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Our Values determine so much!

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Our Values determine so much.
Personal Power Mastery Minute by Douglas Vermeeren

This is a most important subject which I anticipate you will be seeing many times in the future with Personal Power Mastery. The reason why is that people always support what they value most. Let me put it another way, Why do people struggle to get to their goals? Why do people struggle to keep New Years resolutions? Why do employees miss sales goals? Why do people even forget things they said they would do? Why do people even forget important dates like birthdays and anniversaries? It all has to do with our values.

What we value most becomes a priority.

What we don’t value gets procrastinated, discarded, postponed, avoided or experiences whatever other kind of neglect you can think of. We always do what we value most. We always protect what we value most. And so therefore our life is really a reflection of what we value most.

For some people we can instantly see that values that are not creating patterns of success. i call these the patterns of poverty. They include values such as immediate gratification, the value to impress others, the value to appear powerful, the desire to be liked.

There are additional values that rob people of success and that can include appetites that can’t be feed with food, drugs, sex, and any other physical indulgence.

And naturally there are ego based values that also keep success from coming your way.

The truth of the matter is after conducting seminars for the last 20 years and having thousands of attendees come through our doors even these values are not what people really want. Most of the above we have been taught by sources outside our true self that these values if you embrace them will bring happiness and fulfillment. Instead the are nothing but counterfeits and imposters in the long run.

The most powerful values come from what I call Authentic of purpose.

When people discover their sense of true purpose their true values appear. Most of these are often about connecting with the true self and connecting with the goodness in other people. (That will be an article for another time.)

But for today I would challenge you to think carefully about what you really want and if you spend some soul-searching time to consider the roots of why you really want it you will be able to discover how genuine your values are. And the shift that you might experience could very well surprise you.

 

Your Will-power starts with your Why-Power! Personal Power Mastery

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Your Will-power starts with your Why-Power! Personal Power Mastery
By Douglas Vermeeren, Personal Power Mastery

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Too often I have people that attend my seminars ask about the idea of motivation. Most of their questions and comments revolve around the challenge that have experienced in the past about not being able to stay motivated. They often share how they’ve thought out their goals and they really know what they want. They even confess that the things they have set goals around really are going to serve them best in the long run. They stress in their explanation that they are bewildered by how they just can’t follow the logical plans that were so well-laid.

The challenge does not rest in their desires or even their well-laid plans. The challenge lies in how our brain actually chooses the activities it will support. Without getting into a long explanation this particular post actually addresses a few of the various “powers” we discuss in Personal Power Mastery. I could have easily positioned this topic with The Power of Focus, The Power of Momentum, The Power of Thought, The Power of Values and others. Today I’m going to position this article and solution that I want to discuss squarely on The Power of Values.

To get to the heart of the matter as quickly as possible I’m simple going to share that our actions and motivation only coincidences with our highest values. In other words, we give our attention to the things that are most valuable to us. And by the way that is with every activity through out every moment of the day.

Let me share an example from the lives of one of my students. (But it might as well be my life as I am sometimes guilty of the same thing) One of my students Shane works at home. He is a home based entrepreneur. He has three small children who are now in school but are at home during the summer. Shane loves his business which is web design and social media marketing. However his highest value is his family and especially spending time with his wife and children and seeing them happy.

Recently Shane was telling me about a day at home during the summer. He had a lot of work to do and several clients counting on him with a handful of projects. Just as he was getting started his wife and kids appeared on the scene and pointed out the beautiful sunny day outside. Shane’s highest values are his family and so his attention shifted there.

Within a few moments plans were made to go to the zoo for day. Obviously Shane’s highest value caused him to stop working and he went with the family to the zoo. Thankfully after the kids went to bed Shane was able to catch up on his work.

Thankfully this was a happy ending but for too many people it is not. They are constantly placing their real value on immediate gratification, the current netflix series or even taking a nap. This misplacement of activity is the primary reason most people never accomplish their goals and dreams.

But how do you stay motivated with what matter most to you in the long term? How do you stay focused on the goals that you know will give you best rewards? How do you do what you logically know you should do and keep recommitting to do?

The first thing to understand is the emotional part of your brain is more important than the logical part of your brain. Your brain does not seek out logical activities as the priority. It does seek to satisfy the emotional demands first because those necessities are closely tied to our survival instincts.

So if you want to create more success and stay focused with the logical goals the question really becomes how do you make the Logical more emotional?

There are several techniques that we share in the Personal Power Mastery live sessions but the one I’d like to focus on here is the seek out more important emotional reasons why the goals you’ve chosen are important to you. Why do you really want these things in your life? And the more powerful and emotionally connective your answers for why are the more power you will have to get to your goals.

As the article title infers – Your will-power with be a reflection of your why-power. if you have no reason why, when emotional disruptions appear in your day you will have no will power to stick to the task at hand.

Emotional connections to your goals and dreams help you to create boundaries that keep you on task.

Exercise for today – Consider your top tasks for the week. What do you really need to get done in order to make progress towards your really big goals? Take some time right now and come up with some strong emotional reasons why these activities need to get done.

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Absolutely absolute! by Douglas Vermeeren

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I am absolutely thrilled about life. I wish I could say that I felt that way everyday and in every way all the time. The truth of the matter is that I get frustrated, hurt and angry sometimes just like everyone else. I am human after all. But I do find that there are several things I can do that keep me more dialled in to my best self and I’d like to share a few of those things:

1)Have a mission, set goals and revisit them often

As I feel like I have a purpose I become on purpose. It’s very difficult to stay frustrated or bummed out when I have something that I am working on. An idle mind imagines and dwells with more problems. When we are busy working at something that excites us we don’t have time or energy to waste.

thAs I regularly revisit those goals I am able to reignite myself and get more on purpose. It’s hard to stay down when you are busy. In addition, by revisiting these goals often I can often see progress (even if it’s it not much) and that motivates me to do more and helps me feel good that I’ve made progress. I’ve consistently found with my students in Personal Power Mastery and confirmed it multiple times in my own life that when we make progress we are most happy.

2)Surround yourself with people who lift you higher.

You’ve heard it said that we become like those we surround ourselves with. And you’ve also heard hat tour income, relationships and habits will gravitate to the five people you spend the most time with. I believe that’s because we rise to the expectations of our peers and we would do more for others than we often are willing to do for ourselves. A great example of this are most mothers I know. They serve everyone around them and are often the last ones to get taken care of. They do more for others than they will do for themselves.

Surround yourself with amazing people and you will rise to an amazing life.

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3) Decide what you will tolerate and raise your standards

You get absolutely what you decide your standards are. This not only applies to your finances, relationships, organization, cleanliness and so forth. Yes these are all standards, but this also applies to your thinking as well. You set the standards of what you will allow for your thinking. You can control your thinking to allow certain thoughts to stay. You’ve heard it said that happiness is a choice. So is worthiness. So is confidence. So is contentment. And any other positive thought you wish to have in your life. Set your standards high and put your focus on thoughts that empower you. When you have a thought that doesn’t make you feel good don’t give it space to grow. Dismiss it and remind yourself that it is below your standards of thought.

Stay tuned for more! Until then remember that now is your time! Make it count!

douglas-vermeeren-600Douglas Vermeeren – Are you ready to level up? You’ve come to the right place. Douglas Vermeeren is considered one of the top leaders in personal development and achievement psychology. He is considered by many to be the modern day Napoleon Hill for his extensive research into the lives and psychology of more than 400 of the world’s top achievers. Douglas Vermeeren is the creator of The Personal Power Mastery program which helps you unlock your most powerful self and created positive changes in your life.

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Power quote 8 – Douglas Vermeeren – Personal Power Mastery

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Power quote 8Life is incredible. Think about the air coming through your nose. Your heart beats. The warmth of the sun on your face. Your ability to chose. These are all things we overlook or often take for granted. Life is amazing!

Recognize your life is a blessing.

Once you do that you gain power to change your situation. You can’t expand your lifestyle until you appreciate your life!

Everything around you can change – Douglas Vermeeren

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Everything around you can change

By Douglas Vermeeren, Creator of Personal Power Mastery

Too often people become discouraged because they are caught in the middle of a less than perfect situation. Sometimes these circumstances can even be painful. They are certainly not inspiring and often times do not give the individual involved the tools or beliefs that things can be better. we are highly influenced by what we surround ourselves with and these things often limit us rather than empower us. But are we trapped by where we are and who we spend time with. Is there no hope to live the dreams we have if we are surrounded by challenging circumstances?

The simple answer is YES! Things around you can change. Here are a few significant ways that negative circumstances can change. And quickly…

  1. Change the way you look at things and they will change. When we see things as a challenge they stay that way. But when we look at them as stepping stones to a new situation they become that. I do recognize that some situations are just difficult to paint positive. In some situations such as a abuse that may be near impossible. And quite frankly when something is just plain wrong you should not look at it in an acceptable manner. But even in those severe negative situations you do have a choice in how you will respond and react. Rather than look for a way through LOOK FOR THE WAY OUT! On this note I also want to mention that there is support, help and loving people who will be there for you to make this escape. Start looking at it in the way that you know there are people who will support your exit. You are not alone. Even this shift of perception will give you strength and courage to start to create the changes you need.
  2. Raise your standards. As you change what you will tolerate your entire situation will change. If you decide that you deserve better or more in your specific situation you will start to become more. As You become more you will begin to attract the things that will change your situation for the better. Most people settle for their current situation and so their current situation continues. If you don’t level up your life you will always get what you’ve always gotten.
  3. Get moving. Action always changes a situation. Results appear as a result of an equation. Things around you will change in the same way.  1 + 1 = 2. You have control over one of the 1s in this equation. It’s you. If you decide to raise your standards to a 2 and act that way the end result is this equation 2 + 1=3. The end result has changed. You can also choose to not participate which turn turns your 1 into a 0. 0+1=1. The equation is changed again. recently one of of my students shared that their marriage wasn’t going as planned. There was a lot of conflict and challenge. We had this discussion about equations and she decided that even if her partner was not going to be loving and kind she could be. Even if her partner didn’t value some of the things she did she would still live her live with those values. So in some circumstances she became a 2 in their 1 +1 and a 0 in their 1+1. As you can imagine things changed in both circumstances. Douglas Vermeeren PPM 47In this case her spouse decided he needed to change his behaviour to keep up with the new and improved version of his spouse and this story now has a happy ending. That is not always the case, sometimes the changes to where you know you need to be result in a recognition that you and the other person are more empowered apart.  as you create yourself in the way you know you should be those answers will appear.

Change is required for success and satisfaction in life. When the things around you begin to conspire to help you magical and marvellous things begin to happen. Everything around responds to what you do next. Both in positive and negative ways. So determine carefully what you want and then use these 3 concepts to shift your reality to follow your vision.

Douglas Vermeeren – CHANGE: It begins with Influence

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Change has been the recent subject of many of my posts and articles. The reason why is that change is such an important topic. To get to new outcomes in life and achieve higher levels of success, self worth or power change is required. Naturally you’ve heard the logic that if you keep doing what you’ve always done you’ll always get what you’ve always gotten. While this sounds very easy on the surface to do new things can require sometimes overwhelming change. Even for the brave and courageous there are changes that are just very difficult to make.

One of the biggest obstacles that I have noticed as I have taught change to my students is they often begin their desires for change to focus on things outside of their control. For example, they want to change their spouse, boss, their children and so forth. Often times they find themselves in consequences they created or fell into and rather than face those consequences they want to change those too. The truth is that while change can begin quickly the results or new solutions of change sometimes take time to unravel the problems that exist in the moment.

Often change is temporary or ineffective because the person making the change becomes discouraged when things aren’t working as quickly as they’d like. This article is not on the speed of change although there are many things we can do to get lightening speed change. But rather this is on the one things that slows change more than anything else.  And that is to give our power of change away to things beyond our influence.

Douglas Vermeeren PPM 40You can only change what you choose to own. In other words, you can only have power over the things within your influence. I’ve often heard the argument when a relationship isn’t working “Why should I change. I’m okay It’s him/her that’s the problem.” That may be true (or not) but the one thing I will tell you is that every circumstance is the result of an equation. You + The other person = the Situation. Maybe it could look like this 1 + 1 = 2. In order to change the situation it is not necessary to change the other person. Starting with you will actually also change the results. If you change yourself to a 2 instead of 1 the equation looks like this: 2 + 1 = 3.

Changing the other person or other element of the equation rarely works in the long term. Sure a person may rise their behaviour to respond to the last argument or frustration. but it is never lasting.

However when you take the first steps to change – everything can change. Remember though it can take time and patience, but it will change. It has to – that’s just the way equations work out. When you change what you do you change what you get.

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So the next time you are tempted to require change of someone else recognize that it will not give you long lasting change. I have always loved the saying, “People are like string you can pull them along, but you can never push them.” If you want the situation to rise lead it there.

 

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Douglas Vermeeren – A key to creating lasting change

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Change is the only real constant in the universe. Nothing ever stays the same. Change however is one of the most resisted principles in human nature. Internally we know we want more and need to become more in order to get it. However we find change and deliberate adaptation often difficult. (Which is strange considering we are the planets best organisms at creating change and adaptation.)

We don’t like change because it can bring stretching and discomfort. It can also lead us into new and unknown experiences. The only time when change is clearly welcome is when we are escaping a pain or fear far worse than the uncomfortable or unknown experience.

Douglas Vermeeren ppm 38The key then to drawing lasting desired changes into our life is to see a better future once that change has been achieved. I’m not just speaking about visualization or a creating a vision board, although those are excellent tools for establishing this vision. I am really talking about a clear view of how these changes will effect us long term. How they will effect those around us. How they will effect our future opportunities. Recognizing how these changes fit with our values. How participating in this new version of ourselves will produce results over the long term.

When we start to see a compelling and powerful future these changes become easier to make. The bottom line is that until we see this kind of a future it is very difficult to pursue the idea of change. When we leave a place of challenge we are not inclined to trade it for uncertainty.

No one acts strongly or commits to outcomes they doubt are achievable. We act on what we believe and emotionally desire! See your future in powerful and positive ways and you’re already heading in that direction.

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