brain to recognize something than it is to recall it.

Back to how this effects expectations.

If you build your positive expectations clearly, carefully, and emotionally you will have greater power to recognize these expectations and when you are thinking in harmony with them. Your mind will begin to bring your thinking into a supportive position to these expectations and look for evidence to support your new expectations.

Your mind will also recognize what is not in harmony with your expectations and discard those thoughts.

Later in this course we will talk about how to build stronger expectations to overcome doubts that may exist within your subconscious mind.

But for now the important thing to remember is:

Expectation can be used in a positive way. Once we begin to expect things to occur in a way which is empowering to us our thoughts begin to direct our actions to follow that course.

What we expect, our thinking will support.

Expect good things and your thoughts will follow! If your thoughts follow you will begin to see the fruits of these expectations become a reality in your life.

For more information go to: www.HowThoughtsBecomeThings.com

How Thoughts Become Things is a brand new movie that unfolds the power that thought plays in creating the results we want most in our lives. How is it that our thought  create our reality and how can we harness that power?

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How Thoughts Become Things

Regret keeps you from success. Where do your biggest Regrets come from?

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Regret robs Success

Regret robs Success

Regret keeps you from success

Where do your biggest Regrets come from?

By Douglas Vermeeren

Regret is like a weighted anchor that can tether you so strongly to the past that it may prevent you from accessing the best possible future. Regret is defined as memories with high emotional content, particularly with a sense of loss, sorrow or frustration. We all have some regrets and our ability or inability to manage them can be the difference between a life of ease and awareness or a life of stress and turmoil.

The bigger the thought of regret the more difficult it is manage those thoughts. The more heavily they weigh upon you will paralyze your ability to create a better future.

Where do your biggest regrets come from?

To understand this subject clearly we must first understand the 5 ways your brain learns and processes information. (This is something that is covered in greater detail in the book and movie “How Thoughts Become Things.” and the practical application of using this strategy to increase wealth, improve relationships and lifestyle are covered in the courses The Neuroscience of Success and Primed for Power.)

Essentially there are 5 ways or categories your brain uses to process information.  We all use each of the 5 areas, although we are generally more dominant in one or more of these areas. While all of these areas are important one specific area is responsible for most of the major worries and long lasting regrets in our life.

The 5 ways your Brain learns are Factual learning, Experiential learning, Social learning, Spacial learning and Intuitional learning.

Just briefly, here are simple descriptions of these learning categories so you can understand them in the context of this article.

Factual – This has reference to things that we interpret as fact. For example, 2 + 2 = 4, the capital of the United States is Washington D.C., and the declaration of independence was drafted in 1776. These are facts.  Our mind often categorizes opinions as facts too, but that’s a discussion for another time.

Experiential – This has reference to things we can only learn through experience or by direct interaction with our senses. (Taste, touch, smell, hearing, sight and sense of equilibrium or balance) For example, something like riding a bike or ice skating can only be learned through experience.

Social – This has reference to what we learn through observing those we interact with. This specifically includes what are we learning from our families, communities, religious environments, business associates, classmates and anyone else we may interact with. This is where much of our moral compasses are established as well as our beliefs and values.

Spacial – On the exterior this has a lot to do with organization and construction. For example, this is the learning you experience as you build a jig saw puzzle, play a game of Tetrus or even hang a picture on a wall. On the inside, in your mind, this has a lot to do with how we organize our thoughts and how we organize things into context. Sometimes this is referred to as conditioning. (As a side note it is in this category that top achievers are separated from those who struggle to create wealth, better relationships and lives of abundance. If you want to be wealthy then you need to learn how to master this kind of learning. More on this in a future discussion or get the book or audio program “The 5 Ways your brain learns” available on either of my websites listed below.)

Intuitional – The source of this learning is often hard to describe as it comes from within and is somewhat intangible. Something either feels right, or it doesn’t. With intuitional learning we know or learn something from out ‘gut instinct’ or a ‘hunch.’ Intuitional learning is the source of our greatest creativity and power. All significant successes have been sparked into being by this kind of learning.

So where do our regrets come from?

Is it Factual learning? Let’s think about this.  Have you ever had a lasting regret long term because you didn’t know the answer to 12,732 divided by 14? Or because you didn’t know the state capital of South Carolina? Or the exact date in history that the Berlin wall fell? You might have been slightly bothered, but the regret soon past. Our biggest regrets don’t come from factual learning.

Is it Experiential learning? Perhaps, while trying to learn a new thing like cooking you burnt the turkey or like me on one occasion when baking a cake, I forgot to even turn the oven on. Was it a source of major regret? Not necessarily.

Is it Social learning?  No doubt you have called out to someone in a crowd, “Jason!” only to realize that oops, that’s not my friend Jason. You duck your head and pretend it was someone else who shouted out.  Kind of embarrassing. Or maybe you tripped while walking down the street and picked yourself up quick and ran away hoping no one would notice. Also embarrassing, but not the biggest form of regret.

What about spacial learning? No one has ever been embarrassed long term because they struggled to put a jig saw puzzle together or didn’t hang a picture straight. This is not the source of our biggest regret either.

What is it?

It is intuitional. Our biggest regrets come when we felt something strongly and ignored the prompting. We experience the most regret when we know we should have listened to our gut, when we felt inside we should do something and did not do it.

This is where our biggest regrets come from. We will remember our whole life the love that got away, the time we should have acted on something we knew needed to be done, the words we knew would hurt and we knew we shouldn’t have, but we did. These are the source of our biggest regrets. Not listening to our inner voice or intuition.

From a science point of view our intuition is the only aspect of how our brain processes information that does not rely heavily on logic.  And if you think about it are any of your real dreams built on logic? If they are they’re probably not big enough. They should be built on passion. And passion like intuition are both very feeling based in nature and have little to do with logic.

My challenge to you is to listen carefully for that intuitional voice and trust your gut to guide you more often. Especially at the times when we don’t see logically how something may work out.

There have been many times in my life when I knew I needed to do something, even though the timing wasn’t perfect, or the finances were not in place, or I had to put something else off for the moment. I wish I could say I always listened, but I too have some regrets. One thing is certain, my best answers and results always came when I have seized an opportunity that my intuition, not my logic, told me to grasp.

Douglas Vermeeren is the director of the SUCCEED Research Center which is dedicated to sharing research on the systems that top achievers use to create lasting success. Over the last decade Vermeeren has interviewed more than 400 of the world’s top achievers, including business leaders, celebrities and professional or Olympic athletes. Douglas Vermeeren is the author of Guerrilla Achiever (With Jay Levinson) and the creator of The Opus (with Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen, Dr. Joe Vitale, Dr. John Demartini, Dr. Sue Morter, Marci Shimoff, Bill Bartmann, Bob Doyle and Morris Goodman.) Currently Doug is completing another film entitled, How Thoughts Become Things. This film will explore the process of how our thoughts become manifest in our lives as reality.  For more on this film go to: www.HowThoughtsBecomeThings.com For more on Douglas Vermeeren go to: www.SucceedResearch.com Douglas Vermeeren can be reached for speaking engagements and training at 1.877.393.9496.

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