Douglasvermeeren's Blog

Just another WordPress.com site

Archive for the ‘#1 Goal coach’ Category

I do lots of stuff wrong – Douglas Vermeeren

leave a comment »

I do lots of stuff wrong. And so do lots of other top achievers. If you haven’t done lots wrong its because you haven’t done much of anything. One thing is for sure that its very easy to do stuff wrong. It doesn’t take any special skill or aptitude. Its one of the most easy things in the world to do. And the funniest part of mistakes is that they arrive whether you intend them to  or not. Those who make the most and the biggest mistakes are never aiming for that. Often we have the best intentions and are really wanting to help and bless others, but sometimes things go wrong. It is safe to avoid all of this. Sometimes we don’t need the attention our mistakes make. But here’s the deal folks. If you really are committed to doing big things there will be big mistakes. Don’t focus on those though. Perfection isn’t the goal – Progress is.

douglas-vermeeren-power-quote-13A hundred years from now haters don’t matter and time often forgives mistakes. A friend told me the other day something remarkable he had noticed and I had to agree with him. Anyone doing great things will never criticize another person making mistakes. They are above that and they understand how essential those challenges are to creating success.

Things will go wrong in business, relationships, finances, friendships and more! Communications may cross. Expectations may be understood. But if you are going to create you can’t stay focused on that for long. Fix what you can and move on. Try to avoid making the mistakes but recognize they will happen.

As I interviewed more than 400 of the worlds top achievers I quickly saw that all of these people had made mistakes. Some of them were involved in law suits, allegations of poor judgement, some had divorces in their past, others had bankruptcies. But they didn’t focus on that.

And what was really funny (and I have experienced this too) is that as soon as success began to arrive those who had earlier criticized them asked for help or favors.

I also found it funny that right after I put out my first movie The Opus haters came out from every direction.I was sitting with a friend from the recording industry shortly thereafter and he expressed that he had seen this a million times with recording artists. The minute they had a success everyone hated them. (What’s with humans anyways?) well, he told me something that has always stayed with me. No matter what anyone says now they can’t take away the fact that I made a movie. Haters can’t take away accomplishments.  Pretty profound.

So here’s the lesson – Do you best! But when the imperfections arrive don’t get stuck on them. Keep moving towards your goals!

 

Why laugh at the learning curve? Douglas Vermeeren

leave a comment »

Today I am in Fort Lauderdale, FL. I will be speaking at an event later today. As I think about some of the things that I could say that would be most useful to the participants who are coming I think about their needs. Many of them are entrepreneurs, some of them are speakers and life coaches, some have home based businesses, there will be network marketers, there will even be students and some people who are either not employed or looking at starting a business.

As I have been sitting here eating my oatmeal and thinking about what would be most valuable to them I let my mind wander past all the experiences I have had that would be valuable to them. I think of some of the people I’ve met and the lessons they have taught me. For some reason my mind stopped on a one person, I’m going to call her Susan. (Not her real name but close.)

Susan wanted to be a speaker. She didn’t have a lot of experience yet so there were a lot of rough edges. But she had a lot of desire. Every time we talked she would take lot sod notes on what she could do. She observed every other speaker she could find and I could tell she was excited and fuelled to get to that next level. Soon she had her chance to get in front of a few groups. Just like when I started the groups were small. (My first speaking event I had 3 people show up.)

I attended her first event and there was about 12. Her second one that I attended had 7. And I am told her third was about the same. Her speech was valuable but not polished.

She was frustrated not with herself but with the numbers who came. She thought that she was ready and the world should have responded. She let those experiences effect her. And rather than laugh at the learning curve she projected the lack of people at those that were helping her. They should have helped her better. They should have filled the room. They gave her false expectations and hope. She fired her mentors. Ultimately you guessed it she shifted from being a speaker to something else where she continues to take the learning curve too seriously.

You may have guessed by now that this is a pattern she had experienced before. A repeated challenge that is destined to repeat again. She had amazing potential but failed to recognize that there is a learning curve, a progress curve and that all development takes time.

douglas-vermeeren-ppm-58

frank_maguire_sc_photoFrank is another person I thought about this morning.  He knew how to laugh at the learning curve and as a result he went on to create some pretty amazing things in his life. Whenever a failure or setback or experience was less than he wanted he dug in deeper and recognized it as a temporary station. He did not let the setback or situation define him or put him off track from his dreams and desires. One such business failure he was involved in lost millions and millions of dollars every month for close to 36 months. Yet he knew the idea would work and together with his partners they hung in there. That company today is known as FedEx.

Frank Maguire became one of my personal mentors. Almost like a grandpa to me. He taught me again and again that it is important to expect the learning curve and although he didn’t use these words he implied that you should laugh at it. When you failed or things didn’t flow like they should put on a smile and laugh at your mistakes. Don’t take failure personally or too seriously. It’s gonna happen. And its never as bad as you think its going to be.

Even the best laid plans have challenges and bumps. But more important that the plan is the person behind it. Are you a leader or a limper? To you whine when things don’t flow like you expect or do you accept it and make adjusts to improve each time.

The amazing thing about learning curves that I have learned is that it is in the shape of a J. Success follows and comes in this shape. After you get past the low rolling curve at the bottom of the letter goes straight up. Had Susan recognized where she was on the curve she would have understood that there is always a period of time to pay your dues on the curve. Once that’s through success comes in a very big way. Most people are like Susan and when things don’t flow immediately and powerfully they abandon ship.

They never give themselves a chance to succeed because they never get past the inevitable learning curve.

rocky-1

Don’t make the same mistake. Get committed! Decide that you will hang in there. Go the distance. Be like Rocky and even tough things are tough you keep going. Take the punch and stay standing. You can do it. And it you hang on long enough you will always win.

th-1Howard Putnam former CEO of Southwest airlines once told me that the key to success in his life has always been to keep going when the other stops. It’s not a matter of being smarter, or better looking, or better connected or luckier. It’s mostly a matter of hanging in there especially when it gets hard.

So to conclude today. I just want to say go for it. This is your time!

Now is your time – Make it count!

 

douglas-vermeeren-600

Douglas Vermeeren – Are you ready to level up? You’ve come to the right place. Douglas Vermeeren is considered one of the top leaders in personal development and achievement psychology. He is considered by many to be the modern day Napoleon Hill for his extensive research into the lives and psychology of more than 400 of the world’s top achievers. Douglas Vermeeren is the creator of The Personal Power Mastery program which helps you unlock your most powerful self and created positive changes in your life.
http://www.DouglasVermeeren.com http://www.PersonalPowerMasteryEvent.com

#Thescienceofbeingawesome #DouglasVermeeren #dougvermeeren #PersonalPowerMastery #PersonalPowerMasteryseminar #PersonalPowerMasteryforbusiness #SelfImprovement #Personaldevelopment

Absolutely absolute! by Douglas Vermeeren

leave a comment »

I am absolutely thrilled about life. I wish I could say that I felt that way everyday and in every way all the time. The truth of the matter is that I get frustrated, hurt and angry sometimes just like everyone else. I am human after all. But I do find that there are several things I can do that keep me more dialled in to my best self and I’d like to share a few of those things:

1)Have a mission, set goals and revisit them often

As I feel like I have a purpose I become on purpose. It’s very difficult to stay frustrated or bummed out when I have something that I am working on. An idle mind imagines and dwells with more problems. When we are busy working at something that excites us we don’t have time or energy to waste.

thAs I regularly revisit those goals I am able to reignite myself and get more on purpose. It’s hard to stay down when you are busy. In addition, by revisiting these goals often I can often see progress (even if it’s it not much) and that motivates me to do more and helps me feel good that I’ve made progress. I’ve consistently found with my students in Personal Power Mastery and confirmed it multiple times in my own life that when we make progress we are most happy.

2)Surround yourself with people who lift you higher.

You’ve heard it said that we become like those we surround ourselves with. And you’ve also heard hat tour income, relationships and habits will gravitate to the five people you spend the most time with. I believe that’s because we rise to the expectations of our peers and we would do more for others than we often are willing to do for ourselves. A great example of this are most mothers I know. They serve everyone around them and are often the last ones to get taken care of. They do more for others than they will do for themselves.

Surround yourself with amazing people and you will rise to an amazing life.

sunrise

3) Decide what you will tolerate and raise your standards

You get absolutely what you decide your standards are. This not only applies to your finances, relationships, organization, cleanliness and so forth. Yes these are all standards, but this also applies to your thinking as well. You set the standards of what you will allow for your thinking. You can control your thinking to allow certain thoughts to stay. You’ve heard it said that happiness is a choice. So is worthiness. So is confidence. So is contentment. And any other positive thought you wish to have in your life. Set your standards high and put your focus on thoughts that empower you. When you have a thought that doesn’t make you feel good don’t give it space to grow. Dismiss it and remind yourself that it is below your standards of thought.

Stay tuned for more! Until then remember that now is your time! Make it count!

douglas-vermeeren-600Douglas Vermeeren – Are you ready to level up? You’ve come to the right place. Douglas Vermeeren is considered one of the top leaders in personal development and achievement psychology. He is considered by many to be the modern day Napoleon Hill for his extensive research into the lives and psychology of more than 400 of the world’s top achievers. Douglas Vermeeren is the creator of The Personal Power Mastery program which helps you unlock your most powerful self and created positive changes in your life.

http://www.DouglasVermeeren.com http://www.PersonalPowerMasteryEvent.com

#Thescienceofbeingawesome #DouglasVermeeren #dougvermeeren #PersonalPowerMastery #PersonalPowerMasteryseminar #PersonalPowerMasteryforbusiness #self improvement #Personaldevelopment

Douglas Vermeeren Power Quote 11

leave a comment »

douglas-vermeeren-ppm-11

What are you doing today? Where are you giving your time? What is your focus? What are you choosing? All of these things reveal what is most important to you. We give our time to what we are committed to and what we value most.

Are you worthy of success? Douglas Vermeeren

leave a comment »

Are you worth of Success By Douglas Vermeeren, Creator Of Personal Power Mastery 

As I have taught the Personal Power Mastery seminars and other trainings over the last 10 years a common, but surprising question that appears often again and again revolves around worthiness. Many people struggle with the idea of worthiness and personal value. Often the question has to do with something they either did or failed to do in their past. But more often it is tried to things that others around them (Especially loved ones) have told them about their worth or potential.

douglas-vermeeren-ppm-57

Most often the now disabled person has been told that success, wealth, good relationships, positive situations or whatever else they are trying to achieve is not realistic for them. They are somehow different or broken when it comes to creating these outcomes in comparison to other people.

These feelings have often grown within them until they have very conflicting ideas about what they want out of life and what they are truly capable of achieving. They begin to believe the idea that they are somehow something less than everyone else.

Naturally these feelings of doubt, fear and unworthiness are paralyzing. They rob the individual of the ability to work on their most important dreams and goals. Most often they end up in a prison of pain. When you don’t believe you are worth the best things you tolerate and except the less than great. Which often means accepting more pain and frustrating situations and people because that is where you feel accepted and belong.

This is not true. You deserve better and are entitled to better. You are worthy.

The definition of the word worthiness means to have sufficient merit.  Sufficient merit to do what? Success is earned but not in the way most people think.

To attain success you do not appear before a standards board that evaluates your application. There is no one in the “success club” that must approve your membership or welcome you into the group.

To create success requires that you simply work hard and follow a certain set of rules (law of the harvest) which will produce certain results. (We will talk more about these rules in the future. for a quick preview look at my book Guerrilla Achiever.)  But these rules work when you get to work and take action. The rules don’t ask if you are afraid when you act. They don’t judge your past when you act. They don’t ask what others said to you or about you when you act. The only thing that they are concerned about is that when you are acting you are rolling those rules of success.

If you can do that you have all the worthiness that you need.

OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERA

YOU ARE WORTHY NOW!

The wonderful thing about the journey to success is that your current feelings about yourself change the instant you gain a little momentum. In other words if you feel unworthy just get started. That movement will open your eyes to the true possibilities of who you may become and light will enter into your life and destroy the darkness of self-worry. JUST GET STARTED!

A second aspect of feeling worthy is also worth pointing out. It might be time for a friend or connection upgrade. We often takes our cues of what we are capable of by those we spend the most time with. We often believe the advice of those around us because we look for validation from our peers. Because of that we are not just living in our own comfort zones and with our own fears, but we are operating within the shadow of the comfort zone and fears of those we spend the most time with.  In other words who you spend time with is truly shaping your destiny. If who you are spending time with is limiting you – LEVEL UP!

Much of this will affect our feelings of worthiness immediately.

A caution to single people. You may think you are just fine hanging out by yourself or online in social media and that you don’t have any negative interactions with real people so the feelings of unworthiness or lack of high motivation isn’t attached to others. Actually it maybe. Studies have shown that isolation is also a contributor to depression, feelings of unworthiness or complacency. find good people to start surrounding yourself with and get out there.

Now is your time – Make it count!

douglas-vermeeren-600Douglas Vermeeren – Are you ready to level up? You’ve come to the right place. Douglas Vermeeren is considered one of the top leaders in personal development and achievement psychology. He is considered by many to be the modern day Napoleon Hill for his extensive research into the lives and psychology of more than 400 of the world’s top achievers. Douglas Vermeeren is the creator of The Personal Power Mastery program which helps you unlock your most powerful self and created positive changes in your life.

http://www.DouglasVermeeren.com http://www.PersonalPowerMasteryEvent.com

#Thescienceofbeingawesome #DouglasVermeeren #dougvermeeren #PersonalPowerMastery #PersonalPowerMasteryseminar #PersonalPowerMasteryforbusiness #Womanentrepreneurs #hopeforsuccess

 

Can’t vs Won’t – Douglas Vermeeren

leave a comment »

I have often heard people say that they just can’t be successful. They then share a list of reasons why it’s just too tough to be successful beginning with everything from their upbringing to education to resources to a lack of opportunities.

Douglas Vermeeren ppm 55Upon closer examination the ideas they share are all excuses. They actually are no different than a lot of the obstacles other people who have achieved success before them have faced and overcome.

The real reason why these people ‘can’t’ get to the success they want is the word ‘won’t.’ They won’t do it and it’s not a matter of circumstances it’s a matter of laziness.

It’s much easier for some people to share excuses than it is to take action. When you take action not only is there the prospect of hard work, there is also the possibility that things may not work out as you had hoped for. That could me embarrassment, loss and even some pain. (I do want to point out that pain is last on the list. It is very rare that a failure actually brings high levels of pain with it. And we will talk about that in a future post. Most of the time there is ZERO physical pain, but a degree of mental discomfort as you realize that you fell short of your goal.) One of the things that most people don’t realize is that when they fall short they miss seeing the progress that they actually did make.

street-sign

So the next time you are on the fence about whether you are going to move forward towards your goals ask what’s keeping you from getting started. Is it really that you ‘can’t’ or is it that you ‘won’t?’

Douglas Vermeeren – Are you ready to level up? You’ve come to the right place. Douglas Vermeeren is considered one of the top leaders in personal development and achievement psychology. He is considered by many to be the modern day Napoleon Hill for his extensive research into the lives and psychology of more than 400 of the world’s top achievers. Douglas Vermeeren is the creator of The Personal Power Mastery program which helps you unlock your most powerful self and created positive changes in your life.

http://www.DouglasVermeeren.com

#Thescienceofbeingawesome #DouglasVermeeren #dougvermeeren #PersonalPowerMastery #PersonalPowerMasteryseminar #PersonalPowerMasteryforbusiness

Douglas Vermeeren – Power Quotes 10

leave a comment »

Douglas Vermeeren Power Quotes 10

Douglas Vermeeren – Are you ready to level up? You’ve come to the right place. Douglas Vermeeren is considered one of the top leaders in personal development and achievement psychology. He is considered by many to be the modern day Napoleon Hill for his extensive research into the lives and psychology of more than 400 of the world’s top achievers. Douglas Vermeeren is the creator of The Personal Power Mastery program which helps you unlock your most powerful self and created positive changes in your life.

http://www.DouglasVermeeren.com

#Thescienceofbeingawesome #DouglasVermeeren #dougvermeeren #PersonalPowerMastery #PersonalPowerMasteryseminar #PersonalPowerMasteryforbusiness