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Can gratitude make a difference for your teen?

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Can gratitude make a difference for your teen?

Can gratitude make a difference for your teen?

Here is a recent interview I did for a teen magazine. The magazine hasn’t yet been published so I will leave the name out for now. The questions were asked by a teen and I found it interested to think that these were issues that were on his mind.  How amazing to see people at this age really thinking about this stuff. I’ll be honest with you at this age I don’t know if I was this focused. We have a great generation on the way!

1) When you are having a really bad day how can you tear yourself away from the negatitivty that keeps coming?

 

When I encounter moments that are really difficult I try to take a break. Sometimes I will go on a ride on my bike or on a walk. I find physical activity and a change of environment help. I also find it useful to do something that I am good at for a while and shift my negative thinking back to an activity I feel confident in. However, I try to get back to and through the negative situation as soon as I can. Leaving or ignoring a negative thing rarely makes it go away. And to create great success in your life you need to gorw your ability to solve problems.

 

2) If you do alot of things for others and they don’t seem to notice how can you prevent this from making you feel bad?

 

The first thing to think about when doing things for others is to ask the question, ‘am I doing this for them or me?’ If I’m really doing it for them then how they react shouldn’t matter. If I’m doing it for me then I should figure out what it is that I really want back from them in the first place. When you do something for someone and then expect them to respond a certain way can lead to disappointment. Especially if the other person doesn’t understand how you are hoping they’ll respond. Sometimes it can be a lot easier to just be upfront and explain to the other person what you’d like to have happen. Then they can know how to respond. All frustrations, negativity and anger that we ever have is linked to moments when our expectations are not met. We have to recognize that people won’t always meet those expectations. But it will be easier when they know what we really want.

 

3) If you are someone who typically keeps your emotions to yourself how can you break this haboit and be more vocal of gratitude or positive reenforcement?

 

There are many ways ot express gratitude. While vocal expressions of gratitude is one way it is not the only way. Many times the strongest gratitude is not expressed through words. It can be through our actions, written appreciation and even through being a good listener. The most effective way to feel gratitude is always the method that makes you feel most fulfilled.

 

4) If someone you care about is going through tough times what is the best way you can help?

The best way I have found to help others in a difficutl situation is to just be a real friend. When you genuinely care about someone and they can feel it there are often very few things you can do wrong in trying to cheer them up.  As part of this I find that reminding a person they are cared for and telling them why you appreciate them can make a big difference.

 

5)What tips are there to feel gratitude daily?

The best tip that I have to feel gratitude and recognize more things to be grateful for everyday starts with stopping. What I mean by that is that sometimes we get so busy with life that we forget to slow down and recognize some of the amazing things in our life.  It can help to pick a quiet time to just think. Sometimes it helps to make a list of things you are grateful for. I find that shutting off the TV and simply going on a walk can help to clear your mind and reconnect you to the things that make you feel grateful.

 

6)How can this philosophy help you overcome depression?

There are several books and articles that present research that suggests that a regular practice of gratitude can increase your quality of life and help you overcome the effects of negativity and depression. In addition studies demonstrate that a regular practice of gratitude  provides increased energy, alertness, enthusiams and vigor. Gratitude inreases your chances of getting to your personal goals. Gratitude provides better states of mind for coping with stress, closure in traumatic situaitons,greater feelings of self-worth, better relationships, improved cardiac health and clarity of thought. As far as science can determine there are no negative side effects for gratitude.

 

7) Is it possible that some people are so negative that they cannot change?

No matter where a person is in life or what they have experienced they cna make changes for the better. It may not be easy for them as change requires them to let go of their past and beliefs they may have had for a long time. I often use the analogy that change is like trying to hold an ice cub in your hand. It can be uncomfortable and it can take time. But if you have a desire to change it can be done. Does it require help sometimes? Absolutely. The bigger the cahnge or shift the more support that is generally needed. Depending on the scope of the change would determine the size of the help. It may require a few friends or family members all the way to a trained professional. But the good news is that change can happen and there is help available. And the end results can be incredible. You can actually live the life you really want!

 

8) How has gratitude positively affected your life and why did you decide to take on this philosophy?

My life has been incredibly affected by gratitiude. I think in my early twenties I really took a lot of things for granted. I sort of felt like life just owed me and that everything should work out. I didn’t feel I had to put in my own effort and if things went wrong they weren’t my fault. As I learned to take responsibility I found that I also became more grateful. And the more grateful I became the more I realized that I had more control on my outcomes. As I took control of my outcomes I was able to start creating the life I chose. Since that time I have chosen how I really wanted my life to go. I have chosen how much money I have wanted to make, the job that I want to do, the relationships that I have, the cars I drive, the house I live in… everything. Now I admit things do not always go according to plan. But having a plan and recognizing that I am in control have given me more than waiting and wondering for something good to happen by chance. I no longer take things for granted, I take them as gifts and when you treasure what comes to you, you can build on it to create more.

For more insights see http://www.TheGratitudeExperiment.com and see the movie The Gratitude Experiment.

Douglas Vermeeren

Douglas Vermeeren,

Douglas Vermeeren has conducted extensive research into the lives of more than 400 of the world’s top achievers. Douglas Vermeeren knows what they did to get to the top and he can show you how.  He appears regularly on ABC, FOX, CNN, CTV, CBC and is known as the modern day Napoleon Hill. He is the author of 3 books in the Guerrilla Marketing series and is the creator of the hit personal development films The Opus & The Gratitude Experiment. His results based coaching program MAXIMUM RESULTS is currently among the fastest growing in the nation and franchises are now available in selected markets! If you want to make more money as a coach please contact us. For more information on Doug and his programs go towww.MaximumResultscoaching.com or www.DouglasVermeeren.com

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Artwork announced for the new film The Gratitude Experiment.

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The Gratitude Experiment

The Gratitude Experiment

Artwork announced for The Gratitude Experiment.

This Tuesday Magnificent Motion Picture works unveiled the artwork on their newest film The Gratitude Experiment. The film promises to unlock the hidden secrets on how to harness the power of Gratitude and features the expertise of thought leaders such as Bob Proctor (The Secret), Dr. John Demartini (The Secret), Marie Diamond (The Secret) and several others.

The power of gratitude has been featured as one of the central components from the beginning of time. The challenge that most people have is unlocking this power and learning how to harness it.

The producer of the film Douglas Vermeeren, who was also the producer behind the film The Opus, explains that, “This film will attempt to share that gratitude really can make a difference in the lives of individuals and has the power to shape the future of the entire planet.”

The Gratitude Experiment is slated for release in April of 2012. Additional cast members include: Douglas Vermeeren, Lisa Ryan, Laurie Davis, Maura Leon, Dr. Joe Rubino.

More information on this film is available through the official website: http://www.TheGratitudeExperiment.com or by calling 1-877-393-9496

John Demartini Joins The Gratitude Experiment

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The Gratitude experiment is coming! 

Gratitude is one of the most significant powers on the planet earth. It has the power to heal, to change lives and lead us to our great self. Although gratitude is practiced by many its true power is understood by few. This film will teach you how to unlock the laws of attraction as they related to the awesome power gratitude.

Dr Demartini is considered one of the world’s leading authorities on human behavior and personal development. He is the founder of the Demartini Institute, a private research and education organization with a curriculum of over 72 different courses covering multiple aspects of human development.

His trademarked methodologies, the Demartini Method and the Demartini Value Determination, are the culmination of 38 years of cross-disciplinary research and study. His work has been  incorporated into  human development industries across the world.

Dr Demartini travels 360 days a year to countries all over the globe,  sharing his research and findings in all markets and sectors. He is the author of 40 books published in 28 different languages. He has produced over 50 CDs and DVDs covering subjects such as development in relationships, wealth, education and business. Each program is designed to assist people to activate leadership and empower themselves in all seven areas of their lives: Financial, physical, mental, vocational, spiritual, family and social.

The Gratitude Experiment

The Gratitude Experiment

 

 

The Gratitude Experiment is coming!

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The Gratitude Experiment

The Gratitude Experiment

THE GRATITUDE EXPERIMENT IS COMING!
Gratitude is one of the most significant powers on the planet earth. It has the power to heal, to change lives and lead us to our great self. Although gratitude is practiced by many its true power is understood by few. This film will teach you how to unlock the laws of attraction as they related to the awesome power gratitude.

Just a little background on how the Gratitude Experiment came to be:

Not too long after the film The Secret came out I was having a conversation with a science professor friend of mine. We were talking about the all public excitement around the law of attraction. I wanted to know her scientific opinion about how the law operated and what was being taught about the law. She had some real concerns about it. She did not deny that it could influence people for good, but she flat out expressed to me that from a scientific point of view there were a few problems. (I won’t get into that here.)

As I left our meeting that day I had many thoughts come into my mind. If these principles were not scientific how could it be they were making such a huge difference for so many people in the world. And perhaps why these principles did not make as big of a difference in the lives of others. What were they feeling, thinking and doing to create real world events, good or bad? I considered these questions for several weeks. Then a key was turned… As I was filming my last film The Opus, (Which included many from the cast of The Secret) I asked one of my experts about how they understood the Law of Attraction to work. Without hesitation they answered that the key that opened the door to attraction was gratitude.

Gratitude is the power that opens up all possibilities.

As I thought on the power of gratitude I realized that from a scientific point of view gratitude cannot be contained, quantified or measured. For example, how much gratitude would it take to attract wealth, relationships, or the ideal body? I wanted to know more.

It was then that Gratitude Experiment was born.  Nearly five years of careful research began where I consumed everything I could find on the subject of gratitude. I was alarmed to find that most of the material taught did not give the true powerful of gratitude at all. In fact, much of it was calculated to create a victim mentality and leave the participant in a state of helplessness. I began to carefully catalog the most empowering materials. With that material we began an application process and followed several real-life individuals through a gratitude application process that gave them power in all varieties of trials and challenges. We saw lives and situations change. IN addition, I conducted interviews with more than 125 leading gratitude and law of attraction experts and top scientific thinkers.

The best, most powerful and effective tools that exist on the subject and they will be made available to you in the film The Gratitude Experiment.

You will discover that:

  • Gratitude opens all possibilities
  • Gratitude can change all situations for the positive
  • Gratitude is the most powerful tool for growing abundance and creating wealth
  • Gratitude is the most significant tool for enhance and building relationships
  • Gratitude effects your physical and mental health in positive ways
  • Gratitude is a strong tool for changing self-defeating or negative behavior
  • Gratitude aids significantly in the recovery of abuse and neglect
  • Gratitude actually changes the way your brain processes information
  • Gratitude is available for anyone who knows how to harness it
  • Most people do not yet use gratitude to its full potential

The Gratitude Experiment will be available in spring of 2012. Join us on Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/groups/205270696206483/

“Gratitude opens all possibilities.” – Douglas Vermeeren

Who is this on the set of the Gratitude Experiment?

Who is this on the set of the Gratitude Experiment?

Douglas Vermeeren & Dr. John Demarinti on the set of the Gratitude Experiment

Douglas Vermeeren & Dr. John Demarinti on the set of the Gratitude Experiment

Bob Proctor on the set of the Gratitude Experiment

Bob Proctor on the set of the Gratitude Experiment

The Gratitude Experiment movie will change the way we think about Gratitude

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The Gratitude Experiment

The Gratitude Experiment

 

Too often people think that gratitude is something that you feel and express. Little do they realize that gratitude and the energy produced by gratitude is one of the controlling forces of the universe. It is a powerful force to be reckoned with, yet experts suggest that most people are using it incorrectly. The incorrect use of gratitude is what has created our currently global financial recession, incorrect expressions of gratitude is what contributes most to the break down of families and society and incorrect use of gratitude is what is causing our crime rates to escalate. This brand new law of attraction film exposes how gratitude is essential to the workings of the universe and the central role it plays to the  harmony of all things.  You won’t want to miss it.

The film features several great teachers including: Bob Proctor, John Demartini, Mary Morrissey, Douglas Vermeeren and others. Coming in Spring of 2012.

Everything we do should be a result of our gratitude for what God has done for us.

-Lauryn Hill

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Why are we Impulse Shoppers? The Answer is in The Brain.

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Activity in the brain

Activity in the brain

Why are we Impulse Shoppers? The Answer is in The Brain.

Succeed Research releases new brain studies on persuasion and sales!

By Douglas Vermeeren

Each day we make hundreds, if not thousands of decisions. Often these decisions involve purchasing products or services that are presented to us on TV, the radio, the internet, in magazines, in the super markets and through individuals we have direct contact with. If you are like me you have purchased from each of these venues in the past and you have also declined to purchase too.

So what was it that really made the difference? The quickest answer would be to rationalize that the stuff you bought was stuff you needed or wanted. But if we were honest about much of what we have bought in the past we would recognize that a lot of these items we really didn’t need or want. Much of what I currently own I wouldn’t miss if it were to suddenly disappear. Most of that stuff I bought on an impulse. My bet is that a lot of the things in your life would fall into a similar category. So what made us buy this stuff?

While there are many reasons to buy that we talk about in our live trainings, based on several research findings we have recorded, for the purposes of this article I want to talk about a recent study on the human brain that may offer some interesting insights specifically on impulse purchasing.  These findings will be particularly useful to you as a salesperson. When you implement these two findings in your sales presentations you will notice a change in your results.

In a 2010 survey conducted by the Succeed Research Center of more than 1,500 consumers (male and female) it was determined that an average of 80% of purchases in a household were considered an impulse buy. 1. That means that only 20% of things that you currently own are purchases that you have thought about. Based on further evaluations with this test group we determined that out of that 20%  approximately 15% of those purchases were considered necessities. Out of the 80% that were impulse buys less than 3% were considered purchases that were related to necessities.  That means that 18% of the purchases made by the average person were connected to actual needs.

Lesson one: People don’t generally buy what they need or think about. Selling to them with logic and needs in mind is not the best approach. Their primary reasons to purchases are different.

The majority (82%) of purchases made directly corresponded to wants, perceived wants or impulse wants rather than needs.

Now please don’t get worried that I am going to start writing about frugality, thrift and rethinking our wants. While those are important principles to a self reliant life, my purpose here is to talk about the ‘why’ behind this purchasing behavior and to gently remind that most purchases are made out of impulse.

The high percentage of impulse buys also means your greatest chances for a sale are on the first visits with a prospect, not the second, third and so forth.

There are really two major reasons why customers buy immediately that can be attributed to the brain. It comes down to reactions in the brain related to gratification and scarcity conditioning.

Instant gratification is something that is becoming more and more prevalent in our society. We have been conditioned to expect it.  Drive-thru fast food delivers instantly to our car windows. The internet gives answers to any question instantly at the click of a button. Video games and movie entertainment allow us to participate in almost any activity imaginable through proxy participation. Just flick on the TV, and there’s no waiting either, you can find anything you want any time of the day or night. This is just the world we live in. And if you can’t deliver this kind of instant response you may just get left behind.

Not too long ago I was speaking with a Police officer friend of mine. We were chatting about the trends of crimes in the community, especially among the youth. He attributed most of the violent and sex crimes to peoples inability to subdue the need for gratification. “Our youth are becoming program to feel they are entitled to things instantly. They are learning to take what they want and pay later if at all.”

The same can be said of consumers. We see consumer credit card debt reaching all time highs and the mentality of entitlement appearing everywhere.

I don’t share these thoughts to be negative. I share them to demonstrate just how important immediate gratification is to people. They will really get themselves into trouble just to satisfy this one need.

At the Princeton University a group of psychologists conducted an interesting study on gratification. 2. The test was simple.

They selected a group of students to make a choice between two Amazon gift certificates. They could either have a $15 gift certificate instantly or wait two weeks and get a $20 gift certificate. While faced with this decision the psychologists measured the brain activity of the students.

The brain scans demonstrated that both of the gift card options triggered significant activity in the lateral prefrontal cortex areas of the brain. This area of the brain is responsible for generating emotional  feedback.

But the $15 gift card available now triggered something unique. The immediate card ignited the limbic areas of the brain and sent it into an emotional frenzy of activity.

The message: The more an individual becomes emotionally excited about the possibility of immediate gratification, the more intense the brain activity became.

A similar study has been repeated by the Succeed Research Center, which found that the possibility of immediate gratification also increased sales of several different products ranging from books to insurance policies. This same study confirmed that immediate sensory arousal, giving the prospect a sample that could be experienced in the senses, also highly activated the emotional states of the prospect.3.

When a product becomes available immediately the chances are that it will be bought rise dramatically.

The second consideration when it comes to impulse buying is something called ‘The Scarcity Effect.’

Evolutionists believe that ‘The Scarcity Effect’ stems from our early days as hunters and gatherers, but we don’t have to go back to prehistoric times.

As recent as a few hundred years ago many of us were still responsible for finding our own food.  We grew it or hunted it. We knew that if our prey got away, or the crops were damaged we would go hungry and so would our families. We became very protective and very cautious about our food supplies. Thank goodness for shopping markets that make life a lot easier today, but the instinct of not letting our prize get away continues.

Retailers know this and thus call out to us in the mall with signs crying out:  Limited time sale, limited time offers or last chance sales opportunities. If a prospect can see a deadline quickly approaching or a supply that is about to disappear or that is extremely limited their interest levels go up.  This is the premise that our diamond industry of today is built on. (But this is a subject for another discussion.)

Our brains release excitatory chemicals when we feel like we have beat out the competition and they we coming home with something rare indeed.

If you want to see your numbers go up consider developing a few of your products to be immediately deliverable and a little more scarce. To find out more about how you can incorporate these principles and other research we have conducted on increasing your sales please contact the Succeed Research Center (www.SucceedResearch.com) or the Sales Success Academy (www.TheSalesSuccessAcademy.com)

If you are a financial Planner, Real Estate Agent, Insurance agent or Mortgage broker we have some really interesting insights for you in our workshop, “7 truths about the brain that can make you a dynamic seller.” for more information call 1.877.393.9496

About the Author:

Douglas Vermeeren is the director of the SUCCEED Research Center which is dedicated to sharing research on the systems that top achievers use to create lasting success. Over the last decade Vermeeren has interviewed more than 400 of the world’s top achievers, including business leaders, celebrities and professional or Olympic athletes. Douglas Vermeeren is the author of Guerrilla Achiever (With Jay Levinson) and the creator of The Opus (with Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen, Dr. Joe Vitale, Dr. John Demartini, Dr. Sue Morter, Marci Shimoff, Bill Bartmann, Bob Doyle and Morris Goodman.) Currently Doug is completing another film entitled, How Thoughts Become Things. This film will explore the process of how our thoughts become manifest in our lives as reality.  For more on this film go to: www.HowThoughtsBecomeThings.com For more on Douglas Vermeeren go to: www.SucceedResearch.com Douglas Vermeeren can be reached for speaking engagements and training at 1.877.393.9496.
1. Succeed Research Center – Study on Purchasing patterns, 2010

2.Martin Lindstrom, Buyology, P.27

3.Succeed Research Center, – Study on Impulse buying and gratification, 2010