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You can’t attract what you criticize

By Douglas Vermeeren

An Awesome life is living your life by decision. You are where you want to be, doing the things that excite you, inspire you and bring out the best in you and in those around you.

This is the ideal that most people strive for, yet there are many who have a really hard time creating this as the reality in their lives. There are many reasons why they struggle creating the awesome life described above but the most common begins prevention is found in their thinking. Often this negative thinking manifests itself in the form of criticism towards other people, situations, circumstances or objects.

Criticism is a dangerous thing. Not only does it bring in negative energy it also established a fortress that keeps positive possibilities out. It becomes even more counterproductive when the individual criticizing other does so out of jealousy. In jealousy the offender is actually repelling what they what by criticizing other individuals who have achieved or are achieving what they want.

We have all been guilty of this.

As I have been guilty of criticizing others I have recognized that it never produced a positive or productive result. Criticism in my life has never produced better results or made me feel good. The more I thought about this there really has been no benefit to criticism, but it is still such an easy trap to fall into.

While in the criticizing mindset we shut off possibilities to create an awesome life as described above. The longer we stay in the mode of criticism the more it begins to affect others. What starts with a mutter or whisper in our mind soon becomes verbalized. What then is said to others gets repeated as a gossipy statement. These comments do not help to enlist the support of others you may need to accomplish your goals. Instead they let people know that you are not inspiring and fun to be around. You are a complainer.

Eventually the criticism will reach back to the person it discusses. This is when things really can turn for the worse. Have you ever had someone criticism you and felt to thank them for it? Of course not. The criticized person feels hurt and often distances themselves from the critic. It’s a great way to lose friends and create enemies.

While objects don’t have feelings I believe the same energy unfolds. You can’t attract what you criticize on any level.

My challenge to you today is to notice your criticisms and follow the two pieces of advice that your mother most likely gave you years ago:

“You get more with sugar than spice. SO be nice.”

and…

“If you haven’t got anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.”

Be awesome not a critic. No one is perfect although we are all trying pretty hard to do the best we can. Seek to praise and find goodness and praise and goodness will find you. It’s that simple.

And besides the world has too many critics already. Try being original instead.

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