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Simplicity Proceeds Success – BAM #14

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Keep-it-simple

Simplicity linked to success
By Douglas Vermeeren

At first glance it may seem like the most successful, wealthy and influential business leaders in the world have a lot going on. It’s true that they have hectic and busy schedules. Their days are full and very productive and they don’t waste time. While those things are true one thing is certain and that is that their activities are precise and focused. To create high level success creating simplicity and effectiveness is fundamental. Here are three suggestions from my research of top achievers as to how you can create more simplicity and effectiveness in your activities.

Determine your specific mission
Recently I was at a networking event for entrepreneurs. One individual handed me his business card. On it were listed several unrelated businesses opportunities this individual was engaged in. I could immediately tell that he wasn’t extremely successful in any of them. The old saying, “Jack of all trades, master of none” was apparent. Don’t-Forget-to-Give-People-Your-Business-Card1One of the most important things that I learned in building my own business with the support of incredible mentors was just because you can do a skill doesn’t mean you should. We only have so much time, ability and energy and of we try to do everything we cannot possibly do them all well. I use the analogy in my seminars of having a single glass of water and a remove full of plants. If you try to water everything it will all die. If you select a small group of plants to nurture they will thrive. Most entrepreneurs try to do too many things and therefore nothing really thrives. Pick a specific mission and dedicate yourself there.

 

Go deep enough to know your business and focus on solving specific problems
By going deep into an area of expertise in your business and career you develop yourself as an expert. When you spend more time in that specific area you develop thinking and tools that allow you to solve problems in that area better than anyone else. This is same strategy that turns regular doctors into brain surgeons, average athletes into olympians and scientists into astronauts. If you want to become an expert in your business or career expertise will be required.

 

Your value to others will be in proportion to the problems you are able to solve. If you want to be paid more solve more complex problems. The way more complex problems are solved is to simply spend more time solving problems in that area. Your experience and knowledge in the area will give you what is needed to solve problems in a specific area. It’s that simple.

sam-waltonOne of the impressive things to me as I interviewed the 400 top achievers was to observe how how they were to learn about a specific area directly related to their business. They read, researched and talked with everyone they possible could. Sam Walton founder of Walmart would visit the retail stores of his competition and talk with them about how they were doing things every opportunity he had. He even used to do it on family holidays and in far away countries. It was his thirst to understand the world of retailing that lead him to introduce many of the ideas we take for granted in a Walmart today. It was this same thirst that made him the richest man in America for a time.

Eliminate needless activities and time wasters
You’ve heard it said that time is the most important commodity in the world. It is true yet still most people only pay this concept lip service. Most people take longer with activities than is required to solve them. For example, most people feel that a meeting with someone ought to take an hour. I suspect that this is a remnant of the idea that a class in school was an hour so therefore every other meeting should be an hour too. I’ll never forget on of the top achievers who became a mentor to me divided his day into 15 minute increments. If you wanted a meeting with him it was generally allowed 15 minutes. To stay on track we actually put a timer on the table as you talked with him to keep you both on track. With such time limits imposed you didn’t find yourself talking needlessly about the weather, the local sports team or any other kind of fluffy feel good banter. It was straight to the important matters.

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Now I’m not saying that we need to eliminate all friendly discussion but average people spend too much time making meaningless conversation and time passes quickly. I recently had a student at one of my events who had a continual problem with meetings running into each other. He was always late and continually falling behind. In addition his meetings with clients were not converting for him. As we talked about the structure of an effective client meeting we found that he was spending way too much time on discussions that did not serve the client. While some of this chit chat may have been polite it did not contribute to his mission.

Simplicity requires setting up boundaries and that means you’ve got to spend some time in preparation to determine what is most valuable to you. When you know what is most important you can start spending your valuable time there.

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In conclusion Leonardo Di Vinci was credited for having said that “Simplicity is the ultimate sophistication.” Getting to simple takes work, the above suggestions are not easy and they are also just the beginning. As you learn to simplify and get focused your results will improve and success will become possible for you.

 

 

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Our Natural Way is Negative – Bam#9

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Our natural way is negative – BAM# 9
By Douglas Vermeeren

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It doesn’t take long to see the negativity in the world around us. It seems everywhere you go there is negativity reported in the media, negative posts about people on facebook, gossip slander, haters and trolls online and whispering criticism at work, school and even in homes. It is a very difficult world to navigate if you are hoping to stay positive and surround yourself with inspiring people. Yet it is possible and even when surrounded with negative people it is possible to stay positive if you recognize why negativity is such a big part of our life.

Much of our tendency to become negative can be easily traced back to our human ancestors. Negativity is a form of survival. In order to stay alive our early human ancestors had to be very aware of threats tot heir survival and existence. As a result they had to become suspicious of things that we take for granted. In a world where so many things could be a threat it became necessary to be on the defensive. I guess you could say that our ancestors became so good at it that it became par tot our natural out look.

As things evolved and progressed survival became easier but the habit of being on guard stayed with us. Our environment – parents, community, society – had been trained to be on the look out for negativity and was determined to point it out. Often times the intention is still to protect those we interact with. Think of the last time you spoke ill of someone else to others. Was it specifically to bash the person being talked about it was it to protect the person you were talking to. In my case, I was at an event and someone told me about the history of another speaker. They warned me by illustrating a negative experience they had had with this person. Naturally you and I are wise enough to recognize that there are two sides to every story and often times simple misunderstandings can be blown out of proportion publicly and privately. But I did recognize as this person spoke to me that their interest was more in line to protect me rather than destroy the person I was being warned about.

So how can we control our response to the negativity around us? How can we remain focused on the positive How can we be inspiring ourselves? How can we shine like a light in a tunnel of darkness?

I have two suggestions.

1.Recognize the negativity for what it is and where it’s coming from. In doing so I want to be very clear! This does not mean endorsing it. This does not mean participating to empathize with the other person. This does not mean feeding it in any way. In fact, recognizing the negativity is as simple as saying that you see what’s happening and what the source is. It’s like wet paint. It’s possible to know the paint is wet without touching it. Especially if the sign is big and clear. (But just like with the wet paint the temptation to touch is there. Don’t touch.)

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2. Remove yourself. Continuing the analogy of the wet paint you would stick your fingers in it and draw pictures or sit down in the paint. You would leave it alone. Like the paint the minute you touch it it is on you too. Negativity also sticks to those who stick their fingers in it. Often times it may feel difficult to remove yourself. Especially when the person sharing the negativity has you engaged in a conversation. However I have found that if you don’t feed their negativity or endorse what they are saying they soon discontinue. (As a side note it has been interesting to feel the emotion that accompanies this awkward moment when the other person doesn’t engage in the negativity. It’s slightly embarrassing and often the person being negative tries to backtrack or recall what has been said. These emotions alone should give you evidence to recognize that this kind of talk is not on the right track.)

3.Realign yourself. Once you have left the negative situation it is important to realign yourself to your positive state and mission. This is something I recommend you do often anyways as there are so many times in a day that we interact with negative circumstances and situations that often we don’t even know we’ve encountered it.Realigning yourself is almost like washing off whatever negativity happened to sneeze on you without your control. You don’t want to be influenced by the negativity in any way.

Remaining positive in a negative world requires effort. It also requires constant addition of positive to your life. One analogy I like to use in our seminars in regards to being positive is this. Everyone is like a glass of water that is full of everything we let into our life. Most people have a mixture of positive and negative. This glass is also the lens through which we see the world. (But more on that later.) The glass is full and the only way to get more positive than negative and to keep the negative out is to fill the glass so full of positive that there is no room for negative.

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My challenge to you is to find more positive today and fill your glass with positive everyday. And every time you encounter negative follow the escape and cleaning route outlined above – Recognize, Remove, Realign.

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Powerful Thinking Powerful Results – #1 thing that can turn your thoughts into power instantly!

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Powerful Thinking Powerful Results

Powerful Thinking Powerful Results

It is estimated that each day we have more than 70,000 unique thoughts. So what is it that controls our thoughts? How does our mind select which thoughts to develop and which thoughts to ignore? How do the prominent thoughts become things?

In order for thoughts to develop into reality they must be permitted to develop in the mind.

As they develop they grow and are built upon. If the spark of thought continues to grow action can result. Action will then bring that thought into reality.

Many of the thoughts that develop in the mind do not become a reality. We have all had thoughts that began as a brilliant burst of inspiration. Perhaps these ideas even got you excited for a few minutes, maybe an hour, a day or even a week… Then they faded away.  Even though they started as powerful ideas they did not end up as a tangible reality in your life?

How could an idea so bright and exciting turn dim or disappear altogether.

 

Even more frustrating are the ideas that do not disappear. They anchor themselves in the back or your mind, they cling to you waiting for the day that you may act upon them. These are probably the most painful ideas. You know in your heart that if you did something with these kinds of ideas they would really make a difference in your life.

 

What is it that holds us back? What is it that keeps us from creating the reality we are thinking about?

One of the most significant factors that determines our reality are our expectations.

What we believe could happen is the line that all thoughts must pass in order to become action. Taking action on a thought is the way it is translated into reality.

Expectations can include what we believe a specific outcome will be, but also what we believe we are entitled to and how we believe we should act in certain situations.

 

As expectations can often be based on past experience or pre-determined values often our expectations will cause our thinking to follow a similar course to what we have done in the past.

 

Expectations of outcome often guide our thoughts and our behavior to conform our new experience with a past situation. Here is an example of where we have experienced this:

 

  • We also see expectations at work in the movies. If I said Tom Hanks is in a movie what kind of movie do you think you’d be going to watch? What if I said Ben stiller? Would you envision a different kind of film? And when you went to see it how would you feel if it didn’t jive with your expectations? You’d be disappointed. In fact, Hollywood has seen a lot of movies over the years that didn’t make it simply because they changed the formula, or constructed a story with an actor contrary to your expectations.

 

Entitlement is also an overlooked element of expectations.  What you feel you are entitled to will dictate your thinking on certain matters.

 

There was a study conducted some years ago to determine the role that sacrifice or activity had on entitlement. The experiment involved two groups. One group was given a variety of tasks to complete and then after completing the work, was ushered into an empty room with a table and chair. On the table was an envelope with $50 bill and the words thank you written on the envelope.

 

The second group was simply ushered into the room. They had no work to do. The same envelope rested on the table.

 

The majority of people in the first group that had done the work felt that the envelope was left there for them and it was payment for their efforts. Most in the second group felt the envelope was meant for someone else and it was probably left there by mistake.

 

Work, sacrifice and effort give the mind a sense of entitlement.

 

Entitlement is a mysterious thing. I often encounter people who feel that they have not yet paid the price to have what they want, to be who the really feel they should be, or have the relationships they deserve because they have not sacrificed what is required. This is a victim mentality and it keeps many from acquiring the reality they truly desire.

 

The next expectations are expectations about how we believe we should act.

 

I have seen examples of this at numerous seminars and motivational events. This lesson is often used by the speaker to teach people to think differently and to consider that there are often more direct routes than those we initially consider to solve a problem.

 

This is how the scenario plays out, the speaker typically takes a prize (I’ve even seen it done with $100 bill) and simply holds it up and asks “Who would like to have this prize?” Naturally a number of hands raise within the group. He asks again, “Who wants this prize?” Still more hands are raised in the group and often people begin to get a little excited. At this point the speaker asks again with more intensity in his voice, “Who wants the prize?” By this time the audience usually gets it and an audience member actually leaves their set and comes to claim the prize. Again this is a great example of social expectation.

 

Why won’t we leave the seat instantly to claim the prize? We don’t leave our seat to get the prize because we question ourselves. Is it the right thing to do? What will others think of me? Is it proper?  We ask ourselves similar questions on a daily basis that and as a result we prevent ourselves from acting on the thoughts that will empower us most.

 

In a study of the most successful businesses and inventions of all time, you will find that the majority of these successes are innovations on existing ideas. I always get a smile when I hear that Thomas Edison is considered the greatest inventor of all time. It isn’t true. Every major invention that he produced from the light bulb, to the phonograph to the motion picture camera is an innovation on a earlier effort by someone else. You can be an innovator too.

 

You don’t have to think according to a set of imaginary rules.

 

Expectations are a great source of power as much as they can be a great obstacle to your success.

 

If we expect to fail we will not think in empowering ways. We do not dedicate action energy to created failing expectations a reality. That doesn’t mean we don’t dedicate thought to create negative expectations. we do that quite often. If we believe that expectation to be the coming reality, we will create it positive or negative.

 

If we want to create the life we really want we have got to expect it can happen. When we expect to succeed, our thoughts become like a magnet directing all our energies to supporting the expectation.

 

Just a few more thoughts on why expectation is important

The subconscious mind seeks to find solutions to challenges quickly and so it seeks for the most direct route to solutions in the thinking processes. The mind doesn’t really care if the solution is positive or negative. It just wants an answer. When we are on “automatic” pilot, so to speak, our expectations guide thinking almost entirely.

 

Because our mind is always looking for immediate solutions we think and act from a reactive position.   Essentially what our mind is doing is trying to protect us. It is constantly analyzing scenarios and situations to prevents us from experiencing harm or other things we may need to defend against.

 

So how can we build positive expectations?

Positive and empowering expectations must be build on purpose and ahead of time. They cannot be reactionary.

 

Why must they be planned ahead of time and how can that help? In order to explain why it is important to plan ahead of time what you to expect let me address an important characteristic of how our mind remembers.

 

Try to remember two things, notice which of the two things is easier.

 

1)What was the date that United States entered world War 2?

2)What did your first love look like?

 

If you are like most people you found the first question to be much harder than the second. Why is that? The first question dealt with the recall part of your memory. It was a cold hard fact your mind went searching for.

 

The second dealt with recognition. You probably also spent a lot more time thinking about the second question and you might even still be thinking about it now. emotion is attached more to recognition than recall. for those of you who are familiar with the 5 ways the brain learns this would be experiential learning versus factual learning.

 

This is the point: It is a lot easier for your brain to recognize something than it is to recall it.

 

Back to how this effects expectations.

 

If you build your positive expectations clearly, carefully, and emotionally you will have greater power to recognize these expectations and when you are thinking in harmony with them. Your mind will begin to bring your thinking into a supportive position to these expectations and look for evidence to support your new expectations.

 

Your mind also recognizes what is not in harmony with your expectations and discards those thoughts.

 

Expectation can be used in a positive way. Once we begin to expect things to occur in a way which is empowering to us our thoughts begin to direct our actions to follow that course.

 

What we expect, our thinking will support.

 

Expect good things and your thoughts will follow! If your thoughts follow you will begin to see the fruits of these expectations become a reality in your life.

Powerful Thinking Powerful Results – MAYAN RETREAT

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Powerful Thinking Powerful Results

Powerful Thinking Powerful Results

Your thinking will dictate your results. It’s as simple as that. This is our most popular training and It produces instant results and immediate productivity. Spend a week learning about how your mind works and processes the information for need to be successful and realize your greatest outcomes! If you are in a funk and your not sure why or maybe things are going fine, but just not fast enough. You have got to learn how to kick it into high gear! Your most powerful results await you!

February 13 – 17 – Mayan Riviera – Public Event – Powerful Thinking Powerful Results retreat – Space is limited! This package does not include travel or accommodations. This event takes place on an all-inclusive resort. We encourage participants to stay at the resort for a best value experience. Please feel free to contact us directly for special travel arrangements we have for our attendees.

As a side note this educational getaway is typically tax deductible and eligible for continuing education credits!

 

 

Some of the topics we will cover include:

– How to training your brain to stay focused with what matters most!

– Getting greater clarity with your goals!

– How to overcome negative thinking!

– What every manager needs to know!

– The 3 mistakes of the mind that sabotage even the most motivated achievers!

-Persuasion and sales from a brain science point of view!

-Why and how decisions are made!

– The ripple effect (Why some people create an amazing success)

– The 5 ways your brain learns

-How to step ahead of your competition

– 4 keys to making relationships work

…and more!  This is an incredible training that benefits anyone who is self employed or trying to make a home business work. In addition, if you are fascinated by your mind and how the brain works you will not want to miss this event! Seating is limited to only 25 participants to ensure maximum opportunities to participate and apply the skills and techniques presented in the course.

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Douglas Vermeeren at the ruins of Chichen Itza Mexico

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This is an incredible training and holiday opportunity. In addition to the incredible lessons you will learn we always have a good time. lots to do! Lots to see!

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Thoughts on past trainings:

Douglas can deliver the depth of content that European audiences demand. Douglas Embodies excellence. In Belgium, we experienced no waffle when he was here! If Douglas’ ideas were taught in schools, we’d be getting it right from the beginning. I recommend to all, if you get the opportunity to hear him, never let it pass you by. Douglas is matchless. – Jane McCarthy, Cyres Cafe, Antwerp, Belgium

Doug Vermeeren was our speaker of choice! After the main session the comment we kept hearing from members was “Wow!” Everyone in attendance felt like this was a major learning experience, and we had fun too! This will be an event JCI members and guest will talk about for years to come! I would recommend other organizations bring Doug in to speak to their group! We look forward to bringing Doug back again for another presentation!  – Kristin Krause Chapter President, Junior Chamber International

A captivating speaker with so many great insights. Doug is definitely destined to become one of this generations leaders in personal development.  – Bob Doyle Creator of the Wealth Beyond Reason Program and featured teacher in The Secret

Doug’s mind is the most brilliant out of the box tool you your business could have. The quick simple tweaks he sees that you don’t create massive massive results. Doug works from his heart and will not rest until he knows that you have gotten way way more then you could have ever imagined. It is your responsibility to let your mind grow and to make sure that your ideas take off. The best in the world work with coaches constantly. The VERY best work with Doug. If you ever have the opportunity to work with Doug, do your future a favor and jump on it NOW.

– Kyle Cease #1 Place Winner, Comedy Central Stand-up Showdown Actor (10 things I hate about you, Not another teen movie)

Doug Vermeeren has the ability to motivate and inspire people to achieve their biggest dreams.  – William Farley, CEO Fruit of the Loom

Doug Vermeeren is a man who possesses both vision and enthusiasm. He spreads his message of ‘no limits’ to everyone around him and touches lives forever. -Frank Maguire, Co-Founder of FedEx

The tips for success, and the hands on approach are unsurpassed. I am more sure of my success now than ever before.  – Kathleen Johnson, BA, AICI, POC, President & CEO R.I.M

Doug is truly a “go giver” and what you will learn from his principles and acting on them will not only change your life and make you a better and more successful person they will also help you to be a more happy individual as you go through life.  – Richard “Jaws” Kiel, Actor – The Spy Who Loved Me, Moonraker

Doug Vermeeren knows what he is talking about. He’s dynamic and wise and definitely worth listening to.

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#1 Secret of How Thoughts become Things

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Mind Secrets

#1 Secret of How Thoughts become things

By Douglas Vermeeren

We have all heard that Thoughts become things. This is true. They do become things.  The question that most people struggle with is how do they do this? It is estimated that each day we have more than 70,000 unique thoughts. So what is it that controls our thoughts? How does our mind select which thoughts to develop and which thoughts to ignore? How do the prominent thoughts become things?

In order for thoughts to develop into reality they must be permitted to develop in the mind.

As they develop they grow and are built upon. If the spark of thought continues to grow action can result. Action will then bring that thought into reality.

Many of the thoughts that develop in the mind do not become a reality. We have all had thoughts that began as a brilliant burst of inspiration. Perhaps these ideas even got you excited for a few minutes, maybe an hour, a day or even a week… Then they faded away.  Even though they started as powerful ideas they did not end up as a tangible reality in your life?

What happened? Where was the break down? How could an idea so bright and exciting turn dim or disappear altogether.

Even more frustrating are the ideas that do not disappear. They anchor themselves in the back or your mind, they cling to you waiting for the day that you may act upon them. These are probably the most painful ideas. You know in your heart that if you did something with these kinds of ideas they would really make a difference in your life.

Perhaps it’s a business idea that you feel would make a lot of money. Or perhaps it’s an idea  or innovation that would make life easier for someone somewhere. Maybe an idea about someone you would like to have a relationship with? Or what you should do to improve the health of your own body? These are all common ideas that we are excited about, but we don’t allow them to grow. They remain unfulfilled in our mind.

What is it that holds us back? What is it that keeps us from creating the reality we are thinking about?

Expectation & Belief

One of the most significant factors that determines our reality are our expectations.

What we expect dictates what we believe could happen.

What we believe could happen is the line that all thoughts must pass in order to become action. Taking action on a thought is the way it is translated into reality.

Expectations can include what we believe a specific outcome will be, but also what we believe we are entitled to and how we believe we should act in certain situations.

As expectations can often be based on past experience or pre-determined values often our expectations will cause our thinking to follow a similar course to what we have done in the past.

Expectations of outcome often guide our thoughts and our behavior to conform our new experience with a past situation. Here are a few examples of where we have experienced this:

  • Meeting someone we didn’t like the second time. (It is true that it’s important to make a good first impression.) We’ve all had a time when we have met for a second time someone that rubbed us the wrong way when we met them at first. Based on the first interaction all visits that we may have with them in the future may be jaded.
  • Physical characteristics – this idea of being jaded by someone can even follow to others who have a similar resemblance to the one who rubbed us the wrong way. I had an experience where I recognized that I became a friend with someone because he resembled someone I was already very close to. I didn’t realize it until my wife said ‘you know who your new friend reminds me of?” and then she pointed out the resemblance between my friends. Here’s an interesting addition to this story, even though the new friend was rude, sarcastic and less than charming, I still try to think of him in positive ways because my expectations had been previously set by the first friend who was kind, loving, caring and a genuine friend.
  • We also see expectations at work in the movies. If I said Tom Hanks is in a movie what kind of movie do you think you’d be going to watch? What if I said Ben stiller? Would you envision a different kind of film? And when you went to see it how would you feel if it didn’t jive with your expectations? You’d be disappointed. In fact, Hollywood has seen a lot of movies over the years that didn’t make it simply because they changed the formula, or constructed a story with an actor contrary to your expectations.

Entitlement is also an overlooked element of expectations.  What you feel you are entitled to will dictate your thinking on certain matters.

There was a study conducted some years ago to determine the role that sacrifice or activity had on entitlement. The experiment involved two groups. One group was given a variety of tasks to complete and then after completing the work, was ushered into an empty room with a table and chair. On the table was an envelope with $50 bill and the words thank you written on the envelope.

The second group was simply ushered into the room. They had no work to do. The same envelope rested on the table.

The majority of people in the first group that had done the work felt that the envelope was left there for them and it was payment for their efforts. Most in the second group felt the envelope was meant for someone else and it was probably left there by mistake.

Work, sacrifice and effort give the mind a sense of entitlement.

The same can be seen in people that win the lottery. Countless studies have shown that many lottery winners end up with little or no money after a few years. I believe this has a lot to do with the principle of entitlement. Their mind did not believe that the reward was paid for and so it did not hold the value in their mind necessary to sustain it.

Entitlement is a mysterious thing. I often encounter people who feel that they have not yet paid the price to have what they want, to be who the really feel they should be, or have the relationships they deserve because they have not sacrificed what is required. This is a victim mentality and it keeps many from acquiring the reality they truly desire.

So a great question I would have is who determines the price you have to pay? That’s right, in the end you do. And until you feel that you are truly worth the reward often times you can’t bring it into your life. It’s time to rethink things a bit.

The next expectations are expectations about how we believe we should act. I call this social expectation. I have seen many great examples of this. I will share two with you:

A friend of mine is a police officer who often arrives first on the scene after a car accident. Once when we talked about the power of social expectation he shared the story of an accident he was called to sort out. This accident could have been avoided if social expectation were not an issue. One lady had rear ended the back of a man’s truck. It was a beautiful sunny day and the road conditions were ideal in every way.

As my friend pulled up in his squad car he expected it would simply be a case that the lady was not paying attention. To his surprise when he obtained the statement from the lady she said she saw the truck ahead of her, she wasn’t caught off guard and she wasn’t surprised. She just had no where to go.

What about switching lanes quickly or moving to one side to avoid the collision? She answered, well, I thought of that but wasn’t really sure if that was allowed. And I didn’t have time to make an appropriate signal of a lane change. Thank goodness no one was hurt. But the social expectation of staying in the lane is an example of something she had learned socially and what was expected of her in terms of signaling overuled her ability to avoid the collision.

The second experience I have seen at numerous seminars and motivational events. This lesson is often used by the speaker to teach people to think differently and to consider that there are often more direct routes than those we initially consider to solve a problem.

This is how the scenario plays out, the speaker typically takes a prize (I’ve even seen it done with $100 bill) and simply holds it up and asks “Who would like to have this prize?” Naturally a number of hands raise within the group. He asks again, “Who wants this prize?” Still more hands are raised in the group and often people begin to get a little excited. At this point the speaker asks again with more intensity in his voice, “Who wants the prize?” By this time the audience usually gets it and an audience member actually leaves their set and comes to claim the prize. Again this is a great example of social expectation.

Why won’t we leave the seat instantly to claim the prize? We don’t leave our seat to get the prize because we question ourselves. Is it the right thing to do? What will others think of me? Is it proper?  We ask ourselves similar questions on a daily basis that and as a result we prevent ourselves from acting on the thoughts that will empower us most.

Am I allowed to be so bold in my thinking? Or I can think it, but is it proper to act on it? What will others think? And so on. All of these doubts extinguish powerful thinking. And even worse than this is the thought that ‘things just aren’t done that way.’ Or there is a procedure that must be followed in order for it to be done right. In some cases this may be true, but often the very best ways are discovered by innovators who look for a better way than that which is considered traditional.

In a study of the most successful businesses and inventions of all time, you will find that the majority of these successes are innovations on existing ideas. I always get a smile when I hear that Thomas Edison is considered the greatest inventor of all time. It isn’t true. Every major invention that he produced from the light bulb, to the phonograph to the motion picture camera is an innovation on a earlier effort by someone else. You can be an innovator too.

You don’t have to think according to a set of imaginary rules.

Expectations are a great source of power as much as they can be a great obstacle to your success.

If we expect to fail we will not think in empowering ways. We do not dedicate action energy to created failing expectations a reality. That doesn’t mean we don’t dedicate thought to create negative expectations. we do that quite often. If we believe that expectation to be the coming reality, we will create it positive or negative.

If we want success and to create the life we really want we have got to expect it. When we expect to succeed, our thoughts become like a magnet directing all our energies to the success of the thought.

Just a few more thoughts on why expectation is important

The subconscious mind seeks to find solutions to challenges quickly and so it seeks for the most direct route to solutions in the thinking processes. The mind doesn’t really care if the solution is positive or negative. It just wants an answer. When we are on “automatic” pilot, so to speak, our expectations guide thinking almost entirely.

Because our mind is always looking for immediate solutions we think and act from a reactive position.   Essentially what our mind is doing is trying to protect us. It is constantly analyzing scenarios and situations to prevents us from experiencing harm or other things we may need to defend against.

So how can we build positive expectations?

Positive and empowering expectations must be build on purpose and ahead of time. They cannot be reactionary.

Why must they be planned ahead of time and how can that help?

In order to explain why it is important to plan ahead of time what you to expect let me address an important characteristic of how our mind remembers.

Let’s try this together.

I am going to ask you to remember two things, notice which of the two things is easier.

1)What was the date that United States entered world War 2?

2)What did your first love look like?

If you are like most people you found the first question to be much harder than the second. Why is that? The first question dealt with the recall part of your memory. It was a cold hard fact your mind went searching for.

The second dealt with recognition. You probably also spent a lot more time thinking about the second question and you might even still be thinking about it now. emotion is attached more to recognition than recall. for those of you who are familiar with the 5 ways the brain learns this would be experiential learning versus factual learning.

What’s the point? This is the point: It is a lot easier for your brain to recognize something than it is to recall it.

Back to how this effects expectations.

If you build your positive expectations clearly, carefully, and emotionally you will have greater power to recognize these expectations and when you are thinking in harmony with them. Your mind will begin to bring your thinking into a supportive position to these expectations and look for evidence to support your new expectations.

Your mind will also recognize what is not in harmony with your expectations and discard those thoughts.

Later in this course we will talk about how to build stronger expectations to overcome doubts that may exist within your subconscious mind.

But for now the important thing to remember is:

Expectation can be used in a positive way. Once we begin to expect things to occur in a way which is empowering to us our thoughts begin to direct our actions to follow that course.

What we expect, our thinking will support.

Expect good things and your thoughts will follow! If your thoughts follow you will begin to see the fruits of these expectations become a reality in your life.

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New article by Douglas Vermeeren on how your mind sabotages your success

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Douglas Vermeeren featured in AKWA Magazine.
Ever wonder why you have trouble staying focused with the goals that matter most to you. This new article focuses on how your mind sabotages you from achieving your greatest successes.Your brain is a curios thing in that it can take some people to the greatest victories of human achievement or others into the deepest despair of anguish and agony. What is it in our brain that drives us towards these outcomes. This new article shares incredible research and new discoveries on how the brain sorts information to either contribute to your success or sabotage.

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