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The 3 people who determine how your day will be – BAM #7

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The 3 people who determine how your day will be – BAM #7
By Douglas Vermeeren

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I’ve got a strange hypothesis but so far it’s turning out to be very true. If you want to create an awesome life which is defined as follows:

An Awesome life is living your life by decision. You are where you want to be, doing the things that excite you, inspire you and bring out the best in you and in those around you.

Then you’ll want to know about this interesting key that I’ve stumbled upon.

Each day there seem to be 3 people who have a signifiant impact on how your day will flow. (Naturally these three people do not include you, how you respond and react is generally based on your interaction with these three.) The 3 people I am referring to are the three first interactions you have as you wake up.

For most people those at least one out of the three people are online as they check their email. Immediately the nature of that interaction sets your pattern for the day rolling. If its a negative interaction, or one that leaves you feeling hurt, defensive, frustrated or even angry the ball for the day has been set in motion. As I interviewed 400 of the world’s top achievers one surprising thing that I found is that they do not check their email or social media the moment they wake up. They let other activities and interactions begin their day. Checking emails and social media is a reactionary activity anyhow and starting the day that way immediately puts you in a response mode rather than a mindset where you are in control of you life.

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The second group that a lot of people interact with first when they wake up is the media. They turn on the news and naturally the news is not filled with good news. It is usually a recap of the terrible things that happened in the world while you were sleeping. This negativity does not create an inspiring situation to wake up to. One of my students admitted that she used to start the day immediately with the news and it often put thoughts into her head about whether or not it would even be safe to leave the house that day. While I will admit there are things you need to know about the news often doesn’t share them in a way that informs. They are most often inclined to shock. Most of what you need to know you are going to find out inevitably. I don’t watch the news very often. And nowadays most people find out about important happenings through social media any ways.

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The final and most important group of people you interact with when you begin the day are your family. I wish I could say that every “good Morning” is met with excitement and a cheery smile, but we all know that isn’t always the case. A negative experience at home can affect the entire rest of the day and slow down productivity. A friend of mine had an employee once who had a difficult home life and most often she came to work in the morning numb and trying to figure out whether or not she should be filing for divorce that day. Eventually he let her go and she did get her divorce. Negative family circumstances can weigh heavily upon us and they affect all aspects of our thinking.

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However, people in our family can be supportive and positive too. They can bring out the best in us and inspire us to seek out our best self. I have been very privileged over the last year and a half to have my grand babies at my house regularly in the morning. They have helped me to start the day off great with games and dancing. We have treats and create what they call a party first thing in the morning. It is just time we get together. No email, media or anyone else. I highly recommend this.

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My wife comes and joins us as she is ready and no one feels rushed. She loves to see these babies too first thing too. Everyone is in a good mood.

As its time for me to leave the house for meetings of the day it doesn’t matter as much what negativity, challenges or problems come my way to solve. I am fully charged on positive and awesome and ready to take on the day.

I compare this to how things used to be in my life. When I started with a negative influence I would begin the day in a grumpy mood and that carried over into my activities of the day. I did not feel inspired and I was not always agreeable.

So while you may not have grand children to make you smile first thing in the morning, I still want to share this powerful principle. Find something positive to begin your day with. Be the one in control of your day and don’t be reactionary. Establish and charge up who you want to be before you have others outside of your home that you need to interact with.

And remember that an Awesome life is found in the small things!

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Where can you find the most happiness? Awesome question -BAM #2

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by Douglas Vermeeren

A recent study on happiness supports the same findings we arrived at with the Be Awesome Movement. (#BeAWESOMEMovement)

The study focused on the two major areas people spend money. Those two areas are on purchasing tangible objects and purchasing experiential activities or experiences.  That same study found that while purchasing objects provided an instant rise in happiness levels, those levels were fleeting and disappeared quickly. In other words after the object was purchased and now considered a potion it was taken for granted and contributed very little to happiness factors.

On the other hand purchasing experiences or experiential activities provided for longer and more sustained happiness.

In the Be Awesome Movement we have also found that creating memorable experiences creates memorable memories both of which contribute to happiness. Objects contribute more towards satisfaction than lasting happiness.

So keep this in mind next time you have a purchasing choice to make. Don’t just buy stuff. Spend your money on things which you can experience like a trip, or some tickets to an event or something that you can experience. in the end you will be happier that you did.

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An Awesome life is living your life by decision. You are where you want to be, doing the things that excite you, inspire you and bring out the best in you and in those around you.

Join the Be Awesome Movement!!!

 

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Powerful Thinking Powerful Results – #1 thing that can turn your thoughts into power instantly!

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It is estimated that each day we have more than 70,000 unique thoughts. So what is it that controls our thoughts? How does our mind select which thoughts to develop and which thoughts to ignore? How do the prominent thoughts become things?

In order for thoughts to develop into reality they must be permitted to develop in the mind.

As they develop they grow and are built upon. If the spark of thought continues to grow action can result. Action will then bring that thought into reality.

Many of the thoughts that develop in the mind do not become a reality. We have all had thoughts that began as a brilliant burst of inspiration. Perhaps these ideas even got you excited for a few minutes, maybe an hour, a day or even a week… Then they faded away.  Even though they started as powerful ideas they did not end up as a tangible reality in your life?

How could an idea so bright and exciting turn dim or disappear altogether.

 

Even more frustrating are the ideas that do not disappear. They anchor themselves in the back or your mind, they cling to you waiting for the day that you may act upon them. These are probably the most painful ideas. You know in your heart that if you did something with these kinds of ideas they would really make a difference in your life.

 

What is it that holds us back? What is it that keeps us from creating the reality we are thinking about?

One of the most significant factors that determines our reality are our expectations.

What we believe could happen is the line that all thoughts must pass in order to become action. Taking action on a thought is the way it is translated into reality.

Expectations can include what we believe a specific outcome will be, but also what we believe we are entitled to and how we believe we should act in certain situations.

 

As expectations can often be based on past experience or pre-determined values often our expectations will cause our thinking to follow a similar course to what we have done in the past.

 

Expectations of outcome often guide our thoughts and our behavior to conform our new experience with a past situation. Here is an example of where we have experienced this:

 

  • We also see expectations at work in the movies. If I said Tom Hanks is in a movie what kind of movie do you think you’d be going to watch? What if I said Ben stiller? Would you envision a different kind of film? And when you went to see it how would you feel if it didn’t jive with your expectations? You’d be disappointed. In fact, Hollywood has seen a lot of movies over the years that didn’t make it simply because they changed the formula, or constructed a story with an actor contrary to your expectations.

 

Entitlement is also an overlooked element of expectations.  What you feel you are entitled to will dictate your thinking on certain matters.

 

There was a study conducted some years ago to determine the role that sacrifice or activity had on entitlement. The experiment involved two groups. One group was given a variety of tasks to complete and then after completing the work, was ushered into an empty room with a table and chair. On the table was an envelope with $50 bill and the words thank you written on the envelope.

 

The second group was simply ushered into the room. They had no work to do. The same envelope rested on the table.

 

The majority of people in the first group that had done the work felt that the envelope was left there for them and it was payment for their efforts. Most in the second group felt the envelope was meant for someone else and it was probably left there by mistake.

 

Work, sacrifice and effort give the mind a sense of entitlement.

 

Entitlement is a mysterious thing. I often encounter people who feel that they have not yet paid the price to have what they want, to be who the really feel they should be, or have the relationships they deserve because they have not sacrificed what is required. This is a victim mentality and it keeps many from acquiring the reality they truly desire.

 

The next expectations are expectations about how we believe we should act.

 

I have seen examples of this at numerous seminars and motivational events. This lesson is often used by the speaker to teach people to think differently and to consider that there are often more direct routes than those we initially consider to solve a problem.

 

This is how the scenario plays out, the speaker typically takes a prize (I’ve even seen it done with $100 bill) and simply holds it up and asks “Who would like to have this prize?” Naturally a number of hands raise within the group. He asks again, “Who wants this prize?” Still more hands are raised in the group and often people begin to get a little excited. At this point the speaker asks again with more intensity in his voice, “Who wants the prize?” By this time the audience usually gets it and an audience member actually leaves their set and comes to claim the prize. Again this is a great example of social expectation.

 

Why won’t we leave the seat instantly to claim the prize? We don’t leave our seat to get the prize because we question ourselves. Is it the right thing to do? What will others think of me? Is it proper?  We ask ourselves similar questions on a daily basis that and as a result we prevent ourselves from acting on the thoughts that will empower us most.

 

In a study of the most successful businesses and inventions of all time, you will find that the majority of these successes are innovations on existing ideas. I always get a smile when I hear that Thomas Edison is considered the greatest inventor of all time. It isn’t true. Every major invention that he produced from the light bulb, to the phonograph to the motion picture camera is an innovation on a earlier effort by someone else. You can be an innovator too.

 

You don’t have to think according to a set of imaginary rules.

 

Expectations are a great source of power as much as they can be a great obstacle to your success.

 

If we expect to fail we will not think in empowering ways. We do not dedicate action energy to created failing expectations a reality. That doesn’t mean we don’t dedicate thought to create negative expectations. we do that quite often. If we believe that expectation to be the coming reality, we will create it positive or negative.

 

If we want to create the life we really want we have got to expect it can happen. When we expect to succeed, our thoughts become like a magnet directing all our energies to supporting the expectation.

 

Just a few more thoughts on why expectation is important

The subconscious mind seeks to find solutions to challenges quickly and so it seeks for the most direct route to solutions in the thinking processes. The mind doesn’t really care if the solution is positive or negative. It just wants an answer. When we are on “automatic” pilot, so to speak, our expectations guide thinking almost entirely.

 

Because our mind is always looking for immediate solutions we think and act from a reactive position.   Essentially what our mind is doing is trying to protect us. It is constantly analyzing scenarios and situations to prevents us from experiencing harm or other things we may need to defend against.

 

So how can we build positive expectations?

Positive and empowering expectations must be build on purpose and ahead of time. They cannot be reactionary.

 

Why must they be planned ahead of time and how can that help? In order to explain why it is important to plan ahead of time what you to expect let me address an important characteristic of how our mind remembers.

 

Try to remember two things, notice which of the two things is easier.

 

1)What was the date that United States entered world War 2?

2)What did your first love look like?

 

If you are like most people you found the first question to be much harder than the second. Why is that? The first question dealt with the recall part of your memory. It was a cold hard fact your mind went searching for.

 

The second dealt with recognition. You probably also spent a lot more time thinking about the second question and you might even still be thinking about it now. emotion is attached more to recognition than recall. for those of you who are familiar with the 5 ways the brain learns this would be experiential learning versus factual learning.

 

This is the point: It is a lot easier for your brain to recognize something than it is to recall it.

 

Back to how this effects expectations.

 

If you build your positive expectations clearly, carefully, and emotionally you will have greater power to recognize these expectations and when you are thinking in harmony with them. Your mind will begin to bring your thinking into a supportive position to these expectations and look for evidence to support your new expectations.

 

Your mind also recognizes what is not in harmony with your expectations and discards those thoughts.

 

Expectation can be used in a positive way. Once we begin to expect things to occur in a way which is empowering to us our thoughts begin to direct our actions to follow that course.

 

What we expect, our thinking will support.

 

Expect good things and your thoughts will follow! If your thoughts follow you will begin to see the fruits of these expectations become a reality in your life.

How Thoughts Become Things – Special Edition Book available for a limited Time!

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How Thoughts Become Things - Special Edition Book

 

How Thoughts Become Things – Special Edition Advance Book!

By now you’ve heard about the upcoming Movie ” How Thoughts Become Things.”  Ridley Jones Publishing is pleased to announce a special Edition sneak peak at some of the cutting-edge research that will be presented in the film. This Special Edition book will be available for a limited time between October 20, 2010 and December 31, 2010. The edition will feature exclusive information that will not be available in future editions including an exclusive Audio Cd on “The 5 Ways your brain learns and 3 keys to mastery with any goal.”

The idea that ‘Thoughts become Things’ has been around a long time. What has been missing are the answers as to ‘How.’  For the first time ever in this cutting-edge book, How Thoughts Become Things, Douglas Vermeeren unfolds the process, systems and activities the brain uses to create your most powerful thoughts. Modern scientific research has given us incredible insights into the brain science that creates our realities.  By applying the processes of how your brain and your thoughts work you are able to harness a greater power to overcome negative thinking, self sabotaging behaviour and accomplish your greatest tasks.

When NLP was designed in the late 1970’s and early 1980’s, the personal development industry saw a shift in the way looked at thought processes and success. Since then drastic changes have been developed in our understanding of how the brain works. In fact, more than 98% of what we thought we knew about the brain has changed in the last decade.

Utilizing the most recent findings in neuroscience, psychology and Vermeeren’s exclusive research into the lives of more than 400 of the world’s top achievers this book will give you to insights on how to create powerful results in your life. It is not written to the scientific audience, but rather for easy application by anyone. The book also incorporates a new learning technology known as Pattern Priming which allows for maximum learning and application.

Participants in ‘The Neuroscience of Success’ live programs have said the following:

” As a person that has been working really hard in personal development I found so many things that I had never thought before. so many things that I have already applied. I can’t say enough about what I’ve learned and what I’m going to talk away from this program” – Jaeson Rau

“One of the most powerful lessons was even within the first few minutes.” – Patrick Buffalo

“When somebody sees that they can actually change their lives, you actually have all the tools for them to be able to do it.” – Guy Burns

“What can I say about the Neuroscience of Success course? I found it incredible beneficial!” – Lorna Selig

“I know have a lot clearer understanding of the brain and how it works. I can see examples everywhere of how I’ve allowed my thoughts to control my actions.” – David Bonk

“I’ve been able to now see how many negative thoughts we have going through our mind every single day. The awareness and now 5 steps to work through those negative thoughts. I can now move forward.” – Cherise Gosselin

“The information presented in The Neuroscience of Success was incredibly useful and interesting. The other thing I really liked was that we were given actually exercises that we can use.” – Lisa Ryan

“The most powerful thing for me was when you talked about stilling the pond and the Ripple Effect.” – Jaime Bonk

“One of the most valuable things to me was learning about cognitive evaluation, and how you can use it to evaluate each thought to see if it is negative or positive and use that to clear out the negative.” – Carlene Bennett

“I now know how negative thoughts happen and the steps that I can take to get rid of them.” –  Heather Betlamini

“I enjoyed learning the whole perspective of the law of attraction, and lookign at it in a different way. The patterning of your brain and  mind and putting it to work in making thoughts become things. I learnt a lot.” Jillanna Martel

With this book you will learn:

How to create change that lasts

The 5 ways your brain learns

3 major influencers on thought

How to overcome negative thoughts

The 3 kinds of deliberate thinking and how you can harness their power

The power of the Ripple effect

Strategic Cognitive Construction

Cognitive evaluation

Conditioning tools for your success

Why most people fail to get to their goals

Go into deeper detail with many of the concepts that the upcoming film “How Thoughts Become Things” will explore.

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This special edition book will be available until Dec 31 or while supplies last.

Order now and we’ll also include a limited edition Audio CD “The 5 ways your brain learns and the 3 keys to mastery with any goal.”

You can order this book through http://www.HowthoughtsBecomeThings.com or order by phone 1-877-393-9496.

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* Thanks to the Succeed Research Center for the participation in this book.