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Entrepreneur of Influence and Effective meetings

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Entrepreneur of Influence and effective meetings

By Douglas Vermeeren

Meeting are required for operating an effective meeting. Some of these meeting swill be with potential clients, hiring people to help and support your business, potential partnerships and joint ventures and to train your staff to implement new strategies and take over jobs you need to delegate. Whatever the purpose of the meetings they need to be effective if your business is going to thrive.

For those of you familiar with our Entrepreneur Influence program you will know that I had the chance to observe and learn first hand from more than 400 of the worlds top achievers. Some of the companies whose leaders I was privileged to learn from included FedEx, nike, Fruit of the Loom, Uber, UGG boots, Disney, JW Marriott and others. In this relationship of learning I was able to observe how they prepared for and participated in meetings.

The following suggestions will help you to make your meeting more effective and valuable for you:

1) All meetings should have a clear outlined purpose. One of the top achievers that learned from stated it this way, “We don’t attend meetings without a purpose and we don’t attend unprepared.” Speaking to the point of purpose first, all meetings must have an objective. I see many entrepreneurs who will accept and participate in nearly any meeting that any one wants to have. This included meetings with a client. Many small business owners and entrepreneurs take meetings too easily and too quickly. They meet with anyone who could be a potential client or relationship without qualifying that individual and without determining a purpose for the meeting.

Everyone in the meeting should be aware of and in harmony with the purpose. The more all involved are moving in the same direction and with the same conviction the more powerful and effective your meetings will be.

If you come to the meeting in a careless and casual way your results will be the same way.

You can’t create results without creating a purpose.

2) All meetings should be timely — What I mean by this is that all meetings should be at the right time and have a time limit. Firstly, what I mean by the right time is that meetings should be in their proper sequence and when those in the meeting are in a position to act on things. Part of this can be described as qualifying. For example, you wouldn’t meeting with a customer who is not ready to make a decision. But I also see many entrepreneurs who meet with potential services even though they are not yet in a position to hire those services. They claim they are just doing research. Why would you research services in an ever changing marketplace if you are not ready to act. Research when you are ready. Have meetings when you are ready to take action.

Another important consideration is to take the appropriate time to have your meeting. As I interviewed the worlds top business achievers I had one of these leaders teach me this lesson in a unique way. When I first approached him I asked if I could have fifteen minutes of his time. I believed that asking for less time would make it more likely that he would say yes to meet with me.

I was surprised that when I showed up for our meeting he placed a stop watch on the table and indicated he would measure our fifteen minutes. Thankfully I was prepared and the timing worked. After the conclusion of our fifteen minutes this individual thanked me for being on time and commented that I had earned his respect to be able to qualify for future meetings.

In a future meeting we talked about time. He pointed out something very interesting to me. He observed that most people when they meet with a client or group meeting they feel a need to have it be at least an hour. He further pointed out that this was a pattern we grew accustomed to through our time in school,. The teacher told us it took one hour to learn math or social studies and so therefore that’s what we think it takes. And now when we meet with people we automatically assume it takes the same. When people plan on meeting for an hour they fill up an hour.

He then asked me to think back over our fifteen minute meetings and point out how much more we had been able to get accomplished because we were focused.

In all our business activities we are training people how to treat us and respond to our business and brand. How you use your time in meetings is a powerful teacher.

3)All effective meetings require preparation — Determine ahead of time what you would like your outcomes to be, your objectives, your questions and what you would like to have taught. Make sure you consider all possible questions and difficulties. As I observed and worked with the top business leaders mentioned about I found it interesting that their meetings were rarely brainstorming sessions to consider questions that they were paying other people to come up with solutions for. Most of the time these meetings were session where people presented their findings and answers they had already prepared and thought about.

As we work with top entrepreneurs and train them for success we encourage the same patterns. When you meet with a client you should have already considered their questions, challenges and objections. You should have answers to these that make sense. This is what will position you as the expert. No one wants to hire a brainstorming partner. They all want resources they can trust and benefit from. The more you can demonstrate competence in your relationship the more trust and confidence you will earn.

In addition, when it is time to meet with someone for the purposes of hiring, partnering or joint venturing the more clarity you have around what you need and can offer and how you will support and train that individual the more likely success is in the end.

While there is more more that could be said about meetings these are three of the most important things to get you started. Remember never take a meeting unless it has the potential to reward you for your time and effort and move your business forward.

Over the last two decades Douglas Vermeeren has conducted extensive first hand research into the lives of the worlds top achievers. He has the success strategies of top business leaders from Nike, Reebok, Fruit of the Loom, FedEx, KFC, United Airlines, Microsoft, Disney and others to share with you. ABC television and FOX Business refer to him as the modern Day Napoleon Hill. He has authored 3 books in the Guerrilla marketing series and is the CEO of Entrepreneur Influence . He is a regular featured expert on FOX, CNN, ABC, NBC, CTV, CBC, The Huffington Post, NY Daily News and others. Come listen to the Podcast Entrepreneur of Influence for more business ideas and support!

HOW THOUGHTS BECOME THINGS – Why is this movie necessary?

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Since the explosion of the Law of Attraction concepts into public awareness in 2006 with the hit film The Secret,many people have had questions.

Many of the questions have focused on how exactly do our thoughts becomes things? And is everything in my life a result of the my thinking?  How do my intentions, emotions, feeling, dreams and goals become results?

Many of the answers given thus far have been inconclusive and often unclear.

While we have generally been told that the universe is made up of quantum energy that is responsive to our interactions with it, as of yet we really don’t understand how it all begins within our mind. That is the starting point. But the method and means of starting has been something that many are reluctant to talk about.

This has been a question I have been fascinated with for some time as well.

As I conducted my study of the world’s top achievers more than a decade ago I noticed significant differences in the way that a winner thought versus the thinking patterns of others. The differences were remarkable and I found them consistently in everything from the way the processed information and opportunities, to the emotions they used to get through difficult situations. One of the remarkable things that I have noticed since, as I have taught these traits of remarkable thinkers and doers, is that these methods of processing and performing can be learned and applied to nearly every endeavor you could imagine. In other words, your destination is never the problem – the challenge that most people experience is understanding their journey to get there. Successful thinking patterns can be learned and applied when understood.

In 2008, I put out my first film, The Opus, to address some of these ideas. The Opus was very well received and is still growing in popularity in various parts of the world. I loved the film. But just like the folks who put out The Secret I am often approached with questions that we were not able to address in the film.

For quite sometime I have been thinking it would be wonderful to do a follow up film to address these questions and introduce several new concepts that go deeper into the neuroscience of success based on what we have observed with the top achievers.

I have always felt that if a more complete picture could be given of ‘how thoughts become things’ that people would have more opportunity to implement the concepts and have clearer expectations of what results are possible and what is required on their part.

It is with great pleasure that I announce that we are preparing for the coming of a brand new film that will answer these questions.

The film is called “How Thoughts Become Things.”

The release date is April 8, 2020.

As with The Opus we will showcase various premieres around the world and will be looking for screening and coaching partners. We will also introduce an affiliate partnership opportunity where our friends and associates can profit from the films release. We will also introduce a coaching program where individual can share the How Thoughts Become Things in their own communities. As these programs develop we will share more information on how those interested can become involved.

We are excited with the journey we are making and look forward to sharing another exciting film with the world. This is valuable information that we believe will have a positive impact on all who have access to it.

Please feel free to share your thoughts and we look forward to seeing you at one of the premieres.

Doug

 

HOW THOUGHTS BECOME THINGS – Was The Secret wrong ?!?!?

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A brand new film called HOW THOUGHTS BECOME THINGS shed new light on several of the ideas and concepts that were shared in the 2006 Law of Attraction film The Secret. The Secret was an international global phenomenon that inspired people everywhere to activate something called the law of attraction in their lives. The concept was simple Thoughts Become Things and the universe responds to our feelings on a level of frequency and vibration. Many people scoffed at the idea while other embraced it as a new way of being.

Over a decade later the film HOW THOUGHTS BECOME THINGS is ready to answer the questions left behind from The Secret. In this effort to set the record straight some of the new revelations around the power of thought, the law of attraction, the role of emotions, overcoming negative thinking and quantum physics will astound you. Some of what you thought you understood on this subject will cause you to rethink what you have previously believed. In HOW THOUGHTS BECOME THINGS you will discover the process of HOW your thoughts develop and create your reality. You will also discover the process of BECOMING which refers to the changes that proper and empowered thinking can bring into your life.

Featured in this film are several returning starts from the film THE SECRET and several new additions who will add much to the conversation.

This film features Bob Proctor, John Demartini, Joe Vitale, John Assaraf, Marie Diamond, Denis Waitley, Bob Doyle, Douglas Vermeeren, Travis Fox, Meagan Fettes, Karen Perkins and Marina Bruni.

Here are few thoughts from the film:

Emotion is what is creating your life. You cannot create without emotion. – Joe Vitale

Scarcity thinking is manifest in jealousy, comparison, Competition, Criticism and complaining.  If you want to improve your situation you need to let go of scarcity thinking. – Douglas Vermeeren

 Sometimes people are afraid to think differently than their families, their friends, their neighbours or their colleagues  because then they will stand out.  And if they stand out they could be left out.  – Marie Diamond

What you believe to be true is true for you. But it’s not necessarily based on reality.            – Dr. Karen Perkins

Some people think that to make the law of attract work, to be able to create a life you love that you can never have a negative thought and that’s just not true. – Bob Doyle

There’s a huge difference between having thoughts and thinking. Thinking involves higher cortical functions of the brain, whereas thoughts, they’re just there. They’re random. Some make sense, some don’t . Our job then is to be aware of the thoughts.          – John Assaraf

Thinking is in my opinion the highest thinking that we are capable of. The problem is that most people do not think. Although its the highest function we are capable of very few people do it. – Bob Proctor

If we look around us pretty much everybody is on automatic pilot. Most of the time. Unless you have very good control of your thoughts, unless you are very intentional. – Marina Bruni

Reality is different for every human being.  Because reality is based on what we perceive we’ve heard from our family and from our environment and what it means to us.               -Denis Waitley

Our thoughts become things. And our inner most dominant thought becomes our outer most tangible reality. Whatever you think about most you bring about most in life.             – John Demartini

 

 

HOW THOUGHTS BECOME THINGS – Do they really?

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HOW THOUGHTS BECOME THINGS has announced a release date of April 8, 2020. The film features Bob Proctor, John Demartini, Joe Vitale, Myself (Douglas Vermeeren), John Assaraf, Marie Diamond, Denis Waitley, Bob Doyle and and others. 

This film answers the questions left behind by films like THE SECRET and other law of attraction films as to HOW thoughts become things. 

In this film you will discover how to create the results you have sought after by understanding how to direct your thoughts to more productive activity. You’ll also discover how to escape negative thinking and direct your thoughts to more positive results. You’ll learn how emotions are created and improved. You’ll learn how decisions are make and how will power is generated to stick with those decisions. You will discover how your thoughts are created, You’ll discover how thoughts become things and why some thoughts are more powerful than others. 

In this top rated film you will discover what you can do in practical terms to raise the level of your thinking and why your thoughts are your most important asset. With “How Thoughts Become Things” you’ll see why the concepts of Becoming and making changes is an accessible process that is accessible to anyone. You’ll see how your thoughts are influenced by your surroundings and people around you. How Thoughts Become Things is the opportunity you have to gain an understanding of your thought processes and as a result gain control of your future. 

Your thoughts can become things. Thoughts do become things. This film is your opportunity to learn HOW and then begin that journey.

Many top personal development media are considering HOW THOUGHTS BECOME THINGS to be one of the most influential films in the personal development space in some time. Most are comparing it and calling it a companion movie to the 2006 Hit film THE SECRET. As The SECRET revealed the law of attraction and revealed that THOUGHTS BECOME THINGS this film HOW THOUGHTS BECOME THINGS reveals for the first time how this is done. 

In HOW THOUGHTS BECOME THINGS you will discover how to harness the power of your thought through principles of neuroscience, psychology, quantum physics and practical strategies for personal implementation.

The film can currently be seen at a variety of locations around the world at special screening events that can be found at http://www.HowThoughtsBecomeThings.com This film will also be published as a book and is available in some markets on DVD. It wil also be available streaming online after the live event and screening tour. 

Be sure to check out HOW THOUGHTS BECOME THINGS

Featuring Bob Proctor, John Demartini, Joe Vitale, John Assaraf, Marie Diamond, Douglas Vermeeren, Denis Waitley, Dr. Karen Perkins,  Travis Fox and others.      

HOW THOUGHTS BECOME THINGS – the Must-see “Law of Attraction” Movie

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HOW THOUGHTS BECOME THINGS – Sells out in less than 24 hours

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IMMEDIATE RELEASE – Excitement for the upcoming personal development film HOW THOUGHTS BECOME THINGS definitely manifested itself when the first tickets went on sale. The first screening for How Thoughts Become Things sold out in less than 1 day! That’s right in less than 24hours the first screening of the film sold out completely.

If you are ready to learn the secrets behind HOW thoughts become things then you’ll want to see the film that everyone is calling the next step to manifesting everything you want in your life. You find an event near you by going to http://www.HowThoughtsBecomeThings.com

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February 14, 2020 at 12:41 am

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The Kindness List

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The Kindness list (Please add your ideas to the list and pass it on)

By Douglas Vermeeren

The best way to feel good about yourself is to do something for someone else that either can’t repay or will never know who did it for them.mKindness is great first impression. Our world needs lots of things – but the thing it’s lacking the most right now is kindness. If we could get more of this one thing a lot fo the troubles would be solved automatically. Big solutions to big problems are always found by starting with the little things. Some people may think I am naive and simplistic, but little things are the best way to change big things. In fact, it really is the only way it can ever happen.

Research has confirmed that kindness creates feelings of happiness and joy in the kind person. If you want to feel better about yourself it starts with looking beyond yourself. 

Often most people miss moments to be kind because they often look for big obvious events where help is needed. Kindness is more of a habit than an event. But like all habits they often require some training and support to make them permanent. 

Kindness actually is a matter of consistency in small acts rather than large ones. Focus on what you can do, not what you could do. And don’t overthink it. Kindness doesn’t come from the head but rather from the heart.

But I do recognize that being kind is not always easy. Especially when someone hurts your feelings (intentionally or unintentionally), and sometimes kindness is required at inconvenient moments. Kindness does require a commitment to yourself and others. 

What is your kindness standard? As with everything in life we rise to the standards we set for ourselves. If we set it as a priority to be kind we will be very pleased with the results and side effects. If we decide that kindness is a waste of time, slows us down, that others are not worth the time and effort we will soon see that the universe responds to us in similar ways.

My personal experience has been that even when I am feeling frustrated, depressed, hurt or weak the moment I choose to be kind (regardless of my situation)( things begin to change and good things begin to return. There is a saying I often share with my students, “The fastest way to feel good about yourself is to do something for others that they can’t repay.” I would add to that  idea that if you can do it anonymously that feelings is even grander.

Here is the list that I’ve assembled from observing others, my own experience and the experience of my students that will help you to develop greater kindness. Naturally as you go through this list you will discover some of these things will help in your family. Some are more public and others are for complete strangers. 

Some of the kindness ideas on this list are ideal for family members, your spouse or close friends. Trust me, many of these are actually from my own experience. But you’ll also find that many of the ones you would do for a family member or close friend can also be shared with others and will draw them into a closer relationship or friendship with you. Use your judgements as to how appropriate some of these items may be.

Sone of the ideas that follow are specific things the you can do or some things you can think about. Either way as you bring these concepts of kinds more fully into your life you will begin to see the rewards of kindness more clearly and you will soon agree that when you are kind you feel better, better things start happening to you, arriving for you and opening up to you. Kindness has a specific and special power of its own.

I encourage you to consider them all. I also encourage you to pick some of these things and try them today:

Do the dishes without being asked

Treat everyone as a special person

Just strive to become a better person

Go get the baby and let your wife sleep

Believe the best in people 

Take out the trash without being asked

Say something kind to a stranger

Compliment a friend on their wardrobe

Help someone move (bonus points if they have a piano.)

Sometime it means putting your stuff second

Call up a parent or sibling to say hello

Send a thank you note

Notice someones new hairdoo, shoes or outfit

Arrange a surprise birthday party

Arrange a surprise recognition party

Do more than expected

Express gratitude for something little

Volunteer for the special olympics

Go meet your neighbours 

Tend one off your sick children at night

Adopt a pet

Teach ESL

Send books and supplies to third world schools

Coach a local youth team

Give people second chances

Volunteer on the crisis lines

Run for the cure

Be more forgiving

Establish a foundation 

Be a mentor

Send gifts to an orphanage

Donate to charities

For your next birthday ask others to donate to charities

Share old books with shelters

Volunteer

Fold laundry without being asked

Smile often

Bring flowers for someone at a senior center

Share one of your talents

Do a service project

Always keep your promises 

Don’t unrealistic expectations on other people

Look for positive things in others and situations 

Clean up trash in the park

Deliver a dinner to someone who is sick

Babysit for a mom needing a break

Stop at lemonade stands

Donate to worthy causes

Include those who are normally excluded

Let someone know they’ve done a good job

Help people solve problems without expectation

Don’t try to change people love them for who they already are

Listen to a child

Think before you speak when emotional

Go the extra mile

Don’t compare or compete when someone shares their success

Listen

Complete chores without being asked

Help someone move

Buy coffee for the person behind you

Let someone in front of you in line

Say thank you

Express appreciation

Recognize someone for their kindness

Encourage someone

Spend time with your spouse doing something he/she likes

Invite someone for lunch

Coach a kids sports team

Volunteer at the food bank

Don’t judge a person by their past

Stop and help someone fix a flat

Speak kind words to everyone

Celebrate success (even if its your competition)

Be loyal

Be interested in other people

Say I love you more often

Cheer for everyone

Extend a helping hand

Believe the best about people

Help a child fix their bike

Don’t prejudge

Don’t get upset when interrupted 

Look for what you have in common with people rather than what divides you

Treat everyone as important

Mow the neighbours lawn

Give people space if they request it

Press gratitude often and be specific

Accept blame first instead of blaming someone else

Respond kindly even when you re tired

Share

Avoid comparisons with other people

Be the first to say I’m sorry

Breath when you are angry and bite your tongue

Be on the hunt for all things good wherever they appear

Have a cheerful countenance

Bake cookies for the neighbour

Shovel the snow from a neighbours walk

Ask how can I help?

Arrange for a romantic getaway for your spouse or significant other

Open doors for people

Do not give kids clothes for their birthdays 

Validate people who disagree with you

Ask for donations on your birthday in place of presents

Bring flowers

Don’t stereotype people without getting to know them

Be present – 

Don’t act like a know-it-all

Avoid Complaining

Don’t just go through the motions

Spend time with someone who has lost a loved one

Put yourself second when someone asks for help

Learn more patience

Hide surprises in the house

Show interest in your partners day and activities

Help cook or serve at a homeless shelter

Gather clothing to donate to a local shelter

Visit senior citizen in a nursing home

Donate non-perishables to the food bank

When some asks for help let Yes be your first answer

Give more than you get

Let your spouse have the remote

Support new learners as they gain experience 

Look for opportunities to serve 

Give people your undivided attention when they are talking to you

Hide post-it noes with special messages where your loved ones will find them

Stand up for someone who is not present

Greet someone at the airport 

Focus on good points

Be friendly wherever you go

Never use sarcasm, put-downs or insulting humour

Tell people you are glad they are in your life

Publicly celebrate victories (even those of your competitors)

Believe in your relationships 

Be excited when someone gets home

Help with expectation

Never criticize

Focus on the relationship not the accomplishment

Express appreciation even when the effort isn’t perfect

Never walk away while someone is talking to you

Join a mastermind 

Be kind to yourself

Trust more

Speak softly

Be a better friend

Don’t create undue financial stress on your family or friends

Don’t delay when you give a commitment to help

Set goals with others in your organization

Support others with their dreams

Forgive mistakes in others

When you disagree seek out a win-win

If you don’t like something fix it

Don’t do things for credit, do things because they are right

Turn off the tv when guests come over

If something needs to be thrown out do it

Choose to see the best in people

Compliment others often

Write people a handwritten note of appreciation

Tell people how importune they are

Help kids with their homework

If something is broken fix it

Be teachable

Keep your things clean

Catch people at their best

Do challenging work more often than your turn

Speak kindly of your in-laws 

Spend time with your kids doing something they like

Be happy with yourself

Tell people why they make you happy

Don’t tell mean jokes

Remember birthdays 

Send greeting and thank you cards often

Be fun to be with

Kindness grows with conscious practice

If you use it put it back

Look for ways to nurture friendships

Do things without being asked

If you borrow something return it promptly and in better condition

If you’re going to be late call

Always go the extra mile

Run an errand

Don’t make fun of other people

Unplug from technology to be with people

Anticipate needs before they are expressed

Speak in gentle tones

Create friends wherever you go

Don’t forget mothers day

Be flexible

Do something nice for someone your loved ones love

Seek to understand others points of view

Put the toilet seat down

Dress up for date night

Continually strive to be a better person

Use encouraging words when others have difficulties 

Give support without expectations

Surround yourself with people who value kindness and you will be more kind

Help people see their self worth and value

Keep your good works a secret

Every time you feel like criticizing offer to help instead

Be more flexible _ especially when others need you

Remember that small moments are actually a deal

Use deodorant and proper hygiene _ yes, that is part of being nice to others

Show consideration for others in public (ie. don’t talk loud on your cellphone, turn off your phone in movies, let people in while in traffic.)

Don’t interrupt people

Keep confidences

Social senstivitity

Validate people even when you don’t agree

Remember in business people proceed profit

Never plan or consider revenge

Let go of hurts quickly

Speak with empathy first before giving advice

Don’t make people scapegoats

Remember the magic words, Please, thank you, you’re welcome, I’m sorry

Focus on people when they are present

Speak well of people when they are not there

Put away your phone when with people

Put your ego away when arguing and listing

Seek to understand before being understood

Listen to a child

Apologize sincerely

Respecting another persons religion

Leaving someone else the last bite

Checking in to see if someone is okay

Become a big brother or big sister

Leave the token or coin in the shopping cart

Get the door someone

Think of others as people too

Forget a mistake that has been made

Help some move heavy objects

Leave a bigger tip and a kind note

Give flowers and a note

Stop at a lemonade stand

Pay a sincere compliment

Hold an umbrella over someone who hasn’t got one

Sometimes the kindest thing you can do it is keep your opinion to yourself

Check your motives before you do a thing

Be kind to small animals too

Visit seniors at the senior center

Feed a handicapped person or disabled senior

Give the shoes off your feet, the shirt off your back

Take supplies to an orphanage

Pray with someone

Shave your head with a friend who has cancer

Put yourself second

Don’t look for something great to do – look for something than needs to be done

Smile

Ignore little faults and criticism

Let some in line in traffic

Wait for a pedestrian to cross

Don’t tail gate

Serve at a homeless shelter

Cut hair for the homeless

Run errands for a shut in

Help someone look for a lost item

Help someone look for a lost pet

Help a lot child find their parent

Send a card to let someone know you re thinking about them

Pick up litter

Clear your own table at the coffee shop

Give someone directions

Help someone find their way

Leave public toilets as you’d hope to find them

Wipe down your gym equipment

Clean out your closet and donate your close to a charity or the homeless shelter

Make a care package for someone

Cut someones lawn

Shovel their sidewalk of snow

Give someone a lift

Help someone out of an embarrassing moment by being understanding

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December 25, 2019 at 2:22 am