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What you say can ruin your day – BAM #8

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What you say can ruin your day – Bam #8
By Douglas Vermeeren


Words have power beyond what most people realize. They have the ability to help us shape our world in both positive and negative ways. If you think carefully about words and what they represent it is is now surprise that they have so much power.

Words are the way we communicate ideas with each other and with ourselves. Words are essentially assigned expressions that represent ideas or describe experiences from our thoughts. In addition, to describing what we are thinking they also have great power to lead our thinking. Words expressed often enough can also become beliefs. Beliefs influence our actions or inaction. If you really explore the way words are linked to our ability to success the power they have is truly overwhelming and should not be under estimated.

I’d like to start with what we say to each other. It doesn’t take much investigation to remember moments when the words of another have lifted and inspired you to become better and take action. The other side of the coin is also true. The words people say may often hurt and paralyze us. Words often strengthen or weaken and destroy relationships. Sometimes the words said to us (either positive or negative)stay with us for a long time and shape how we feel about ourselves and our abilities. Indeed, it is true to say that simple words can shape the entire course of our life.

More important that what other people say to us is what we say to ourselves. There is an ancient saying attributed to the Samurai which says that, “When we conquer the enemy within, no enemy from without can destroy us.” While it is true that others may encourage or discourage us their words have limited power until we decide to repeat them to ourselves with certainty.

The more often we repeat words to ourself the more solidly fixed they become in our mind. As we partner those words with evidence or experiences that support those ideas in our mind the more those ideas become beliefs. Once the beliefs become stronger in our mind they influence our actions which in turn dictate our outcomes and results. Naturally the stronger the belief becomes the more significant and major actions we are willing to take.

My challenge to you today is to carefully observe your language and notice carefully when you use words or phrases that are not in line with your goals. Recognize also the negative talk from others and decide that you will not give it credibility to take root in your thoughts. Everything you think about long enough will eventually appear in reality. So choose carefully what you will tell yourself and what you will listen to from others. (And there is a significant difference between hearing and listening too.)

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What do TV, the internet and video games have in common?

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Is watching TV a problem?

Is watching TV a problem?

What do TV, the internet and video games have in common?

By Douglas Vermeeren


Have you ever sat down at the internet and lost track of time? Hours have passed by and when you got up to walk away you really weren’t sure what you accomplished or where the time went? I have.


I have also seen the same thing occur as I sat watching TV with my family or watched my kids play video games.


While I am not against the occasional few hours spent in recreation doing enjoying a few TV shows or chatting with friends on Facebook I believe this is a problem that is tightening its grip on our society at large.


No longer is TV or the computer a matter of a few hours a week, but recent studies show that the average person is now spending between six and nine hours a day engaged in electronic activities. And we all know people that exceed even those estimations, these people are now being affectionately referred to in some circles as ‘netjunkies.’


Is this preoccupation with technology just wasting time or is there more to the story?


Research demonstrates that the issues go far deeper than just time gone missing. In fact, a recent report circulated through doctors offices and universities listed screen time as one of the key contributors to obesity in youth. As a result of this obesity the following side effects appear: Higher rates of diabetes, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, weaker muscles, weaker bones and trouble sleeping. 1


From a psychological point of view the thinking of these individuals also changed.


There was a significant increase in feelings of depression, a decline in social activity, mood changes, and an increase in feelings and thoughts of aggression.


And if you think that thoughts of aggression occur just because of involvement in a violent video game or TV show, try this:  The next time some one you know is watching a TV show or engaged in activity on the internet try and start a conversation. Instnat irritability!  More and more value is being placed in the activity on the screen rather than you, the person in the room.


Studies have also indicated that access to instant response or gratification on the internet has an effect on the cognitive processes of the brain. No longer do we invest effort and thought to consider and issue or find an answer, we expect the answers to be available at the push of a button.  Our thinking is done for us.


As an example, a recent survey indicated that many schools across the United States and Canada are lowering their expectations for things like spelling comprehension, because they acknowledge that students can rely on spell check programs and so forth. As a result that skill is diminished.


While there are consequences to overexposure to TV, the internet and video games they can be useful and beneficial when used with wisdom and balance. The recommended intake of these activities from most professionals is between one and two hours daily.


The biggest challenge with over indulgence in these activities is the same as any addictive behavior. These activities will rob you of your ability to reach your greatest potential and accomplish goals and achievements in your own life.


I recently listened to an audio CD titled, “Turn off the TV and get a life.”  I have seen this actually happen for many people. They turned off the TV and amazing things began to happen in their life.


The results have been wonderful: Books have been written, new talents have been developed and real-world adventures have begun. As I conducted my studies of the 400 world’s top achievers I met one individual who created a fortune in his business by just learning how to use his non-productive TV, internet and video game time in new ways. You can do the same.


The majority of successes created in the virtual world provides no recognition in the real world.


You can either watch someone on the TV live a their life, live a fake virtual life on the internet or you can turn everything off and go create a real life, with real results, in the real world where the possibilities are endless.




Douglas Vermeeren is the director of the SUCCEED Research Center which is dedicated to sharing research on the systems that top achievers use to create lasting success. Over the last decade Vermeeren has interviewed more than 400 of the world’s top achievers, including business leaders, celebrities and professional or Olympic athletes. Douglas Vermeeren is the author of Guerrilla Achiever (With Jay Levinson) and the creator of The Opus (with Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen, Dr. Joe Vitale, Dr. John Demartini, Dr. Sue Morter, Marci Shimoff, Bill Bartmann, Bob Doyle and Morris Goodman.) Currently Doug is completing another film entitled, How Thoughts Become Things. This film will explore the process of how our thoughts become manifest in our lives as reality.  For more on this film go to: For more on Douglas Vermeeren go to: Douglas Vermeeren can be reached for speaking engagements and training at 1.877.393.9496.


1. Too much screen time? What’s the big deal?, Health care brochure, Written by Nancy Calhoun, Title #5557 Journey works publishing.