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By Doug V
Just for those of you who don’t believe me here’s the article:
I don’t get it. It’s not like she’s french.
I think it would be interesting to have a vote. Of course we all already know the answer – no one wants to see Wonder Woman with armpit hair. Thats crazy!
The fact that this is even a question explains why Marvel is making movies that people love while DC keeps missing the mark every time. If they are challenged on such a simple issue of whether Wonder Woman should have armpit hair or not maybe they shouldn’t be making movies. (That must have been a strange and expensive artistic meeting to be a part of.)
The strangest thing is that there are actually nerds online and in this article debating the issue. first of all are nerds the right people to ask for advice about women. (Very unlikely)
So this is their argument, (This is my paraphrase.)”She lives in a forest and she should have furry pits. And besides she lives with a bunch of chicks so she’s not trying to impress anyone. Again shows how much nerds don’t know about chicks.
Girls are always in competition with each other. Have you ever seen the looks that two women give each other if they wear the same dress to a party. They won’t even go in the same room with each other. One of them is in the hallway crying and wailing, ‘I’m not going in there. She’s got the exact same dress as me.” While the other one is gripping to her friends how she “hates that bitch” and they are planning how they are going to make her disappear.
My vote keep superheroes pit hair free.
P.S. – I’m gals this wasn’t an issue with Lynda Carter. She’s was smokin’
Often people ask me what’s the secret to becoming a good speaker on stage. I want to clarify I’m not talking about you’re speaking business I’m talking about your presentation skills.
Over the years I’ve had the opportunity to see a lot of speakers and some of them of been very good while others have a lot of work to do still. As I have observed those that are good I have noticed a few common attributes and traits.
Naturally I know behind the scenes the study their content very consistently. I’m not going to spend a lot of time in this post talking about content.
This post is more about presentation of that content. And I believe one of the most important things a person can possess on stage is self confidence in the ability to flow with your content to look as though it’s easy for you.
The first step to having this kind of delivery is the practice everywhere you can. I have long been a believer that a speaker needs to be speaking. That means when no one is hiring you you need to find a events or create them.
I have found the same thing to be true as I have done stand-up comedy. There is no substitute for practice in front of a real live audience. As a speaker you need to find as much of that as you possibly can.
Another important element of being a powerful presenter is to learn how to keep things simple. Too many speakers try to show how clever or smart they are by making things more complex than they need to be. Rather than engaging the audience this type of activity tends to exclude them. Making something appear simple is a lot harder than looks. And quite frankly knowing exactly what to share it something that can only be experienced as you share it with an audience. You can start with what you think will work but it won’t be until you see the lightbulbs go on in the eyes of those who share it with that you’ll know for sure.
And maybe the last point to share here today which I think is the most powerful is that above all you need to learn how to connect with your audience. This can be as simple as learning how to affectively make eye contact, speak with intonation and tonality, use gestures that engage and correct body language. The idea and concept of connection is so important that in the new training I’m doing a presentation skills we spend several hours talking about how you can connect specifically with the audience.
As a preview to the training I want to mention that the most powerful way to connect with audiences is to engage them with questions, exercises and activities. To do these things effectively requires that you know your content so well that you can literally create a conversation from the stage without worrying that someone could hijack what you’re trying to do.
If you are new to speaking I would encourage you to get out there and speak as much as you can. The idea of speaking for free is the fastest way to start becoming good. I am not against speaking for free or even paying to speaking. But there will come a time when you just won’t be able to operate as a business unless you have some way of monetizing these kinds of opportunities. But for now just get out and speak.
Over the last two decades I have had a chance to attend countless seminars, workshops, presentations and lectures in personal development, self improvement or some other form of pubic education. As someone who teaches speakers for a living to create successful speaking business and platform skills I have seen “the good, bad and the ugly.” Often times those who fit ingot he bad or the ugly examples have glaring similarities. Some of them with a little help could become amazing eventually but some need a direct return to the basics or in some cases find a new career option. Here are a few of the big mistakes I see the “bad and the ugly” making that could be fixed or become deal breakers.
1)They don’t prepare – When a speaker isn’t prepared it becomes glaringly obvious and painful to listen to. Just because a person works in a specific field or has some experience in what they are invited to speak about does not mean that they have the skill to explain it from the stage to others. Get prepared with you material and organize it into a presentation that others can understand and grain from. It isn’t just a matter of being educational its also a matter of being entertaining. If its just information we are looking for you might as well just go and read a book. Getting prepared means selecting the ideas and information that is going to be of most use to your audience and then determining the most interesting and effective way to present it. Winging it never works.
(As a side note on preparation most people underestimate the amount of preparation it takes to create a sustainable career as a speaker. You need to be able to do more than just talk. What value are you really adding? And unfortunately there are a lot of people who call themselves speakers who are actually not adding much value at all. Be honest with yourself – You know that you can do better!)
2)They try to share too much – Still following the discussion started above without preparing is the idea that some people prepare too much. Too much information is almost as bad as sharing nothing. The goal of your presentation should be to influence, education and make your audience better. If there is too much information (and irrelevant information) it becomes difficult to act on and therefore becomes useless. Make things digestible.
Get rid of needless and frivolous fluff in your presentation and everyone will thank you for it.
3)They don’t engage the audience – A professional speaker is different than a university professor. When you say university professor most people think of a lecture that does not engage or involve the audience. As a speaker you cannot do that. One of the things I encourage my students to do is to create an activity or some form of interaction for every major point they share. The more an audience is involved the more they will retain and want to continue a relationship with you.
4)They go way over their time – One of my mentors and friends made an interesting statement once. Betty Cooper once told me, “You can always tell a professional speaker by their ability to end on time.” Unfortunately many who call themselves speakers are just not at that level yet. In conversations with event organizers over the years this reappears as one of the more common reasons why speakers don’t get invited back. The organizer plans their event and is coordinating so many other activities including lunch breaks, other speakers, activities and more. If you go over even by 10 minutes you can put everything into chaos. Learn how to finish on time.
5)They rely too much on technology – More and more frequently speakers are relying too much on technology especially showing video after video to get their point across. Now don’t get me wrong I’m not against using video or av to get your point across but when your entire speech becomes a multimedia presentation you are no longer a speaker. You are a technician with a remote. On the note of av one of the other signs of an amateur is someone who hasn’t tested their av and spends the first 10 minutes of their presentation trying to figure out their laptop or projector. If it’s going to be that much of a problem leave it out.
There are a few thoughts for today. Hopefully they are useful.
Douglas Vermeeren is the Speaking Business Multiplier. His clients include beginning speakers all the way to celebrities, athletes, top business leaders and more. His focus is on helping them to develop high profit speaking, coaching and training businesses. He is the author of three books in the guerrilla marketing series and filmmaker behind 3 of the most popular personal development films of all time. http://www.DouglasVermeeren.com
One of the most important thing that is often forgotten about speaking is that it is really an exercise in positioning. As a speaker you have the ability, if you do it correctly, to position yourself as an authority, expert and trusted adviser to the audiences you address. Most speakers forget the importance of position and that is why most speakers are quickly forgotten soon after the events they speak at.
Position yourself as an expert begins with becoming a master of your subject. Many speakers ask me how do I know which aspect of my subject should I study? There can be so many things to learn about a subject how can you determine what should be included in your content or not? The answer is very simple. What are the problems that your audience is trying to solve. Once you discover the significant problem they are struggling with you can then structure your learning and presentations to seek out and share those solutions. Or naturally as you become highly versed in that area of your expertise you can create solutions that have never been available until you.
Positioning is power. Yet again, most speakers do not consider their speaking assignment very impactful. Each opportunity to share your perspective and voice is an opportunity for positioning. Too many speakers play it safe and keep their opinions to themselves. They avoid controversy. They avoid sharing ideas that rock the boat. They present in ways they have seen others present a million times and avoid taking risks, being creative and offering a change to the status quo. I challenge you to use all of these elements in your positioning.
Expert position is really about standing out and being recognized as unique and different. Unique and different never happens by accident. You must strategically decide who you want to be and what position you want to own. When you know this you can begin to shape your presentations to leave that impression.
decide today who you will be and what you want to be known for. then get busy and start creating it. It’s that simple.
It has been estimated that each day we have more than 70,000 unique thoughts. Most of these thoughts pass by with no action and little acknowledgement. Some of these thoughts however are somewhat important to us and connected to our dreams and desire yet again we do nothing. Why is that? What is it that provokes us to act on the thoughts we have?
The answer is simple. We act on thoughts that are emotionally charged for us. If a thought evokes no emotional response we let it go. There is no action.
On the other hand when a thought sits us or excites us enough it will cause us to do something. Its that simple.
Sot he real question is how do we get emotion (and high emotion at that) attached to the thoughts that we would like to turn into action?
That’s something we will cover in a future post. Stay tuned!!!
P.S. – By the way one of the things I really love about teaching Personal Power Mastery is that we actually experiment with this concept right in the seminar in real time. You learn how to establish empowering emotional charge around the ideas you want to turn into reality in your life. It’s pretty cool. For upcoming dates and locations go to http://www.PersonalPowerMasteryEven.com or http://www.DouglasVermeeren.com
Most people work on the experiences and the results they get and they neglect the roots of what made those things happen. In other words they focus on the effects and experiences rather than the cause. As a result many of the things they want to create, like lasting change or new habits for example, never happen. They may experience a sense of excitement as they experience a temporary change or small reward but the real lasting results elude them. It’s almost as if they have cut off a few branches on a tree yet the roots continue to grow the same things over and over again.
In some ways its like the doctor who treats your condition based on what you tell him about rather than conduct an examination of the symptoms and the situation. The reason this occurs is that the human mind is impatient. It wants to solve a problem and move forward. The easiest stuff to deal with is surface stuff. Anything deeper takes time.
But it is the deeper stuff where the real problems get solved and lasting change is created. Our thoughts, beliefs, feelings and expectations create our actions and habits and since those things occur below the surface the only way to get things happening in to go deep.
Before we can have any real and lasting results in our life we need to go deeper than just our surface actions. We must investigate why we create what we tend to create and what we feel, expect and believe that have engineered those results.
As we realize where we have begun and make changes the very essence of who we are begins to take shape. And as we are aware of who we are and recognize where we want to be we will arrive closer to our desired outcomes.