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The Success Secret no One else will tell you

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Do you have this Secret of Success?

Do you have this Secret of Success?

The Success Secret no one else will tell you

By Douglas Vermeeren

Everywhere you look today you can find promises of new products, books or classes that will teach you how to create incredible and immeasurable success. The success they promise may be the changes you want in the areas of increased abundance, improvements in your relationships, optimal health, greater self esteem and even increased spirituality.  While many of these products and programs offer valuable information and insights for creating success they are generally missing something. If you want to create success that will last this final ingredient may be the most important of all.

The success secret that is rarely talked about is kindness.

Although this principle is rarely eluded to in the success library of today it is common in all of the philosophical and religious materials of the world. Variations of the golden rule, to do unto others as you would have them do unto you, appear in the philosophies of almost all religions. The earliest record being that of the ancient Babylonians in a text called the Code of Hammurabi purportedly written in 1780 BCE.

Perhaps, because we have heard it so often we have taken it for granted.

While quick money and easy victories can be made without kindness, only kindness and consideration of others builds a sure foundation. As you do unto others as you would have them do unto you, they generally do it.

You’ve probably heard it said in jest that the golden rule is simply ‘he that has the gold makes the rules.’ But the opposite is actually the truth; he who knows and keeps the golden rule eventually gets to keep the gold.

Kindness allows for relationships of growth and trust. Kindness fosters a spirit of  cooperation and collaboration. Kindness breeds creativity and best results. When we feel that we will be valued and treated with kindness we bring forth our very best. On the other hand, greed and self centeredness cause a business, organization, community, family and even an individual to shrink rather than expand.

You’ve heard the saying that ‘nice guys finish last?’ Nice guys may take longer to build something, but they receive the privilege of being permitted to finish. When you engage in dishonesty or manipulation, you may fool people once but you will rarely get a second chance to do so. Success is about creating something that will last and endure. Something that a mean spirited and self centered person will never get to experience.

Kindness is not just about being cordial, polite and politically correct. It is about being of service, leaving someone better than you found them and improving things wherever you go. Kindness does not mean doing everything for everyone, everywhere and every time. It means being filled with a desire to see yourself and others succeed and then doing appropriate things with consideration in an empowering way. Learning how to establish proper boundaries is an act of kindness. Kindness includes using wisdom. Kindness arrives often in the little things and comes from character more than pocketbook.

Kindness is not necessarily found in solving problems. It is found in pointing the way to solutions and giving hope.

Your rewards in life will be proportionate to your ability to be of service and improve the world around you. Opportunities for service and improvement rarely come with labels attached. You need to actively look for these. I challenge you to go on a quest to spread kindness and consideration. As you do so success will become yours.

Douglas Vermeeren is the director of the SUCCEED Research Center which is dedicated to sharing research on the systems that top achievers use to create lasting success. Over the last decade Vermeeren has conducted research into the cognition and behavior of more than 400 of the world’s top achievers, including business leaders, celebrities and professional or Olympic athletes. Douglas Vermeeren is the author of Guerrilla Achiever (With Jay Levinson) and the creator of The Opus. Currently Doug is completing another film entitled, How Thoughts Become Things. This film will explore the process of how our thoughts become manifest in our lives as reality.  For more on this film go to: www.HowThoughtsBecomeThings.com For more on Douglas Vermeeren go to: www.SucceedResearch.com Douglas Vermeeren can be reached for speaking engagements and training at 1.877.393.9496.

Can a single word create Greater Success?

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Can you keep the secret of success a secret?

Can you keep the secret of success a secret?

By Douglas Vermeeren

Our words are one of the most powerful tools we have to convey our wants, desires, motives, intentions and expectations. Our words are more powerful than we give them credit for. Our words are responsible for much of our thought construction.

Rudyard Kipling, Author of the famous book, “The Jungle Book” once said, “Words are, of course, the most powerful drug used by mankind.” When we think of the word drug we think of a substance that is used to alter states and create certain feelings within the body. When we approach the definition of drug in that way, words certainly qualify.

They can inspire us, cause us to feel loved, bring out the best in our actions and help us discover parts of ourselves we never knew we had. They can also create an opposite effect that limits us as well.

You’ve probably heard that what we talk about comes about. When we are engaged in conversations with others the words they use can tell us what  to expect and what another person is feeling inside.

Our words and the language that we use are symbolic representations of things or ideas in the tangible real world. When we think on these words or use them in our speech they activate specific areas in our brain that creates recall or recognition of the symbols those words represent. Based on our past experience with the specific thing or activity the word represents energies or charges are activated, or rather conditioned to activate when we interact with the word symbol.

These charges will either be positive or negative. (Not electrical necessarily – but of an emotional quality, either positive or negative.)This makes some words empowering to us and other words cause us to doubt, become fearful and even become offended when they are emotionally activated. When we attempt to process our thoughts in such an emotionally charged environment they are affected. (More on this phenomenon called, ‘Affect Illusion’ another time.) Depending on the emotion environment the thoughts nurtured in will often determine the end results they will produce.

Positive thoughts which increase our belief in ourselves immediately allow us to expand in our view and look for greater possibilities. On the other hand thoughts which limit us, make us afraid or cause us to doubt constrict our thoughts.

Our brain are wired to solve problems or escape danger. Even simple words which activate the state of fear, doubt, threat or containment requires our brain to seek a way to protect ourselves or escape. This survival instinct causes us to focus on that negative  energy until the energy dissipates, we escape or it is replaced by something more powerful.

An Experiment on the Energy of Words

Read the following two lists of words below for an experiment. Read them out loud. Read slowly and pay careful attention to the first images that come into your mind and how they make you feel. Let your brain find an image that corresponds to each word. Make the image vivid enough to feel the emotions your brain attaches them to. As you feel this energy ask: Are the words positive and empowering or do they cause negative emotions within you and cause you to feel contracted? Here’s the list:

Disgusting

Tragedy

Dirty

Vomit

Sorrow

Carnage

Pain

Fall

Regret

Wounded

Stench

Fail

Broken

Rude

Liar

Cruel

Did you feel a negative energy begin to circulate within your thoughts as your brain sought for recall or recognition of the symbol the word represented?

Let’s try another list of words, this time more positive.

Again remember to let your brain seek for the  images in your mind that you associate with these words. Make these images vivid, bright and real. Feel after the the emotions these images begin to plant within you. Read them slowly and out load. Here’s teh second list:

Joy

Love

Precious

Kind

Unstoppable

Caring

Hopeful

Expanding

Tranquil

Affection

Delicious

Clear

Harmonious

Strengthening

Comfort

Generosity

Friendship

What was the difference in the emotion, images, thoughts and feelings that these words created within you?

The energy that positive words ignite is undeniable and they have a profound effect on our thinking and behavior.

This isn’t really anything new, the earliest recordings of someone utilizing ‘The Power of Suggestion’ or words as Psychosomatic medicine date back to 934 AD.  The principles are explained by simply recognizing the mind is influenced by the words it hears, reads and considers.  Modern psychosomatic medicine regularly uses linguistic suggestion to create positive results in patients. What we suggest to the mind (most often by words) causes the mind to construct the reality internally and externally. The entire efforts of hypnotism rests on the power of suggestion.

In more modern times other systems have been developed to expand our view on the relationship between cognition, behavior, tangible result and our words and language. NLP (Neurolinguistic Programming) developed in the 1970’s  by Richard Bandler and John Grinder established connections between our neurology, our language and our behavior patterns.

Through understanding these principles and several new other discoveries I have personally developed systems that are producing great results for people. Strategic Cognitive Construction (SCC) and The Ripple Effect are two specifically which accelerate the process of creating tangible realities from the things we think about using the power of linguistics.*

Through all these discoveries one thing becomes very clear.  Our words and language do play a significant role in our thinking processes.  To create great successes in our lives we need to harness the power of being more careful with the words we are using and accepting as truth when we consider our dreams.

Douglas Vermeeren is the director of the SUCCEED Research Center which is dedicated to sharing research on the systems that top achievers use to create lasting success. Over the last decade Vermeeren has interviewed more than 400 of the world’s top achievers, including business leaders, celebrities and professional or Olympic athletes. Douglas Vermeeren is the author of Guerrilla Achiever (With Jay Levinson) and the creator of The Opus (with Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen, Dr. Joe Vitale, Dr. John Demartini, Dr. Sue Morter, Marci Shimoff, Bill Bartmann, Bob Doyle and Morris Goodman.) Currently Doug is completing another film entitled, How Thoughts Become Things. This film will explore the process of how our thoughts become manifest in our lives as reality.  For more on this film go to: www.HowThoughtsBecomeThings.com For more on Douglas Vermeeren go to: www.SucceedResearch.com Douglas Vermeeren can be reached for speaking engagements and training at 1.877.393.9496.

* Both of these systems are explained in the Neuroscience of Success Program and the Primed for Power Program.