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Level up your inner Voice – Personal Power Mastery minute

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Level up your inner voice – Personal Power Mastery Moment

By Douglas Vermeeren

You’ve heard the saying that whether we think we can or think we can’t we are right. My interviews with top achievers and observance of those who are less successful have proven this true countless times. Our success begins with our thoughts, and even more specifically with the quality of those thoughts and what we say to ourselves.

Often most people don’t realize however, that its not the great and grand thoughts that pass through our mind each day that actually make the most difference. In fact it is the small almost harmless appearing thoughts that often have the most weight. It is the small thoughts that we often pay little attention to that condition us as to what we believe is possible for ourselves. Those little doubts are like cracks that appear in a damn. Almost almost invisible at times they make the structure of the damn weak and ready to collapse the minute something large presses against it. 

The same is true of the small thoughts most people continually nurture around doubt, scarcity, lack of self worth and so forth. Because those thoughts move freely in the mind without any attempt at repair when some great opportunity comes along that could really benefit them they are not able to take it into their lives because they have allowed small doubting thoughts to settle for too long. 

If you would like to achieve better outcomes in your life and experience more success the first step is to pay very careful attention to how you communicate to yourself. Positive and empowering communication must proceed powerful and positive results.

My challenge to you today is to start looking more carefully at your thoughts about yourself and to yourself. Start believing more in your ability to succeed then listening to your voices of doubt. 

About the Author

What would you do with the secrets of the world’s top achievers? Would you level up your income? Your business? Your opportunities? Now you can find out because those secrets are now available to you.

Over the last two decades Douglas Vermeeren has conducted extensive first hand research into the lives of the worlds top achievers. He has the success strategies of top business leaders from Nike, Reebok, Fruit of the Loom, FedEx, KFC, United Airlines, Microsoft, Disney and others to share with you. ABC television and FOX Business refer to him as the modern Day Napoleon Hill. 

In addition, he is the producer and director of 3 out of 10 of the top personal development movies ever made. He is the producer of The Opus (featuring Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen, Joe Vitale, John Demartini, Marci Shimoff, Morris Goodman, Bob Doyle and others.) The Gratitude Experiment (Bob Proctor, Marie Diamond, John Demartini, John Gray) and The Treasure Map (John Demartini, Loral Langemeier, Raymond Aaron, Marshall Sylver, Randy Gage.)

He has authored 3 books in the Guerrilla marketing series and is the CEO of The Excel Leadership Academy which provides leadership training to many of the worlds top companies.

He is a regular featured expert on FOX, CNN, ABC, NBC, CTV, CBC, The Huffington Post, NY Daily News and others.

For more info go to http://www.DouglasVermeeren.com

Our Natural Way is Negative – Bam#9

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Our natural way is negative – BAM# 9
By Douglas Vermeeren

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It doesn’t take long to see the negativity in the world around us. It seems everywhere you go there is negativity reported in the media, negative posts about people on facebook, gossip slander, haters and trolls online and whispering criticism at work, school and even in homes. It is a very difficult world to navigate if you are hoping to stay positive and surround yourself with inspiring people. Yet it is possible and even when surrounded with negative people it is possible to stay positive if you recognize why negativity is such a big part of our life.

Much of our tendency to become negative can be easily traced back to our human ancestors. Negativity is a form of survival. In order to stay alive our early human ancestors had to be very aware of threats tot heir survival and existence. As a result they had to become suspicious of things that we take for granted. In a world where so many things could be a threat it became necessary to be on the defensive. I guess you could say that our ancestors became so good at it that it became par tot our natural out look.

As things evolved and progressed survival became easier but the habit of being on guard stayed with us. Our environment – parents, community, society – had been trained to be on the look out for negativity and was determined to point it out. Often times the intention is still to protect those we interact with. Think of the last time you spoke ill of someone else to others. Was it specifically to bash the person being talked about it was it to protect the person you were talking to. In my case, I was at an event and someone told me about the history of another speaker. They warned me by illustrating a negative experience they had had with this person. Naturally you and I are wise enough to recognize that there are two sides to every story and often times simple misunderstandings can be blown out of proportion publicly and privately. But I did recognize as this person spoke to me that their interest was more in line to protect me rather than destroy the person I was being warned about.

So how can we control our response to the negativity around us? How can we remain focused on the positive How can we be inspiring ourselves? How can we shine like a light in a tunnel of darkness?

I have two suggestions.

1.Recognize the negativity for what it is and where it’s coming from. In doing so I want to be very clear! This does not mean endorsing it. This does not mean participating to empathize with the other person. This does not mean feeding it in any way. In fact, recognizing the negativity is as simple as saying that you see what’s happening and what the source is. It’s like wet paint. It’s possible to know the paint is wet without touching it. Especially if the sign is big and clear. (But just like with the wet paint the temptation to touch is there. Don’t touch.)

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2. Remove yourself. Continuing the analogy of the wet paint you would stick your fingers in it and draw pictures or sit down in the paint. You would leave it alone. Like the paint the minute you touch it it is on you too. Negativity also sticks to those who stick their fingers in it. Often times it may feel difficult to remove yourself. Especially when the person sharing the negativity has you engaged in a conversation. However I have found that if you don’t feed their negativity or endorse what they are saying they soon discontinue. (As a side note it has been interesting to feel the emotion that accompanies this awkward moment when the other person doesn’t engage in the negativity. It’s slightly embarrassing and often the person being negative tries to backtrack or recall what has been said. These emotions alone should give you evidence to recognize that this kind of talk is not on the right track.)

3.Realign yourself. Once you have left the negative situation it is important to realign yourself to your positive state and mission. This is something I recommend you do often anyways as there are so many times in a day that we interact with negative circumstances and situations that often we don’t even know we’ve encountered it.Realigning yourself is almost like washing off whatever negativity happened to sneeze on you without your control. You don’t want to be influenced by the negativity in any way.

Remaining positive in a negative world requires effort. It also requires constant addition of positive to your life. One analogy I like to use in our seminars in regards to being positive is this. Everyone is like a glass of water that is full of everything we let into our life. Most people have a mixture of positive and negative. This glass is also the lens through which we see the world. (But more on that later.) The glass is full and the only way to get more positive than negative and to keep the negative out is to fill the glass so full of positive that there is no room for negative.

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My challenge to you is to find more positive today and fill your glass with positive everyday. And every time you encounter negative follow the escape and cleaning route outlined above – Recognize, Remove, Realign.

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The 3 people who determine how your day will be – BAM #7

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The 3 people who determine how your day will be – BAM #7
By Douglas Vermeeren

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I’ve got a strange hypothesis but so far it’s turning out to be very true. If you want to create an awesome life which is defined as follows:

An Awesome life is living your life by decision. You are where you want to be, doing the things that excite you, inspire you and bring out the best in you and in those around you.

Then you’ll want to know about this interesting key that I’ve stumbled upon.

Each day there seem to be 3 people who have a signifiant impact on how your day will flow. (Naturally these three people do not include you, how you respond and react is generally based on your interaction with these three.) The 3 people I am referring to are the three first interactions you have as you wake up.

For most people those at least one out of the three people are online as they check their email. Immediately the nature of that interaction sets your pattern for the day rolling. If its a negative interaction, or one that leaves you feeling hurt, defensive, frustrated or even angry the ball for the day has been set in motion. As I interviewed 400 of the world’s top achievers one surprising thing that I found is that they do not check their email or social media the moment they wake up. They let other activities and interactions begin their day. Checking emails and social media is a reactionary activity anyhow and starting the day that way immediately puts you in a response mode rather than a mindset where you are in control of you life.

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The second group that a lot of people interact with first when they wake up is the media. They turn on the news and naturally the news is not filled with good news. It is usually a recap of the terrible things that happened in the world while you were sleeping. This negativity does not create an inspiring situation to wake up to. One of my students admitted that she used to start the day immediately with the news and it often put thoughts into her head about whether or not it would even be safe to leave the house that day. While I will admit there are things you need to know about the news often doesn’t share them in a way that informs. They are most often inclined to shock. Most of what you need to know you are going to find out inevitably. I don’t watch the news very often. And nowadays most people find out about important happenings through social media any ways.

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The final and most important group of people you interact with when you begin the day are your family. I wish I could say that every “good Morning” is met with excitement and a cheery smile, but we all know that isn’t always the case. A negative experience at home can affect the entire rest of the day and slow down productivity. A friend of mine had an employee once who had a difficult home life and most often she came to work in the morning numb and trying to figure out whether or not she should be filing for divorce that day. Eventually he let her go and she did get her divorce. Negative family circumstances can weigh heavily upon us and they affect all aspects of our thinking.

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However, people in our family can be supportive and positive too. They can bring out the best in us and inspire us to seek out our best self. I have been very privileged over the last year and a half to have my grand babies at my house regularly in the morning. They have helped me to start the day off great with games and dancing. We have treats and create what they call a party first thing in the morning. It is just time we get together. No email, media or anyone else. I highly recommend this.

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My wife comes and joins us as she is ready and no one feels rushed. She loves to see these babies too first thing too. Everyone is in a good mood.

As its time for me to leave the house for meetings of the day it doesn’t matter as much what negativity, challenges or problems come my way to solve. I am fully charged on positive and awesome and ready to take on the day.

I compare this to how things used to be in my life. When I started with a negative influence I would begin the day in a grumpy mood and that carried over into my activities of the day. I did not feel inspired and I was not always agreeable.

So while you may not have grand children to make you smile first thing in the morning, I still want to share this powerful principle. Find something positive to begin your day with. Be the one in control of your day and don’t be reactionary. Establish and charge up who you want to be before you have others outside of your home that you need to interact with.

And remember that an Awesome life is found in the small things!

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You are in control – That’s why you can be awesome BAM #6

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You are in control – That’s why you can be awesome BAM #6
By Douglas Vermeeren

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An Awesome life is living your life by decision. You are where you want to be, doing the things that excite you, inspire you and bring out the best in you and in those around you.

It’s not uncommon to hear people say that something was not their fault, they were the victim of circumstances, they had no choice or that someone else made them do something. Often one of these phrase is their reason that they are not taking accountability for their own lives or their justification for doing nothing.

Essentially these excuses do three things:

The first is that they eliminate the necessity to make choices. Choices in life are often difficult. Sometimes it is possible to make a wrong choice. When we make a choice or a decision something in your life will change. Change is not always easy. Change is also unpredictable and frightening. You are stepping into the unknown and entering a new situation you have never encountered before. Rather than face this fear or potentially make a bad choice people with a victim mentality choose to make an excuse instead. What they don’t realize is that not making a choice is a choice for naught. In other words when they do not make a choice of yes they are automatically saying no. When they make no choice at all it is indeed a choice.

If you aren’t proactively making a choice to reach out for an awesome life you are automatically making a choice to settle for average.

There is a big lie that many believe and that is that if we don’t take action and make a choice we get to start where we are. The truth is the world around you is changing a lightening speed. If you don’t make a choice you get left behind. Nothing is ever going to stay the same. Think of technology as a great example. Blockbuster video tried to stay with the model of renting dvds from a brick and mortar store while everything was shifting online. The ignored the outside signals and chose to try and resist change. What happened to them?

The second is that excuses release you from accountability. (Or so you think.) There are two kinds of sins in this world. Sins of commission which are things you do wrong by your actions or words. Then there are sins of omission, things you knew better and you should have done but you chose not to. You mean you can do something wrong by not taking action? Absolutely.Did you know that neglect is actually a form of abuse? Neglect is a sin of omission. Not only do people get hurt when those who have the ability to help do nothing you are violating one of the laws of being awesome – leave things better than you found them. Imagine if you knew a bank was going to be robbed and you had the power to either stop them or at least report it to someone and yet you did not. Would you be guilty of what would happen next? YES. Under the California Penal code 31 it is called aiding and abetting a crime. (Other areas have similar laws.) Under this law you can be charged for knowing and not doing anything, even if you were not present when the crime took place.

Edmund Burke put it best when he said, “The only thing needed for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing.” The same can be said of your life if you do nothing – you get nothing. It’s that simple.

Lastly, some think that excuses keep them from having to work hard. There is an old saying when it comes to money (but applies to many other things too.) It goes like this: “You can pay now and play later or you can play now and pay later with interest.” Life always has a way of requiring you to work hard for the things you have or wish to create. Some people look for short cuts and in the end paying far more than they needed to. The best way as with things in life is make payment instalments. In other words pay as you go. When you make a commitment to an awesome life you make payments in regularly along the way. An awesome life is built one brick at a time and that’s what secures it in place. The requirement is consistent effort and diligent care.

Those making excuses mistakenly feel that they are excusing themselves from these efforts. What you needed to create today becomes an emergency tomorrow when you need in the future.

In conclusion I want to point out that you are in control. If you have been taking short cuts and making excuses in the past you can change your approach right now.If you know in your heart of things that you need to make choices about and let go of excuses holding you back – do it! The present is called the present because it really is a gift. Now is the best time to get started living the life you deserve and want. So why not get started?

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Powerful Thinking Powerful Results – New Website now LIVE!

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Powerful Thinking Powerful Results

Powerful Thinking Powerful Results

Powerful Thinking Powerful Results – New Website now LIVE!

The new Website for the TV show Powerful Thinking Powerful Results is now live. The Television show Powerful Thinking Powerful Results is focused on exploring insights into the psychology of success and how to harness the power of thought to create better outcomes in the real world.

The show is hosted by Douglas Vermeeren, a top personal development teacher often thought of as the modern day Napoleon Hill (Think and Grow rich) for  his research into the lives of more than 400 of the world’s top achievers. His research differs from Hills in that Vermeerens research focused on understanding the achievers cognitive reasoning rather than external behaviours. Vermeeren also explored a wide range of industries and business models that did not exist in Napoleon Hills day. Vermeeren has shared the findings from his research in several books, movies and at live training events.  Vermeeren is probably best known as the producer behind the Hit film ‘The Opus’ featuring many other top personal development teachers like Jack Canfield, Dr. John Demartini, Dr. Joe Vitale, Marci Shimoff, Mark Victor Hansen, Bob doyle, Morris Goodman, Bill Bartmann  and others.

The show Powerful Thinking Powerful Results will explore further the importance of our  thinking in order to create the desired outcomes in our lives. The show begins airing Spring of 2012 on Canadian television with dates in the US, UK and Australia to follow.

This website features many new and useful tools in regards to the show. Some of the features include information about:

TV Program schedule

Live programs

Appearances and events

Online programs

Information on show sponsors

Facebook links

Blog links

and more.

The site also features an opportunity for free gifts based on information from the show.  In the near future the site will also feature behind the scenes videos (including exclusive footage not included in the regular series) a photo gallery and exclusive tools for application of show principles. This Official site is a one stop location for all information on the show. Be sure to check it out  www.PowerfulThinkingPowerfulResults.com

 

 

Money cannot solve Money problems!

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Money cannot solve Money problems

Money cannot solve Money problems

Money cannot solve money problems

By Douglas Vermeeren

Money cannot solve money problems. Yes, that’s what I said. No doubt you are shaking your head saying ‘this Vermeeren guy has really lost it this time. That doesn’t make any sense.’ Naturally our first assumption is that any and all problems created by a lack of money ought to be able to be solved by simply throwing a few bucks at it. Simple right?

Wrong.

The financial problems that most individuals and families face find a root much deeper than on the surface. All financial problems, like financial successes are first born inside. All financial situations begin first in your mind.

Thoughts are drawn like gravity to lower an less productive results. So when you decide that you would rather not give direction or leadership to your thoughts they naturally settle to the lowest possibilities. The real problem isn’t a lack of funds. The real problem is a lack of constructive, empowering and wealthy thinking.

One of my favorite sports is scuba diving. In diving we learn of the principle of buoyancy. Buoyancy is simple the measurement of an objects ability to float or sink. If it stays in the middle and doesn’t sink or float it is considered neutrally buoyant. Our thoughts are similar and different in one significant way. We have positive thoughts that empower us and allow us to create the lives we want and deserve. Negative thinking is just like what it sounds. Thoughts that pulls us down and frustrate our ability to be great. Neutral thinking also exists. In fact, this is where most people spend most of their time. They are thinking neither positive or negative.  However, when it comes to thinking we won’t just rest neutrally in the middle. As  the world moves around us our thoughts that are neutral keep us from participating and making any progress. The result: Negative results.

You see it isn’t enough to just avoid being negative. You actually have to do something positive and proactive to change your situation or it will not change.

This is where most people run into their money problems that we started talking about at the beginning. You see, we could cut you a check to cover of all your debts and put you on the road to easy street, but until you understood the power of being highly proactive and positive you would fall right off that road. You have got to believe that you can stay on the road yourself and begin to think about things that will repair and change your situation. The more effort you spent thinking about this objective the more resources will appear to help you accomplish that mission.

So what can you do about all this? The only two ways to fix a financially dismal life is to either spend less money or make more money. The answers as to how to do that come from your thinking. Here are few thoughts:

What thoughts have I been holding onto about my financial situation that is keeping me from solving it? Why do I feel I need to be poor? Take a careful look at what things you are simply not paying attention to that are costing you money. Where is money disappearing for late fees, interest charges, unnecessary credit fees?  How can I change this? What are you passively spending your money on without thought? etc. etc. etc.

How can I make more money? I prefer this route because to be honest I like to spend lots of money on things that maybe some people would think are foolish. What gifts and talents do I have that can be shared for profit? Where are you spending your most productive hours? How can you use these hours to build additional income streams?

Start inside your thoughts to look differently at your financial problems. From your thoughts everything can change. The problem for most people is they look outside for answers when the truth of the matter is they have all the solutions inside them already.

Money problems are never about the money.

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For more tips on how what you believe about money can make a difference check out the new book The Millionaire Myth and 21 things you believe about money that keep you from being rich!

 

 

 

 

 

Douglas Vermeeren is the director of the SUCCEED Research Center which is dedicated to sharing research on the systems that top achievers use to create lasting success. Over the last decade Vermeeren has conducted research on more than 400 of the world’s top achievers, including business leaders, celebrities and professional or Olympic athletes. Douglas Vermeeren is the author of Guerrilla Achiever (With Jay Levinson) and the creator of The Opus (with Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen, Dr. Joe Vitale, Dr. John Demartini, Dr. Sue Morter, Marci Shimoff, Bill Bartmann, Bob Doyle and Morris Goodman.) Doug is also the creator of the Millionaire Experience.

Currently Doug is completing another film entitled, How Thoughts Become Things. This film will explore the process of how our thoughts become manifest in our lives as reality.  For more on this film go to: www.HowThoughtsBecomeThings.com For more on Douglas Vermeeren go to: www.SucceedResearch.com Douglas Vermeeren can be reached for speaking engagements and training at 1.877.393.9496.