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Our Values determine so much!

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Our Values determine so much.
Personal Power Mastery Minute by Douglas Vermeeren

This is a most important subject which I anticipate you will be seeing many times in the future with Personal Power Mastery. The reason why is that people always support what they value most. Let me put it another way, Why do people struggle to get to their goals? Why do people struggle to keep New Years resolutions? Why do employees miss sales goals? Why do people even forget things they said they would do? Why do people even forget important dates like birthdays and anniversaries? It all has to do with our values.

What we value most becomes a priority.

What we don’t value gets procrastinated, discarded, postponed, avoided or experiences whatever other kind of neglect you can think of. We always do what we value most. We always protect what we value most. And so therefore our life is really a reflection of what we value most.

For some people we can instantly see that values that are not creating patterns of success. i call these the patterns of poverty. They include values such as immediate gratification, the value to impress others, the value to appear powerful, the desire to be liked.

There are additional values that rob people of success and that can include appetites that can’t be feed with food, drugs, sex, and any other physical indulgence.

And naturally there are ego based values that also keep success from coming your way.

The truth of the matter is after conducting seminars for the last 20 years and having thousands of attendees come through our doors even these values are not what people really want. Most of the above we have been taught by sources outside our true self that these values if you embrace them will bring happiness and fulfillment. Instead the are nothing but counterfeits and imposters in the long run.

The most powerful values come from what I call Authentic of purpose.

When people discover their sense of true purpose their true values appear. Most of these are often about connecting with the true self and connecting with the goodness in other people. (That will be an article for another time.)

But for today I would challenge you to think carefully about what you really want and if you spend some soul-searching time to consider the roots of why you really want it you will be able to discover how genuine your values are. And the shift that you might experience could very well surprise you.

 

Learn from the best in the best way – Personal Power Mastery

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Learn from the best in the best way – Personal Power Mastery by Douglas Vermeeren

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Imagine if there was a million dollars in a brief case for you on the other side of a field. The money is all yours all you have to do is go and pick it up. There is however one catch the field is filled with landmines and you don’t know where they are. Crossing this field will be a very challenging not to mention potentially explosive obstacle.

However you have a few options to get across.

Option 1 – Run like heck an hope you make it okay.
Option 2 – Read a book about it and take it slowly and cautiously on your own.
Option 3 – Have someone who has navigated the field once before tell you what to do from the sidelines.
Option 4 – Have someone who has successfully navigated the field multiple times walk with you and point out the potential dangers and challenges.

Which one would you pick?

When it’ appears in the context its pretty obvious which choice is the one you should select to complete the objective of crossing the field. But when it comes to practice in real life you’d be surprised how many choose the first option of simply “winging it” and making a run for it.

Let me share a little about each of these and then make a case why the final one is the best option in real life too.

Option 1 – Run like heck and hope you make it. This is the way most people approach getting to their goals in real life. Whether its in their career pursuits, building a business, flipping a house, becoming a professional athlete or even a rock star. When it comes to achieving their goals most people try to do it solo without support. They rush in whatever direction with whatever activities they think will help them make progress. This is also known as the school of hard knocks. This can be painful, expensive and time consuming. The are the people that think reading, seminars, coaches, mentors and that kind of thing is a waste of time. They often will say things like, “You’ve got to pay your dues.” and “There’s no substitute for hard work.” Most of the time they never achieve anything great and often never get close to their goals.

Option 2 – Read a book about it and take it slowly and cautiously on your own. – I hope I can share this one in a way that makes sense. I am an avid reader and a strong defender of reading and books. But if we are honest there are some limitations. Many people feel that simply reading a book on a subject makes you an expert. I see this ALL the time with other speakers in my career. they read a book about someone else success and suddenly feel they are qualified to teach others about success. (What a disservice to those they claim to serve. They can’t help others because they aren’t even willing to recognize their own limitations.) While reading a book will give you power there are still limitations. One of the challenges with this option in real life (and this happens with just attending seminars too) is that you learn just enough to make you dangerous so to speak. In other words you will get the information to make you started but what happens if you run up against a situation the book doesn’t cover or the seminar didn’t teach you about? What will you do? You will be stuck until you can get help.

The second part of this is taking it slow and cautiously. And we see this reflected in many people in real life. They slow their progress down to make certain that they have all of the answers they need before they take action. Hopefully that’s not you. But if it is let’s clarify one thing even with the top mentors speaking to you hourly you will still not have all the answers. It is just not possible. You will have to walk by faith if you are going to claim the prize.

No in finishing this option I want to emphatically state that I AM NOT AGAINST READING. I am against reading by itself. To be most effective it needs to be a component of a stronger strategy which we will talk about in a moment.

Option 3 – Have someone who has navigated the field once before tell you what to do from the sidelines. This option is getting better because you have the ability to rely on the experience of someone else who has completed the task. But as this article is entitled, “Learn from the best in the best way” I have to point out that while this is the best option so far there are still limitations. Someone observing you from the sidelines is often not aware of the specific details you are facing and they aren’t always seeing things as you see them in the field. They may not always give you the best advice because they don’t always know you and your particular situation in close up detail. It kind of reminds me of the encouragement that we often hear repeated, “Take a millionaire to lunch.” We’ll on the surface that’s a great idea, but in reality its going to take more than a lunch to get yourself truly on track to make your own million.

Option 4 – Have someone who has successfully navigated the field multiple times walk with you and point out the potential dangers and challenges. This final option is the best. Essentially it is having someone who has successfully accomplished what you are intending to do work with you directly to help you successfully arrive at the same conclusion. Often times this can cost more money than the other options up front but in the end it is actually the least expensive and most productive. In many cases as I have observed attendees to our seminars over the years this is also the option that actually gets the most results. Too often people come through our doors that have been trying the other options for years – but suddenly when they get the courage to actually get someone personally involved in helping them everything finally comes together.

Naturally Using a combination of all of these things will provide value as well so don’t neglect any learning opportunity that will support you on your mission.

There is one last things that I want to share that is important to recognize when it comes to learning and perhaps this is the concept that is closest to the title of this article. “Learn from the best in the best way.” Not all mentors, teachers, coaches, books, seminars youtube videos and learning tools are created equal. The lessons from some “Gurus” Will actually take you backwards and cost you time and money instead of helping you fulfill your purposes. Yes, you can learn from everyone and sometimes those lessons can be the wrong way to do something.

Life is short and your time is limited. Seek out the very best people to learn from and make the commitment to appreciate yourself enough to select the support that will ultimately serve you best.

Challenge: Get out there today and seek out in person mentors and support to help you get to your goals.

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Your Will-power starts with your Why-Power! Personal Power Mastery

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Your Will-power starts with your Why-Power! Personal Power Mastery
By Douglas Vermeeren, Personal Power Mastery

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Too often I have people that attend my seminars ask about the idea of motivation. Most of their questions and comments revolve around the challenge that have experienced in the past about not being able to stay motivated. They often share how they’ve thought out their goals and they really know what they want. They even confess that the things they have set goals around really are going to serve them best in the long run. They stress in their explanation that they are bewildered by how they just can’t follow the logical plans that were so well-laid.

The challenge does not rest in their desires or even their well-laid plans. The challenge lies in how our brain actually chooses the activities it will support. Without getting into a long explanation this particular post actually addresses a few of the various “powers” we discuss in Personal Power Mastery. I could have easily positioned this topic with The Power of Focus, The Power of Momentum, The Power of Thought, The Power of Values and others. Today I’m going to position this article and solution that I want to discuss squarely on The Power of Values.

To get to the heart of the matter as quickly as possible I’m simple going to share that our actions and motivation only coincidences with our highest values. In other words, we give our attention to the things that are most valuable to us. And by the way that is with every activity through out every moment of the day.

Let me share an example from the lives of one of my students. (But it might as well be my life as I am sometimes guilty of the same thing) One of my students Shane works at home. He is a home based entrepreneur. He has three small children who are now in school but are at home during the summer. Shane loves his business which is web design and social media marketing. However his highest value is his family and especially spending time with his wife and children and seeing them happy.

Recently Shane was telling me about a day at home during the summer. He had a lot of work to do and several clients counting on him with a handful of projects. Just as he was getting started his wife and kids appeared on the scene and pointed out the beautiful sunny day outside. Shane’s highest values are his family and so his attention shifted there.

Within a few moments plans were made to go to the zoo for day. Obviously Shane’s highest value caused him to stop working and he went with the family to the zoo. Thankfully after the kids went to bed Shane was able to catch up on his work.

Thankfully this was a happy ending but for too many people it is not. They are constantly placing their real value on immediate gratification, the current netflix series or even taking a nap. This misplacement of activity is the primary reason most people never accomplish their goals and dreams.

But how do you stay motivated with what matter most to you in the long term? How do you stay focused on the goals that you know will give you best rewards? How do you do what you logically know you should do and keep recommitting to do?

The first thing to understand is the emotional part of your brain is more important than the logical part of your brain. Your brain does not seek out logical activities as the priority. It does seek to satisfy the emotional demands first because those necessities are closely tied to our survival instincts.

So if you want to create more success and stay focused with the logical goals the question really becomes how do you make the Logical more emotional?

There are several techniques that we share in the Personal Power Mastery live sessions but the one I’d like to focus on here is the seek out more important emotional reasons why the goals you’ve chosen are important to you. Why do you really want these things in your life? And the more powerful and emotionally connective your answers for why are the more power you will have to get to your goals.

As the article title infers – Your will-power with be a reflection of your why-power. if you have no reason why, when emotional disruptions appear in your day you will have no will power to stick to the task at hand.

Emotional connections to your goals and dreams help you to create boundaries that keep you on task.

Exercise for today – Consider your top tasks for the week. What do you really need to get done in order to make progress towards your really big goals? Take some time right now and come up with some strong emotional reasons why these activities need to get done.

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