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Your life is your own fault – The power of thoughts – Personal Power Mastery

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Douglas Vermeeren Personal Power Mastery 152Recently I had a lady at one of my events express how she just had a massive a-ha moment occur. For the first time she realized how her thoughts literally had created her life. Now for some this may be pretty clear and evident. You might even call it common sense. But as I listened to this lady share her thoughts with my audience members at a recent PPM (Personal Power Mastery) I was reminded of the way our thoughts manifest themselves in reality and often how they can surprise us with their speed.

I will call this lady Joyce. As Joyce stood up to share her story I could tell that she was doing it with some regret. The results she had created in her life was a separation from her husband and they were now headed directly for divorce. It didn’t look like there was much that could change that. They had both gone a little bit to far and said a little bit too much that healing was near impossible.

As Joyce stood in front of the group sharing her current Realtionship state she began to talk about how the roots had truly been in her thoughts. Little by little she began to shift her thinking as to how things would be more ideal with a different partner. She began to think about how some of the little things he did annoyed her. Those thoughts began to slowly manifest themselves as small criticisms and jabs. She began to share how the more habitual the thinking became the more it turned into comments and actions.

As the thoughts turned more and more critical she began to see how they strangled affection and hope right out of her heart. Every sign of compassion for her mate disappeared until they found themselves here. She was quick to point out that her was not perfect. But he certainly had become far worse than he was through the kinds of thinking she was doing. The more she dwelt on his faults and painted him in a negative light the more terrible he became.

As she stood before our group with tears she admitted that her thoughts had gotten out of control. She never intended for it to come to this point. As she reflected on the journey she told our group that for the first time in a long time that she realized during our weekend together at PPM that she realized what had happened. And in reality she did still love her husband very much, but she could also see why he chose not to stay.

Now I don’t know what the ending of this story will be. But I do know that our habitual thoughts all come with a consequence. We cannot dwell on thoughts for long periods of time without seeing a form of them begin to manifest in reality.

My challenge to you is to choose your thoughts carefully and be sure that they are pointing towards the outcomes you desire most. For those of you who’ve attended PPM in the past you will also know how quickly you can shift your perspective and your thoughts and even the things that currently do not serve you (or even hurt you) can be shifted into something that you want and deserve when you use the correct tools and methods to do so.

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What would you do with the secrets of the world’s top achievers? Would you level up your income? Your business? Your opportunities? Now you can find out because those secrets are now available to you.

Over the last two decades Douglas Vermeeren has conducted extensive first hand research into the lives of the worlds top achievers. He has the success strategies of top business leaders from Nike, Reebok, Fruit of the Loom, FedEx, KFC, United Airlines, Microsoft, Disney and others to share with you. ABC television and FOX Business refer to him as the modern Day Napoleon Hill. 

In addition, he is the producer and director of 3 out of 10 of the top personal development movies ever made. He is the producer of The Opus (featuring Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen, Joe Vitale, John Demartini, Marci Shimoff, Morris Goodman, Bob Doyle and others.) The Gratitude Experiment (Bob Proctor, Marie Diamond, John Demartini, John Gray) and The Treasure Map (John Demartini, Loral Langemeier, Raymond Aaron, Marshall Sylver, Randy Gage.)

He has authored 3 books in the Guerrilla marketing series and is the creator of Personal Power Mastery which has been consistently rated as one of the top events for personal change and development worldwide.

He is a regular featured expert on FOX, CNN, ABC, NBC, CTV, CBC, The Huffington Post, NY Daily News and others.

For more info go to http://www.DouglasVermeeren.com

An important component of Relationships – Personal Power Mastery

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An important component of relationships
Personal Power Mastery by Douglas Vermeeren

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Relationships are one of the five pillars of success. We will talk later about what that means and why they are so important. This pillar of relationships is not limited to a spouse, one of your children or even your extended family – it refers to everyone you interact with and how you are connected to them. But today I want to talk about the closer family relationships and let’s face it sometimes we don’t always feel as connected to them as we would like.

Being connected to others can sometimes be a hard thing. Even when our intentions are great and we want more connection the other person may resist and not feel the same way. Sometimes we may have even made mistakes that have hurt the other person or done something to break down trust and connection.

While this short article won’t give you all the secrets of creating a stronger relationship instantly I want to share with you one observation that has created a special connection. I can it “our secrets.”

By definition I guess you could say the “our secrets” concepts is essentially creating a bond with someone you love by simply sharing or creating experiences that belong to just you and that other person. I guess in some ways its very similar to the concept of an “inside joke.” Something only the tow of you would find funny and no one else would understand.

Having “our secret” creates a special bond because now only the two of you have something that no one else on the planet shares. Let me give you an example of an “our secret” moment. (And by the way, just my sharing it now includes you in “our secret” but don’t worry I have permission from my sons to share this one.)

When my two sons were little it was pretty easy to give out hugs and kisses and they didn’t really care what their friends thought. But as they grew a little older (somewhere are eight or nine) it became a little embarrassing for them to say “I love you dad” or give me a hug with all their friends present. They still felt the same way but they just didn’t want to do the public display anymore.

So we came up with one of our most famous secrets. We call it N M W. And funny enough even when I say goodbye to my sons today (they are now in their twenties) you will still hear us say N M W.

When we say it no one has a clue what it means. And often people will ask us if they can get in on the secret. Most of the time we change the subject and keep them out. That keeps our special connection unique and exclusive. In some ways it bonds my boys even more to me. It helps them feel that they have something special. You are about to find out what it means…

N M W means No Matter what, No matter Where, No Matter When daddy loves me. Or from them to me, No Matter What, No Matter Where, No Matter When Jordan (or Jared) loves dad.

No matter what setting we have been in or no matter who is around my boys were no longer embarrassed or shy to shy N M W to me and I to them. It was “our Secret.”

Having intimate secrets like this that have meaning only to us has been one point of significant connection between us. It is exclusively our and because of this exclusivity it has made them feel that they are uniquely special. That is a powerful form of connection.

Over the years we have carefully decided who gets to be included in that secret.

I have similar secrets with my wife and some specific secrets even with my specific children. These represent a special form of trust or a bond between us.

Special connections like these create a sense of unique value in a relationship. When people feel a special or exclusive connection they have stronger bonds.

My challenge to you is look for unique ways to connect with those you love in ways that make them feel that they are unique and in a special position with you above all others in your life. It might be to develop a few of your own “secrets.” What can you do or create to help your loved ones feel that they are special or unique in your life?

Little shift creates big changes – BAM post 1

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Bam-813x600As a personal development teacher I recently took some time to reflect seriously on my life and some of my experiences. Like everyone else my life is not immune to challenges. Over the last several years I have had personal tragedy and the loss of loved ones. I have had business challenges and even had those close to me betray my trust and create really massive problems for me. I have also had relationship struggles where I wanted to be the best husband, father, son, brother and so forth and instead ended up often times hurting those I love the most. Long and short – it is often difficult to be human. We try our best but sometimes our best either isn’t good enough or it is simply misunderstood.

To those I have ever injured I am sorry. And to those who have hurt me I forgive you. Life is too short to carry these kinds of heavy burdens. Maybe I’m being too simplistic but I’ve come to the conclusion that if something does make you better or give you power it might be time to let it go. There are enough victims in the world and I don’t want to join their ranks. And I don’t recommend you do either.

As I thought about my existence (and the existence and lives of many of my students) I felt to empathize with the challenges but I felt an extremely grateful sense of hope. As I thought about all the blessing I had in my life I came to the incredible realization that life is truly AWESOME! I put those letter in capital intentionally. I really do feel life is AWESOME in all capital letters.

But this post isn’t just about life being awesome it’s about creating awesome even when things don’t necessarily appear to be going that way. I believe in the law of attraction and that we can create our lives according to the desire we have in our hearts. I also believe that we must have correct expectations and that means that things won’t always go right – but having that expectation gives us even more power to create awesome. (More on this idea later.)

As I thought about how awesome is created in life I came to the conclusion that Awesome is like Happiness. Both are a choice we make. It is not something that someone else can grant to us. It is not something we can buy. In some ways it is not even something we can earn. (Bad things do happen to good people from time to time. And rewards and punishments do come to those who don’t deserve it.) But once we chose to be awesome and experience awesome it does begin to flow to us.

First let me define an awesome life. To me an Awesome life is living your life by decision. You are where you want to be, doing the things that excite you, inspire you and bring out the best in you and in those around you. I like that definition.

To live a life that fits that description is a choice. Over the next while I am going to share some of my findings on what that choice looks like. It is not a single event. Once the choice is made there are habits of awesomeness to develop. Awesome is a consistent kind of thinking, actions and habits that support that initial choice.

As with any attempt to progress there is always opposition. I have experienced a lot of it personally as I have tried to set aside my ego and self interest and start living in a way that fits the awesome description above. There are moments it is really easy to slip back into the easy,quick-fix solution mode that I am trying to put behind me.

But as my experiments thus far have yielded (even in the short time I started really trying) I have seen improvements in my relationships, abundance, health, my feelings about myself and even my connection to spirituality. as the title of this article suggests this little shift has created big changes. If any of these areas above are something you would like to improve stay tuned because I am very excited to share what I’ve learned about lifting life to the level of Awesome!

Feel free to share your thoughts and stories if any of this helps. I am calling this the Be Awesome Movement. (BAM for short) And this movement is yours as much as it is mine. Join me and try the experiments. The more awesomeness the better.

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Gratitude Experiment – Douglas Vermeeren

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Gratitude Experiment - Douglas Vermeeren

Gratitude Experiment – Douglas Vermeeren