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Douglas Vermeeren – Our best self gives us our best outcomes.

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Often the decisions we make day to day come either from habit (the decisions that we always make without thinking) or our of crisis or necessity (urgent pressing matters that need our attention.) As a result the outcomes that we experiences and the consequences they bring pretty much keep us where we have always been or put us in a state of stress. Very seldom are accidental decisions likely to create powerful outcomes for us.

Douglas Vermeeren PPM 31As decisions are the important transition moment of bring our thoughts into reality it is important that the important ones be made with care. We cannot randomly approach important issues and expect that they will take us to our best results.

Within each of us is a better self. We have caught glimpses of that person from time to time. We know he or she is there and quite frankly eager to get out. When we are our best self we feel great and inspired. We know that this best self has important contributions to make to our wellbeing and the world around us.  However to have that best-self come forward requires effort. Our best self doesn’t automatically appear unless we proactively decide to allow them forward.

Most often we settle to have our average self solve problems quickly because we are Impatient.  We allow our average self to maintain relationships because its quicker. We let our average self rush through our day because they are more or less efficient and its comfortable.

While this may work occasionally it rarely gives us the life we really want and deserve.

You will soon find that getting your best self to make decisions will make your life easier and more rewarding although it requires more effort at first.

The next time you are making an important decision ask yourself am I settling with the choice my average self is making or is my best self choosing the best path?

Warning: Mos tot the time the decisions your best self would make will take more time, more effort and more commitment. But as the old saying goes it’s better to do something right the first time than to have to repeat it.

 

Successful Decisions? Douglas Vermeeren

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Why don’t we manage to get tour goals even when we make decisions that seem really good?

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Results – Are they really on the way for YOU? Bam #10

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Results – Are they really on the way for you?


By Douglas Vermeeren of Personal Power Mastery

There are five areas of life where people try and achieve results. These areas are: Self (meaning in the areas of how they feel about themselves and their inner most desires), Spirituality and their connection to spirit, Health and elements associated wight heir physical nature, Relationships and interactions with others and lastly Abundance which has to do not just with money but includes aspect of their work, business, free time and more.

How many paths are there to achieve a goal?
In my seminars I ask students to select a goal that they’d like to achieve one of these areas. Once you have your goal selected think carefully before you answer this next question. How many paths are there to this goal? In my seminars people share all kinds of numbers as to how many paths they feel there are to accomplish there goal. But the truth is that there is only one actually path but what makes it seem like there could be many paths comes down to the tools that are used to accomplish each step on the path.

No matter what a persons goals are for the results they want in life there is only one path.

Let me illustrate with this example, the path is like a road yet you can choose what vehicle you will drive on the road.

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To share what the path and also what that path effects and eventually includes it is also important to first identify that achieving results is not the first step on the path. In fact, it is not the end destination either.

Watch below to see where Results actually fits in. Here’s the path:

Thinking leads to Beliefs to Emotion to Goals & Decisions to Actions to Results

The ripples caused by your original thinking do not end here. As your actions begin to create results in the real world they affect the following:

Your results first effect You then Your Family then Your Immediate Network then Your Community or Tribe then (And this has changed a lot since the invention of the internet) now the World and onward to the Universe.

More later on how you actually affect the Universe. This one will surprise you:

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(We will go into greater detail on definitions of these in the future)

Some of the effects of your action are certainly more noticeable than others and some of your actions have more profound effects on those around you than others. But there is a concept called the Butterfly effect which states that all things are effect eventually even by the smallest of actions like a butterfly flapping its wings.

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For todays purposes it is important to recognize that this path of getting to results meaning, Thinking to create Beliefs which create Emotions Which cause goals & Decisions which create Actions which produce Results, this is the same for everyone. There wis only one way to create results and this is it. Even if the results you are creating happen as part of a team or delegation the early steps from thought to decision are still included. There is only one way.
Where people get the idea that there are different ways is that there are definitely differences in thoughts , beliefs, emotions, goals and actions that produce those results. If we were to look again at the analogy of road being the path. The differences of how a person moves along that path could be compared to the mode of transportation. Some people are walking and very slowly I might add, others are driving a high powered sports car.

As you grow more successful in your ability to drive this path you graduate to faster and more effective vehicles. As you are more creative in your approach and do things that others won’t, can’t or don’t think of the vehicle you select also improves. As you enlist the help of others in your journey your vehicle also improves and so does the quality of the ride.

 

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Douglas Vermeeren

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Are you ready to level up? You’ve come to the right place. Douglas Vermeeren is considered one of the top leaders in personal development and achievement psychology. He is considered by many to be the modern day Napoleon Hill for his extensive research into the lives and psychology of more than 400 of the world’s top achievers. He has compiled these  lessons along with the psychology that creates success into a powerful seminar series called PERSONAL POWER MASTERY  www.DouglasVermeeren.com http://www.PersonalPowerMasteryEvent.com

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2013 New Years message

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New year is a time when many people are creating resolutions and planning for the upcoming year. Many people set new goals and make commitments to stop doing some of the things that they think have been holding them back. These  resolutions often spark a giggle because most people know that they are not going to be that effective or long lasting.

 

So what can you do to increase your effectiveness in 2013?  Here are a few thoughts:

 

1)Don’t focus on stopping – focus on starting and doing better. When we focus on stopping a specific behavior it can be difficult. Those behaviors have become habits already. Habits are difficult to change unless we have something better to replace them with. By focusing on the stopping the negative habits of the past we also bring more attention to the negative into our lives. We would get greater value by determining what the positive new traits and habits we wait are and them seek those out so strongly that they crowd out the negative. In other words, set goals for what you WILL do this year, not resolutions for what you will not do this year. And I should also add that progress and productivity are not a matter of doing more. Progress and productivity are a matter of doing better. To become wealthy, more successful, a top achiever or whatever your goals is you must constantly be on the hunt for more effective strategies.

 

2)Put a plan in place -When you have some ideas of what you want to accomplish this year put a place in place that can be turned into specific action. The primary reason why most goals never get accomplished can be traced down to the fact that there is no system, follow up or path towards completion every contemplated. Don’t be content to just say “I’d like to…” Follow up your declarations and decisions with a plan. What can you do starting today? A purpose without a plan is not progress.

 

3)Take action now – Even with a plan in place you need to get started. Action is the ingredient that transforms all ideas from a mind into reality. Without action you cannot have a new reality. It may sound simple but for most people it is not. They often wait for conditions to be perfect or at least more ideal. Don’t wait. Conditions will never be ideal. But as you take actions conditions will change.  Top achievers do not wait for conditions, they create them. You must do the same. You must be willing to act in faith on what could be, not what already is. Do not search for ideal conditions, search for possibilities. You may remember something I said in The Opus Movie, “Top achievers are not perfectionists, they are improvisors.” I believe this is crucial. Don’t wait for ideal or perfect conditions to act. Get started today!

 

I hope these three thoughts have given you some thoughts to consider as you look at how you begin to approach 2013, but remember it doesn’t require a new year to make a change. Change is not attached to a specific date on a calendar. You can set goals and resolutions at any time. So don’t be afraid to come back and reevaluate and readjust later on this year. The key is to think carefully about what you really want and the get moving in that direction.

 

Happy New Year and make the best of 2013!

And all the best from my family to yours!

Douglas Vermeeren

Douglas Vermeeren, Millionaire Mentor

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Set your New Years goals right!

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Set your New Years goals right

By Douglas Vermeeren 

New Years is a special time of year where people think about setting new goals and making some changes. Maybe you’ve got some ideas for new years resolutions. Maybe you’ve already started to think and plan about what you’ll do next year to be a better you. To get the outcomes you really want and maybe you’ve even thought about some things that you want to stop doing too.

In Japan it is considered the most important holiday of the year. IN the Buddhist temples that gong their large bells 180 times at midnight to symbolize overcoming the 180  human weaknesses.

In Spain they eat 12 grapes at midnight to symbolize the hope of 12 happy and prosperous months in the year to come. The dutch actually select that as the night to burn their christmas trees in the streets symbolic of purging the old year and bringing in the new. The chinese set off fireworks in hopes that the loud noises will scare away the evil spirits and pave the way for a prosperous new year.

In the US a traditional new years day dinner is supposed to include peas, because as the tradition goes the more peas you eat the more luck and fortune you will have in the upcoming year.

But a tradition that everyone is familiar with is said to have started with the ancient babylonians nearly 3000 years before the coming of Christ. That is the tradition of setting New years resolutions.

We’ve all set new years resolutions. some of those resolutions may have lasted a month, some a week, some a day and perhaps some only hours. I remember when I was a young child I set a resolution that I was going to stay up all night and never go to bed again. Sleeping I thought wasted time. That one lasted a few hours.

Most people set resolutions to lose weight, eat less or better, stop smoking, make more money, work on their relationships, work harder at work or any number of things. Yet most people end up pretty much right back where they were in a short period of time. So why is it that these resolutions don’t stick.

A few years ago USA today had an interesting article on why most people fail to fulfill their new years resolutions. They narrowed it down to three main reasons and we are going to spend some time talking about each of these today and then discuss a formula that will work a little bit better for you.

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Here’s the first reason that they felt people failed to accomplish their new Years resolutions:

  1. The resolutions was too large or unrealistic.

Sometimes it’s pretty easy to get caught up in the excitement and spirit of an upcoming new year. that new year represents a lear slate or a fresh start. Kind of like the first day of school. Along with the problem of being too large or unrealistic I’d like to add one more that USA today left out but I think it should certainly be included: Resolutions often also fail because they are based on things out of our control. That may go along with unrealistic, but I think it is worth emphasizing. Often people set goals or resolutions and they build them around things that they have no control over or in extreme cases they set goals that infringe on the rights of others. For example, we had one mother who attended one of our seminars and her goal was to make her kids love her more. Here’s a hint anytime you set a goal that has the words “make someone” in it, you are most likely setting yourself up for failure. For a goal to be effective It has to begin with you and it cannot rely on the reactions of another. Now in the end if you learn better relationship skills those kids may end up liking you better, but that outcome really has to begin with you.

Some times we can set goals that are too large for us. I am not against setting large goals. But If we look at how the mind sorts information, it is necessary for the brain to recognize a path to accomplishment in order to get started. If the goal is too lofty the brain doesn’t believe it’s possible. You might get excited to begin the process, but the minute your brain can’t see the next step to take you will become paralyzed and progress will stop. If you are ultimately aiming for a big goal, break it down into smaller tasks that you can attack right away and that you can feel that you are making progress with.

Unrealistic goals are also something that keep us from succeeding. Not too long ago I had a young man at one of our Christmas high school presentations tell me that this coming year was his year to become a famous rock star. We talked about this for a while and naturally the subject turned to his music. I was surprised to find that not only did he not have any songs written, but he didn’t play an instrument.  When I asked his musically ability he told me that most famous musicians didn’t take lessons they were discovered and details weren’t important. While I really hope he does make it, I am not sure that he will. It is not enough to simply believe a thing will happen you have got to find ways of increasing the probability that the outcome you want will occur.   If there’s one lesson I have constantly tried to teach is that your life will not be a result of your wishes, it will be a result of your ability to translate your wishes into real life. If you want to have your goals become more realistic that will almost always mean a change form where you are at in your life. Get more skills, surround yourself with people and situations that can help you, and do whatever you can to increase the likihood that you will be able to take advantage of those opportunities.

The second reason on the USA today list was that most people were not heavily committed to the resolution. Because setting new years resolutions are a tradition we often find that a lot of people simply set them because, well, everyone else is. And then of course you don’t end up doing anything about it.  I think this is a big mistake. What you are teaching yourself is that when I set out to do something it really doesn’t matter whether you do it or not. As I have observed all of the top achievers that I have worked with through out the years I have noticed that they make their commitments sparingly, but they honor every commitment they make. Even to themselves.

I am not saying don’t make resolutions. I am saying make it count for something. Put some thought into it, and i you can’t come up with something that you really feel that you want to do, then don’t.

And if there is something that you really want to do, then turn up the volume on your commitment factor. Really get invested in making the change.  ONe of the strongest ways to do that is to spend some significant time exploring why you want this outocme in your life. What’s the difference that this outcome would really make. Who would it effect and how? And when you have these answers and they are strong enough and this is something that you want to do, then do it!!!

Get in fully. don’t look back. Make the change.

Sometimes it helps to involve other people in the process just to solidify the commitment. A good accountability partner can help you to stay on track and keep going as you hit barriers and challenging moments. Remember that it generally takes 28 days to build a new habit so that beginning part of the journey is going to be the hardest.

The 3rd reason on the USA today study is that people fail in their resolutions because they have no plan.

As we said earlier in this call, the brain requires specific instructions to get started. If you set a goal and then don’t have any idea what to do with that goal to get started your brain will soon discard that goal. Now I’m not saying you have to have all of the answers figured out to begin. You won’t.

In fact many of the answers of what you will need to o won’t even show up until you are doing it. But you need to have some starting points and an understanding of the general direction you are going. We are all human beings that are constantly evolving and growing. A static stationary plan seldom works. I like what Mike Tyson said, ‘Everyone has plan until he gets punched in the mouth.’ Plans and real life don’t mix very well.

Plans are important and they put you moving in the right direction. Plans may change and will change. But they are necessary to see where you are going.

Dwight Eisenhower said it best this way, “Plans are nothing, Planning is everything.”

Plans won’t provide all the answers but they will provide the direction. Direction is always more important than destination. Because the truth of the matter is the destination often changes. When you get to the top of the mountain, it’s never the end. In fact, when we get to the top we get to see where we want to go next.

Direction is the key. Get the direction right and you can’t miss.  By the way another reason I think that direciton is more important that a fixed destination is because I often change my destination on route. As I am moving towards a goal I often become aware of many opportunities I never knew about until I was involved in following my first direction. As I am moving forward I have more than once seen something that I liked better, was more capable of doing, or found to be more exciting and profitable than what I originally wanted.

The key is to get started. don’t worry about direction. Don’t worry about having all the answers.

The next time you feel like you need all the answer to get started think about this:

Top Achievers are not perfectionists, They are improvisors. Get started and the answers will come as you are doing it.

So as we approach the beginning of another year it is an important time to think about changes you may want to make. These improvements can be large or they can be small. They can be something that you’ve needed to do for a long time coming or they can be things that you’ve newly realized. The only thing constant about life is change.  Now is the time to look at how you can be on the edge of change for this year rather than under the wave of it.

This coming year can be your most incredible year yet. To make it so, remember these three things 1)Make your resolutions realistic, break down the big goals into ones that are actionable right now, and make sure that they are goals that you can control and don’t rely on the violating the rights of others.

2)Make sure you are committed and if you’re not pass, until you find something you are committed to. By the way, you were aware that you can decide to change something in your life anytime, you don’t have to wait for new years.

3)Have a plan in place, not that you are going to be married to it, but that so you have some direction as to where you need to go and to shout at you if you get too far off course.

Now how can you really get to your goals? How can you really set resolutions that stick.  Here are a few simple points to consider that will go a long way for you.

  1. Make sure you are doing it for the right reasons. In other words choose to set a resolution about something that means something to you. In the Movie the Godfather Marlon Brando says, It’s not personal, It’s business. In setting effective goals it must be the opposite. It can’t be business. It must be personal. You have got to have a burning reason why this goal is important to you and why you need it in your life.

You can’t participate from a distance. You can’t be a spectator. You are a player on the ice. (Pardon the Hockey analogy, remember I am Canadian after all.) But seriously you must be fully invested in the outcome.

As a side note if you are a manager of people this is important to remember.  You ever wonder why productivtiy is sometimes down in a n office? It’s because the manager often assigns people their goals. You cannot assign people their goals. They must pick them. They can’t be invested in goals that are assigned to them.

So principle one – Make it personal.

2)The second thing I’d suggest is that you need to get really clear about the resolution or goal. I am not just talking about getting clear with what it is that you want. – That is very important. You can’t hit a target you can’t see. You need to be fully aware of what you want and more importantly the direction you need to go to get it. But something that many people forget when it comes to getting to your goals and creating better outcomes is that clarity is also required when it comes to understanding what to do first.

If you don’t know what you should do first you can often get paralyzed and not do anything at all. Get clear. What is it you want and what can you do right now. A goal that is specific and clear is attainable and near. Generally you can tell if a goal is too large when you can’t recognize the first steps to take.

A friend of mine shared an interesting analogy once. He held an elastic band around his wrist and as he stretched it said, this elastic is kind of like goal setting. If it’s too easy it has no tension. It is too far or unrealistic I pull the elastic too far and it breaks. But if it’s tight it has tension and the power to pull me.  Goals should be like that.

The final thing I’d like to mention that will make the biggest difference in getting to your goals is to seek for ways Increase your probability. Aristotle once said, that which is probable is most likely to happen. So if we want to get to our goals we really need to find a way to make it more probable that the outcome will occur. You’ll remember my high school student who wanted to be a rock star? Well, there are a lot of things that he could do to increase his probabilty. The first might be to go learn an instrument, write some songs, get out performing, meet the right people and start doing the right things. Nowadays, it’s very possible for people to use tools like social media and the interenet to build audiences and followings for musicians. And who knows maybe things will take off in a big way. But you won’t ever know unless you give yourself the best possible chances for success. And that begins with increasing probability.

Remember these three things From USA Today 1)Make your resolutions realistic, break down the big goals into ones that are actionable right now, and make sure that they are goals that you can control and don’t rely on the violating the rights of others.

2)Make sure you are committed and if you’re not pass, until you find something you are committed to. By the way, you were aware that you can decide to change something in your life anytime, you don’t have to wait for new years.

3)Have a plan in place, not that you are going to be married to it, but that so you have some direction as to where you need to go and to shout at you if you get too far off course.

And from me:

  1. Make it personal, do it for the right reasons. Give yourself several big reasons why you want, need and must have these changes in your life. If you reasons are small your results will be small. Your results are always a reflection of your reasons.
  1. Get clear. Clarity is king. Your brain absolutely needs a clear path to get to work. You need to be clear about what it is you want and also clear about what it is you need to do to get started. Now again I’m not saying you have to have all of the answers. But you have to know the first step, and from there the next steps will appear. You’ve probably heard the analogy of a car driving with headlights in the dark. The road appears in your headlights as you need it. The same is true of achievement. You won’t have all the answers at the beginning but you’ll have them as you need them.
  1. And lastly, the most important achievement principle that i could share. Look for ways to increase your probability. Notice I didn’t say find a way to do it perfectly. Increasing probability means that you will have occassional set backs. This is natural you are learning something new. You are doing something you’ve never done before. But keep going. There is no such thing as failure or falling down. Everything is falling forward. everything you do is  a step in the right direction. There are no wrong answers only discoveries about a better way to move forward. Keep moving forward. Keep increasing your probability and you will arrive.

Remember you have great potential. This new year is a fresh beginning. In fact, each day is a new beginning. Tomorrow is. One minute from now is. You don’t live in the past. You don’t really live in the future either although we are heading there quickly. You live in the moment of now. And if now is the time to change then get started.