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What you say can ruin your day – BAM #8

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What you say can ruin your day – Bam #8
By Douglas Vermeeren

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Words have power beyond what most people realize. They have the ability to help us shape our world in both positive and negative ways. If you think carefully about words and what they represent it is is now surprise that they have so much power.

Words are the way we communicate ideas with each other and with ourselves. Words are essentially assigned expressions that represent ideas or describe experiences from our thoughts. In addition, to describing what we are thinking they also have great power to lead our thinking. Words expressed often enough can also become beliefs. Beliefs influence our actions or inaction. If you really explore the way words are linked to our ability to success the power they have is truly overwhelming and should not be under estimated.

I’d like to start with what we say to each other. It doesn’t take much investigation to remember moments when the words of another have lifted and inspired you to become better and take action. The other side of the coin is also true. The words people say may often hurt and paralyze us. Words often strengthen or weaken and destroy relationships. Sometimes the words said to us (either positive or negative)stay with us for a long time and shape how we feel about ourselves and our abilities. Indeed, it is true to say that simple words can shape the entire course of our life.

More important that what other people say to us is what we say to ourselves. There is an ancient saying attributed to the Samurai which says that, “When we conquer the enemy within, no enemy from without can destroy us.” While it is true that others may encourage or discourage us their words have limited power until we decide to repeat them to ourselves with certainty.

The more often we repeat words to ourself the more solidly fixed they become in our mind. As we partner those words with evidence or experiences that support those ideas in our mind the more those ideas become beliefs. Once the beliefs become stronger in our mind they influence our actions which in turn dictate our outcomes and results. Naturally the stronger the belief becomes the more significant and major actions we are willing to take.

My challenge to you today is to carefully observe your language and notice carefully when you use words or phrases that are not in line with your goals. Recognize also the negative talk from others and decide that you will not give it credibility to take root in your thoughts. Everything you think about long enough will eventually appear in reality. So choose carefully what you will tell yourself and what you will listen to from others. (And there is a significant difference between hearing and listening too.)

Lead an awesome life: An Awesome life is living your life by decision. You are where you want to be, doing the things that excite you, inspire you and bring out the best in you and in those around you.

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Where can you find the most happiness? Awesome question -BAM #2

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by Douglas Vermeeren

A recent study on happiness supports the same findings we arrived at with the Be Awesome Movement. (#BeAWESOMEMovement)

The study focused on the two major areas people spend money. Those two areas are on purchasing tangible objects and purchasing experiential activities or experiences.  That same study found that while purchasing objects provided an instant rise in happiness levels, those levels were fleeting and disappeared quickly. In other words after the object was purchased and now considered a potion it was taken for granted and contributed very little to happiness factors.

On the other hand purchasing experiences or experiential activities provided for longer and more sustained happiness.

In the Be Awesome Movement we have also found that creating memorable experiences creates memorable memories both of which contribute to happiness. Objects contribute more towards satisfaction than lasting happiness.

So keep this in mind next time you have a purchasing choice to make. Don’t just buy stuff. Spend your money on things which you can experience like a trip, or some tickets to an event or something that you can experience. in the end you will be happier that you did.

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An Awesome life is living your life by decision. You are where you want to be, doing the things that excite you, inspire you and bring out the best in you and in those around you.

Join the Be Awesome Movement!!!

 

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Little shift creates big changes – BAM post 1

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Bam-813x600As a personal development teacher I recently took some time to reflect seriously on my life and some of my experiences. Like everyone else my life is not immune to challenges. Over the last several years I have had personal tragedy and the loss of loved ones. I have had business challenges and even had those close to me betray my trust and create really massive problems for me. I have also had relationship struggles where I wanted to be the best husband, father, son, brother and so forth and instead ended up often times hurting those I love the most. Long and short – it is often difficult to be human. We try our best but sometimes our best either isn’t good enough or it is simply misunderstood.

To those I have ever injured I am sorry. And to those who have hurt me I forgive you. Life is too short to carry these kinds of heavy burdens. Maybe I’m being too simplistic but I’ve come to the conclusion that if something does make you better or give you power it might be time to let it go. There are enough victims in the world and I don’t want to join their ranks. And I don’t recommend you do either.

As I thought about my existence (and the existence and lives of many of my students) I felt to empathize with the challenges but I felt an extremely grateful sense of hope. As I thought about all the blessing I had in my life I came to the incredible realization that life is truly AWESOME! I put those letter in capital intentionally. I really do feel life is AWESOME in all capital letters.

But this post isn’t just about life being awesome it’s about creating awesome even when things don’t necessarily appear to be going that way. I believe in the law of attraction and that we can create our lives according to the desire we have in our hearts. I also believe that we must have correct expectations and that means that things won’t always go right – but having that expectation gives us even more power to create awesome. (More on this idea later.)

As I thought about how awesome is created in life I came to the conclusion that Awesome is like Happiness. Both are a choice we make. It is not something that someone else can grant to us. It is not something we can buy. In some ways it is not even something we can earn. (Bad things do happen to good people from time to time. And rewards and punishments do come to those who don’t deserve it.) But once we chose to be awesome and experience awesome it does begin to flow to us.

First let me define an awesome life. To me an Awesome life is living your life by decision. You are where you want to be, doing the things that excite you, inspire you and bring out the best in you and in those around you. I like that definition.

To live a life that fits that description is a choice. Over the next while I am going to share some of my findings on what that choice looks like. It is not a single event. Once the choice is made there are habits of awesomeness to develop. Awesome is a consistent kind of thinking, actions and habits that support that initial choice.

As with any attempt to progress there is always opposition. I have experienced a lot of it personally as I have tried to set aside my ego and self interest and start living in a way that fits the awesome description above. There are moments it is really easy to slip back into the easy,quick-fix solution mode that I am trying to put behind me.

But as my experiments thus far have yielded (even in the short time I started really trying) I have seen improvements in my relationships, abundance, health, my feelings about myself and even my connection to spirituality. as the title of this article suggests this little shift has created big changes. If any of these areas above are something you would like to improve stay tuned because I am very excited to share what I’ve learned about lifting life to the level of Awesome!

Feel free to share your thoughts and stories if any of this helps. I am calling this the Be Awesome Movement. (BAM for short) And this movement is yours as much as it is mine. Join me and try the experiments. The more awesomeness the better.

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