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Are you too perfect for success? Personal Power Mastery minute with Douglas Vermeeren

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Most people never create the successes they want in life because they play safe and except perfection. They spend too much time trying to get it perfect and miss out of the essential opportunities to make massive progress. Make a commitment to yourself today that once you decide what you want you take action because even mistakes and failures will move you closer to your goals. Boldness has power! And most mistakes and failure contain the knowledge, power and seeds for the successes you want to create in the future. #douglasvermeeren #ppm #personalpowermasteryDouglas Vermeeren Personal Power MAStery 181

Level up your inner Voice – Personal Power Mastery minute

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Level up your inner voice – Personal Power Mastery Moment

By Douglas Vermeeren

You’ve heard the saying that whether we think we can or think we can’t we are right. My interviews with top achievers and observance of those who are less successful have proven this true countless times. Our success begins with our thoughts, and even more specifically with the quality of those thoughts and what we say to ourselves.

Often most people don’t realize however, that its not the great and grand thoughts that pass through our mind each day that actually make the most difference. In fact it is the small almost harmless appearing thoughts that often have the most weight. It is the small thoughts that we often pay little attention to that condition us as to what we believe is possible for ourselves. Those little doubts are like cracks that appear in a damn. Almost almost invisible at times they make the structure of the damn weak and ready to collapse the minute something large presses against it. 

The same is true of the small thoughts most people continually nurture around doubt, scarcity, lack of self worth and so forth. Because those thoughts move freely in the mind without any attempt at repair when some great opportunity comes along that could really benefit them they are not able to take it into their lives because they have allowed small doubting thoughts to settle for too long. 

If you would like to achieve better outcomes in your life and experience more success the first step is to pay very careful attention to how you communicate to yourself. Positive and empowering communication must proceed powerful and positive results.

My challenge to you today is to start looking more carefully at your thoughts about yourself and to yourself. Start believing more in your ability to succeed then listening to your voices of doubt. 

About the Author

What would you do with the secrets of the world’s top achievers? Would you level up your income? Your business? Your opportunities? Now you can find out because those secrets are now available to you.

Over the last two decades Douglas Vermeeren has conducted extensive first hand research into the lives of the worlds top achievers. He has the success strategies of top business leaders from Nike, Reebok, Fruit of the Loom, FedEx, KFC, United Airlines, Microsoft, Disney and others to share with you. ABC television and FOX Business refer to him as the modern Day Napoleon Hill. 

In addition, he is the producer and director of 3 out of 10 of the top personal development movies ever made. He is the producer of The Opus (featuring Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen, Joe Vitale, John Demartini, Marci Shimoff, Morris Goodman, Bob Doyle and others.) The Gratitude Experiment (Bob Proctor, Marie Diamond, John Demartini, John Gray) and The Treasure Map (John Demartini, Loral Langemeier, Raymond Aaron, Marshall Sylver, Randy Gage.)

He has authored 3 books in the Guerrilla marketing series and is the CEO of The Excel Leadership Academy which provides leadership training to many of the worlds top companies.

He is a regular featured expert on FOX, CNN, ABC, NBC, CTV, CBC, The Huffington Post, NY Daily News and others.

For more info go to http://www.DouglasVermeeren.com

An important component of Relationships – Personal Power Mastery

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An important component of relationships
Personal Power Mastery by Douglas Vermeeren

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Relationships are one of the five pillars of success. We will talk later about what that means and why they are so important. This pillar of relationships is not limited to a spouse, one of your children or even your extended family – it refers to everyone you interact with and how you are connected to them. But today I want to talk about the closer family relationships and let’s face it sometimes we don’t always feel as connected to them as we would like.

Being connected to others can sometimes be a hard thing. Even when our intentions are great and we want more connection the other person may resist and not feel the same way. Sometimes we may have even made mistakes that have hurt the other person or done something to break down trust and connection.

While this short article won’t give you all the secrets of creating a stronger relationship instantly I want to share with you one observation that has created a special connection. I can it “our secrets.”

By definition I guess you could say the “our secrets” concepts is essentially creating a bond with someone you love by simply sharing or creating experiences that belong to just you and that other person. I guess in some ways its very similar to the concept of an “inside joke.” Something only the tow of you would find funny and no one else would understand.

Having “our secret” creates a special bond because now only the two of you have something that no one else on the planet shares. Let me give you an example of an “our secret” moment. (And by the way, just my sharing it now includes you in “our secret” but don’t worry I have permission from my sons to share this one.)

When my two sons were little it was pretty easy to give out hugs and kisses and they didn’t really care what their friends thought. But as they grew a little older (somewhere are eight or nine) it became a little embarrassing for them to say “I love you dad” or give me a hug with all their friends present. They still felt the same way but they just didn’t want to do the public display anymore.

So we came up with one of our most famous secrets. We call it N M W. And funny enough even when I say goodbye to my sons today (they are now in their twenties) you will still hear us say N M W.

When we say it no one has a clue what it means. And often people will ask us if they can get in on the secret. Most of the time we change the subject and keep them out. That keeps our special connection unique and exclusive. In some ways it bonds my boys even more to me. It helps them feel that they have something special. You are about to find out what it means…

N M W means No Matter what, No matter Where, No Matter When daddy loves me. Or from them to me, No Matter What, No Matter Where, No Matter When Jordan (or Jared) loves dad.

No matter what setting we have been in or no matter who is around my boys were no longer embarrassed or shy to shy N M W to me and I to them. It was “our Secret.”

Having intimate secrets like this that have meaning only to us has been one point of significant connection between us. It is exclusively our and because of this exclusivity it has made them feel that they are uniquely special. That is a powerful form of connection.

Over the years we have carefully decided who gets to be included in that secret.

I have similar secrets with my wife and some specific secrets even with my specific children. These represent a special form of trust or a bond between us.

Special connections like these create a sense of unique value in a relationship. When people feel a special or exclusive connection they have stronger bonds.

My challenge to you is look for unique ways to connect with those you love in ways that make them feel that they are unique and in a special position with you above all others in your life. It might be to develop a few of your own “secrets.” What can you do or create to help your loved ones feel that they are special or unique in your life?

Mindset creates movement – Douglas Vermeeren

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Our mindset is a critical factor in creating our successes. Through our mindset we consciously and subconsciously decide what we feel we are capable of, how easily we can progress and even what we are afraid of. If we don’t believe in our minds that we can we never will. In fact, if we our mindset is unsupportive we most likely won’t even try.

Mindset can also be compared to setting a thermostat. With a thermostat the temperature setting is determined and fixed. With mindset we make a resolution and commitment to a specific set of values and we act accordingly.

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You’ve heard that if you believe then you can achieve it. This is true. But even more powerful that is that if you are committed you WILL do it. Level up your mindset, get determined and your will see better results begin to flow to you. It’s not enough to simply believe – YOU MUST GET COMMITTED and that starts with mindset.

Douglas Vermeeren – PPM 11

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How Thoughts Become Things – 1

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How Thoughts Become Things – 1

All that a man achieves and all that he fails to achieve is the direct results of his own thoughts. – James Allen

How Thoughts Become Things – What we dwell on is what we become.

 

#1 Secret of How Thoughts become Things

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Mind Secrets

#1 Secret of How Thoughts become things

By Douglas Vermeeren

We have all heard that Thoughts become things. This is true. They do become things.  The question that most people struggle with is how do they do this? It is estimated that each day we have more than 70,000 unique thoughts. So what is it that controls our thoughts? How does our mind select which thoughts to develop and which thoughts to ignore? How do the prominent thoughts become things?

In order for thoughts to develop into reality they must be permitted to develop in the mind.

As they develop they grow and are built upon. If the spark of thought continues to grow action can result. Action will then bring that thought into reality.

Many of the thoughts that develop in the mind do not become a reality. We have all had thoughts that began as a brilliant burst of inspiration. Perhaps these ideas even got you excited for a few minutes, maybe an hour, a day or even a week… Then they faded away.  Even though they started as powerful ideas they did not end up as a tangible reality in your life?

What happened? Where was the break down? How could an idea so bright and exciting turn dim or disappear altogether.

Even more frustrating are the ideas that do not disappear. They anchor themselves in the back or your mind, they cling to you waiting for the day that you may act upon them. These are probably the most painful ideas. You know in your heart that if you did something with these kinds of ideas they would really make a difference in your life.

Perhaps it’s a business idea that you feel would make a lot of money. Or perhaps it’s an idea  or innovation that would make life easier for someone somewhere. Maybe an idea about someone you would like to have a relationship with? Or what you should do to improve the health of your own body? These are all common ideas that we are excited about, but we don’t allow them to grow. They remain unfulfilled in our mind.

What is it that holds us back? What is it that keeps us from creating the reality we are thinking about?

Expectation & Belief

One of the most significant factors that determines our reality are our expectations.

What we expect dictates what we believe could happen.

What we believe could happen is the line that all thoughts must pass in order to become action. Taking action on a thought is the way it is translated into reality.

Expectations can include what we believe a specific outcome will be, but also what we believe we are entitled to and how we believe we should act in certain situations.

As expectations can often be based on past experience or pre-determined values often our expectations will cause our thinking to follow a similar course to what we have done in the past.

Expectations of outcome often guide our thoughts and our behavior to conform our new experience with a past situation. Here are a few examples of where we have experienced this:

  • Meeting someone we didn’t like the second time. (It is true that it’s important to make a good first impression.) We’ve all had a time when we have met for a second time someone that rubbed us the wrong way when we met them at first. Based on the first interaction all visits that we may have with them in the future may be jaded.
  • Physical characteristics – this idea of being jaded by someone can even follow to others who have a similar resemblance to the one who rubbed us the wrong way. I had an experience where I recognized that I became a friend with someone because he resembled someone I was already very close to. I didn’t realize it until my wife said ‘you know who your new friend reminds me of?” and then she pointed out the resemblance between my friends. Here’s an interesting addition to this story, even though the new friend was rude, sarcastic and less than charming, I still try to think of him in positive ways because my expectations had been previously set by the first friend who was kind, loving, caring and a genuine friend.
  • We also see expectations at work in the movies. If I said Tom Hanks is in a movie what kind of movie do you think you’d be going to watch? What if I said Ben stiller? Would you envision a different kind of film? And when you went to see it how would you feel if it didn’t jive with your expectations? You’d be disappointed. In fact, Hollywood has seen a lot of movies over the years that didn’t make it simply because they changed the formula, or constructed a story with an actor contrary to your expectations.

Entitlement is also an overlooked element of expectations.  What you feel you are entitled to will dictate your thinking on certain matters.

There was a study conducted some years ago to determine the role that sacrifice or activity had on entitlement. The experiment involved two groups. One group was given a variety of tasks to complete and then after completing the work, was ushered into an empty room with a table and chair. On the table was an envelope with $50 bill and the words thank you written on the envelope.

The second group was simply ushered into the room. They had no work to do. The same envelope rested on the table.

The majority of people in the first group that had done the work felt that the envelope was left there for them and it was payment for their efforts. Most in the second group felt the envelope was meant for someone else and it was probably left there by mistake.

Work, sacrifice and effort give the mind a sense of entitlement.

The same can be seen in people that win the lottery. Countless studies have shown that many lottery winners end up with little or no money after a few years. I believe this has a lot to do with the principle of entitlement. Their mind did not believe that the reward was paid for and so it did not hold the value in their mind necessary to sustain it.

Entitlement is a mysterious thing. I often encounter people who feel that they have not yet paid the price to have what they want, to be who the really feel they should be, or have the relationships they deserve because they have not sacrificed what is required. This is a victim mentality and it keeps many from acquiring the reality they truly desire.

So a great question I would have is who determines the price you have to pay? That’s right, in the end you do. And until you feel that you are truly worth the reward often times you can’t bring it into your life. It’s time to rethink things a bit.

The next expectations are expectations about how we believe we should act. I call this social expectation. I have seen many great examples of this. I will share two with you:

A friend of mine is a police officer who often arrives first on the scene after a car accident. Once when we talked about the power of social expectation he shared the story of an accident he was called to sort out. This accident could have been avoided if social expectation were not an issue. One lady had rear ended the back of a man’s truck. It was a beautiful sunny day and the road conditions were ideal in every way.

As my friend pulled up in his squad car he expected it would simply be a case that the lady was not paying attention. To his surprise when he obtained the statement from the lady she said she saw the truck ahead of her, she wasn’t caught off guard and she wasn’t surprised. She just had no where to go.

What about switching lanes quickly or moving to one side to avoid the collision? She answered, well, I thought of that but wasn’t really sure if that was allowed. And I didn’t have time to make an appropriate signal of a lane change. Thank goodness no one was hurt. But the social expectation of staying in the lane is an example of something she had learned socially and what was expected of her in terms of signaling overuled her ability to avoid the collision.

The second experience I have seen at numerous seminars and motivational events. This lesson is often used by the speaker to teach people to think differently and to consider that there are often more direct routes than those we initially consider to solve a problem.

This is how the scenario plays out, the speaker typically takes a prize (I’ve even seen it done with $100 bill) and simply holds it up and asks “Who would like to have this prize?” Naturally a number of hands raise within the group. He asks again, “Who wants this prize?” Still more hands are raised in the group and often people begin to get a little excited. At this point the speaker asks again with more intensity in his voice, “Who wants the prize?” By this time the audience usually gets it and an audience member actually leaves their set and comes to claim the prize. Again this is a great example of social expectation.

Why won’t we leave the seat instantly to claim the prize? We don’t leave our seat to get the prize because we question ourselves. Is it the right thing to do? What will others think of me? Is it proper?  We ask ourselves similar questions on a daily basis that and as a result we prevent ourselves from acting on the thoughts that will empower us most.

Am I allowed to be so bold in my thinking? Or I can think it, but is it proper to act on it? What will others think? And so on. All of these doubts extinguish powerful thinking. And even worse than this is the thought that ‘things just aren’t done that way.’ Or there is a procedure that must be followed in order for it to be done right. In some cases this may be true, but often the very best ways are discovered by innovators who look for a better way than that which is considered traditional.

In a study of the most successful businesses and inventions of all time, you will find that the majority of these successes are innovations on existing ideas. I always get a smile when I hear that Thomas Edison is considered the greatest inventor of all time. It isn’t true. Every major invention that he produced from the light bulb, to the phonograph to the motion picture camera is an innovation on a earlier effort by someone else. You can be an innovator too.

You don’t have to think according to a set of imaginary rules.

Expectations are a great source of power as much as they can be a great obstacle to your success.

If we expect to fail we will not think in empowering ways. We do not dedicate action energy to created failing expectations a reality. That doesn’t mean we don’t dedicate thought to create negative expectations. we do that quite often. If we believe that expectation to be the coming reality, we will create it positive or negative.

If we want success and to create the life we really want we have got to expect it. When we expect to succeed, our thoughts become like a magnet directing all our energies to the success of the thought.

Just a few more thoughts on why expectation is important

The subconscious mind seeks to find solutions to challenges quickly and so it seeks for the most direct route to solutions in the thinking processes. The mind doesn’t really care if the solution is positive or negative. It just wants an answer. When we are on “automatic” pilot, so to speak, our expectations guide thinking almost entirely.

Because our mind is always looking for immediate solutions we think and act from a reactive position.   Essentially what our mind is doing is trying to protect us. It is constantly analyzing scenarios and situations to prevents us from experiencing harm or other things we may need to defend against.

So how can we build positive expectations?

Positive and empowering expectations must be build on purpose and ahead of time. They cannot be reactionary.

Why must they be planned ahead of time and how can that help?

In order to explain why it is important to plan ahead of time what you to expect let me address an important characteristic of how our mind remembers.

Let’s try this together.

I am going to ask you to remember two things, notice which of the two things is easier.

1)What was the date that United States entered world War 2?

2)What did your first love look like?

If you are like most people you found the first question to be much harder than the second. Why is that? The first question dealt with the recall part of your memory. It was a cold hard fact your mind went searching for.

The second dealt with recognition. You probably also spent a lot more time thinking about the second question and you might even still be thinking about it now. emotion is attached more to recognition than recall. for those of you who are familiar with the 5 ways the brain learns this would be experiential learning versus factual learning.

What’s the point? This is the point: It is a lot easier for your brain to recognize something than it is to recall it.

Back to how this effects expectations.

If you build your positive expectations clearly, carefully, and emotionally you will have greater power to recognize these expectations and when you are thinking in harmony with them. Your mind will begin to bring your thinking into a supportive position to these expectations and look for evidence to support your new expectations.

Your mind will also recognize what is not in harmony with your expectations and discard those thoughts.

Later in this course we will talk about how to build stronger expectations to overcome doubts that may exist within your subconscious mind.

But for now the important thing to remember is:

Expectation can be used in a positive way. Once we begin to expect things to occur in a way which is empowering to us our thoughts begin to direct our actions to follow that course.

What we expect, our thinking will support.

Expect good things and your thoughts will follow! If your thoughts follow you will begin to see the fruits of these expectations become a reality in your life.

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How Thoughts Become Things is a brand new movie that unfolds the power that thought plays in creating the results we want most in our lives. How is it that our thought  create our reality and how can we harness that power?

How Thoughts Become Things

How Thoughts Become Things