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Don’t settle – Douglas Vermeeren

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Too often people talk about what they want out of life but a careful examination of their reality reveals that there is a massive difference between the two. Why is that? Over the last decade I have conducted extensive research into the lives of high achievers and along the way I have had the chance to compare the lives of these people to those who… well, let’s put it this way, those who were not high achievers.

While there were many differences that were immediately evident one that was most striking to me was that those who achieved less were content to settle for what life gave them.

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High achievers on the other hand pushed not a lot, but generally just a little harder. The difference between the effort of high achievers versus the efforts on “less” successful achiever on most days was a small amount of effort. Sure there were days that high achievers really pushed it with big efforts and long hours, but the momentum they gained pushing just a little further is what gave them the strength on the big and tough days. There is a lot of power in momentum and momentum begins with the little choices to go just a tiny bit further.

The word settle is found within the word settlement. If you’ll think back to the days of the old west settlements were built when people decided on a spot that they wanted to be permanently. They determined that this was where they would forever be. The felt they couldn’t do better than the current destination and so a settlement was made. (I understand why my family chose the spot they did in the summer. But I’ll never understand why the Canadian winters didn’t scare them off. I am not a fan of winter.)

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If you would be a high achiever you need to abandon the idea of settlement. You are a nomad. You can’t stop in one spot. If you do you will automatically find yourself in an outdated and ineffective position.  Top achievers are always content but never satisfied. They don’t settle. Instead they are the pioneers. They are the ones who blaze the trail. They leave settling for others.Our-Pioneer-Heritage-250x200-mdi2005s1364

Take a look at your life and consider what you really want. In what ways are you settling to  accept what is happening to you rather than pushing just a little bit more to go for what  you want?

Life is a gift. It is yours. You own your life and you can create whatever you want with it. It is your! Your time is NOW!

 

Douglas Vermeeren – Decision interruptions than rob you of your goals.

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Decisions are a hard thing for many people to make to start with. It gets even harder when a decision is interrupted by people, events, situations and “emergencies” that are not in line with the direction you are heading and the goals you have. One of the main reasons why this happens is that often we only make decisions on what we hope to achieve and the things we want in our lives. We neglect making clear decisions and distinctions about the things we don’t want. As a result we often sacrifice what we want most for the things that we allow to interrupt us.

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There is a significant power in learning how to say NO and in establishing boundaries. It has been wisely observed that unless we fill our time with the things that are high priority your time will get filled up with trivial. In the PPM (Personal Power Mastery) seminars we discuss this phenomenon as we talk about being proactive. If you don’t decide what your boundaries are you will have none. You will be become the victim of the needs of others. I have often declared that reactive people become the slaves of proactive people. But they are also the slaves of other reactive people. Unless you have boundaries clearly set you can become a victim of the emergencies and challenges that others experience as well.

I’m not saying don’t ever help or respond to those in need. Do that. But have a plan in place ahead of time so that you can empower other people rather than enable then. As I interviewed the 400 top achievers I was surprised to learn that each one of them had boundaries in place when it came to rescuing others and providing aid. They had a system rather than a knee jerk reaction.

They also said NO regularly. If you have trouble with this have a polite phrase that you can memorize and repeat without having to think about it. Something simple like, “Thank you for thinking of me, but unfortunately I won’t be available for that.” Often as other experience you establishing boundaries their level of respect for you and your time will elevate. As a side effect in your future interactions they will value you and your time at higher level.

With a limited number of hours in a day, week, month, Year and lifetime you can’t afford to waste it by saying yes to things that pull you off course from your mission.

Douglas Vermeeren – A key to creating lasting change

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Change is the only real constant in the universe. Nothing ever stays the same. Change however is one of the most resisted principles in human nature. Internally we know we want more and need to become more in order to get it. However we find change and deliberate adaptation often difficult. (Which is strange considering we are the planets best organisms at creating change and adaptation.)

We don’t like change because it can bring stretching and discomfort. It can also lead us into new and unknown experiences. The only time when change is clearly welcome is when we are escaping a pain or fear far worse than the uncomfortable or unknown experience.

Douglas Vermeeren ppm 38The key then to drawing lasting desired changes into our life is to see a better future once that change has been achieved. I’m not just speaking about visualization or a creating a vision board, although those are excellent tools for establishing this vision. I am really talking about a clear view of how these changes will effect us long term. How they will effect those around us. How they will effect our future opportunities. Recognizing how these changes fit with our values. How participating in this new version of ourselves will produce results over the long term.

When we start to see a compelling and powerful future these changes become easier to make. The bottom line is that until we see this kind of a future it is very difficult to pursue the idea of change. When we leave a place of challenge we are not inclined to trade it for uncertainty.

No one acts strongly or commits to outcomes they doubt are achievable. We act on what we believe and emotionally desire! See your future in powerful and positive ways and you’re already heading in that direction.

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Douglas Vermeeren’s Personal Power Mastery Rocks Calgary!

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Check out what people had to say about this weekends PPM in Calgary! #PersonalPowerMastery #DouglasVermeeren https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Uqy_EDmoVrY&feature=youtu.be

 

Douglas Vermeeren – Our best self gives us our best outcomes.

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Often the decisions we make day to day come either from habit (the decisions that we always make without thinking) or our of crisis or necessity (urgent pressing matters that need our attention.) As a result the outcomes that we experiences and the consequences they bring pretty much keep us where we have always been or put us in a state of stress. Very seldom are accidental decisions likely to create powerful outcomes for us.

Douglas Vermeeren PPM 31As decisions are the important transition moment of bring our thoughts into reality it is important that the important ones be made with care. We cannot randomly approach important issues and expect that they will take us to our best results.

Within each of us is a better self. We have caught glimpses of that person from time to time. We know he or she is there and quite frankly eager to get out. When we are our best self we feel great and inspired. We know that this best self has important contributions to make to our wellbeing and the world around us.  However to have that best-self come forward requires effort. Our best self doesn’t automatically appear unless we proactively decide to allow them forward.

Most often we settle to have our average self solve problems quickly because we are Impatient.  We allow our average self to maintain relationships because its quicker. We let our average self rush through our day because they are more or less efficient and its comfortable.

While this may work occasionally it rarely gives us the life we really want and deserve.

You will soon find that getting your best self to make decisions will make your life easier and more rewarding although it requires more effort at first.

The next time you are making an important decision ask yourself am I settling with the choice my average self is making or is my best self choosing the best path?

Warning: Mos tot the time the decisions your best self would make will take more time, more effort and more commitment. But as the old saying goes it’s better to do something right the first time than to have to repeat it.

 

Douglas Vermeeren – Focus on What you can DO and the results will surprise you.

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When we focus on what we can do we are proactive. When we focus on things we can’t do or the things we can’t change we are reactive. A reactive state or individual gives the power of choice away. It places the ability to make a situation better outside themselves. By giving this power away the individual becomes dependant on outside influences to determine their destiny.

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When we focus on the things we can change none of our energy is wasted. We begin to take back our power and even the situations which we thought we had no control over will begin to change. As we start working with what we have its almost as though a magical universal power steps in to bring us what we need to get our desire met – even if those things our outside of our influence.

Recently I had an experience that illustrated this. I had a challenge to solve in my business. Much of the challenge was beyond anything I could control. I decided I would do everything in power with everything that I could within my power. A very short time later I received a phone call from someone I hadn’t talked to in months. They had an opportunity to present to me that brought solutions to several of the elements of this challenge beyond my control. It was incredible. I had not reached out to this individual or made them aware of my challenge. The Universe knew and put this person in my path with help.

Start with what you can do and the momentum and commitment of that will bring you the other pieces you need.

In addition often when we begin to confront what the elements we have control over we begin to recognize elements that we may have initially thought were out of our control that actually are in our ability to do something with. Its almost as if we can’t shine a light on these elements until we have started to work with the elements that evident and immediately before us.

In the Movie The Opus, I said “There are no such thin as problems. Everything is a puzzle and there are solutions to puzzles.” If we begin to look at problems and challenges as puzzles they become much more easy to solve.

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July 20, 2016 at 10:00 pm

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Successful Decisions? Douglas Vermeeren

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Why don’t we manage to get tour goals even when we make decisions that seem really good?

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