Everything around you can change – Douglas Vermeeren
Everything around you can change
By Douglas Vermeeren, Creator of Personal Power Mastery
Too often people become discouraged because they are caught in the middle of a less than perfect situation. Sometimes these circumstances can even be painful. They are certainly not inspiring and often times do not give the individual involved the tools or beliefs that things can be better. we are highly influenced by what we surround ourselves with and these things often limit us rather than empower us. But are we trapped by where we are and who we spend time with. Is there no hope to live the dreams we have if we are surrounded by challenging circumstances?
The simple answer is YES! Things around you can change. Here are a few significant ways that negative circumstances can change. And quickly…
- Change the way you look at things and they will change. When we see things as a challenge they stay that way. But when we look at them as stepping stones to a new situation they become that. I do recognize that some situations are just difficult to paint positive. In some situations such as a abuse that may be near impossible. And quite frankly when something is just plain wrong you should not look at it in an acceptable manner. But even in those severe negative situations you do have a choice in how you will respond and react. Rather than look for a way through LOOK FOR THE WAY OUT! On this note I also want to mention that there is support, help and loving people who will be there for you to make this escape. Start looking at it in the way that you know there are people who will support your exit. You are not alone. Even this shift of perception will give you strength and courage to start to create the changes you need.
- Raise your standards. As you change what you will tolerate your entire situation will change. If you decide that you deserve better or more in your specific situation you will start to become more. As You become more you will begin to attract the things that will change your situation for the better. Most people settle for their current situation and so their current situation continues. If you don’t level up your life you will always get what you’ve always gotten.
- Get moving. Action always changes a situation. Results appear as a result of an equation. Things around you will change in the same way. 1 + 1 = 2. You have control over one of the 1s in this equation. It’s you. If you decide to raise your standards to a 2 and act that way the end result is this equation 2 + 1=3. The end result has changed. You can also choose to not participate which turn turns your 1 into a 0. 0+1=1. The equation is changed again. recently one of of my students shared that their marriage wasn’t going as planned. There was a lot of conflict and challenge. We had this discussion about equations and she decided that even if her partner was not going to be loving and kind she could be. Even if her partner didn’t value some of the things she did she would still live her live with those values. So in some circumstances she became a 2 in their 1 +1 and a 0 in their 1+1. As you can imagine things changed in both circumstances. In this case her spouse decided he needed to change his behaviour to keep up with the new and improved version of his spouse and this story now has a happy ending. That is not always the case, sometimes the changes to where you know you need to be result in a recognition that you and the other person are more empowered apart. as you create yourself in the way you know you should be those answers will appear.
Change is required for success and satisfaction in life. When the things around you begin to conspire to help you magical and marvellous things begin to happen. Everything around responds to what you do next. Both in positive and negative ways. So determine carefully what you want and then use these 3 concepts to shift your reality to follow your vision.