Douglas Vermeeren – Decision interruptions than rob you of your goals.
Decisions are a hard thing for many people to make to start with. It gets even harder when a decision is interrupted by people, events, situations and “emergencies” that are not in line with the direction you are heading and the goals you have. One of the main reasons why this happens is that often we only make decisions on what we hope to achieve and the things we want in our lives. We neglect making clear decisions and distinctions about the things we don’t want. As a result we often sacrifice what we want most for the things that we allow to interrupt us.
There is a significant power in learning how to say NO and in establishing boundaries. It has been wisely observed that unless we fill our time with the things that are high priority your time will get filled up with trivial. In the PPM (Personal Power Mastery) seminars we discuss this phenomenon as we talk about being proactive. If you don’t decide what your boundaries are you will have none. You will be become the victim of the needs of others. I have often declared that reactive people become the slaves of proactive people. But they are also the slaves of other reactive people. Unless you have boundaries clearly set you can become a victim of the emergencies and challenges that others experience as well.
I’m not saying don’t ever help or respond to those in need. Do that. But have a plan in place ahead of time so that you can empower other people rather than enable then. As I interviewed the 400 top achievers I was surprised to learn that each one of them had boundaries in place when it came to rescuing others and providing aid. They had a system rather than a knee jerk reaction.
They also said NO regularly. If you have trouble with this have a polite phrase that you can memorize and repeat without having to think about it. Something simple like, “Thank you for thinking of me, but unfortunately I won’t be available for that.” Often as other experience you establishing boundaries their level of respect for you and your time will elevate. As a side effect in your future interactions they will value you and your time at higher level.
With a limited number of hours in a day, week, month, Year and lifetime you can’t afford to waste it by saying yes to things that pull you off course from your mission.