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The Success Secret no One else will tell you

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Do you have this Secret of Success?

Do you have this Secret of Success?

The Success Secret no one else will tell you

By Douglas Vermeeren

Everywhere you look today you can find promises of new products, books or classes that will teach you how to create incredible and immeasurable success. The success they promise may be the changes you want in the areas of increased abundance, improvements in your relationships, optimal health, greater self esteem and even increased spirituality.  While many of these products and programs offer valuable information and insights for creating success they are generally missing something. If you want to create success that will last this final ingredient may be the most important of all.

The success secret that is rarely talked about is kindness.

Although this principle is rarely eluded to in the success library of today it is common in all of the philosophical and religious materials of the world. Variations of the golden rule, to do unto others as you would have them do unto you, appear in the philosophies of almost all religions. The earliest record being that of the ancient Babylonians in a text called the Code of Hammurabi purportedly written in 1780 BCE.

Perhaps, because we have heard it so often we have taken it for granted.

While quick money and easy victories can be made without kindness, only kindness and consideration of others builds a sure foundation. As you do unto others as you would have them do unto you, they generally do it.

You’ve probably heard it said in jest that the golden rule is simply ‘he that has the gold makes the rules.’ But the opposite is actually the truth; he who knows and keeps the golden rule eventually gets to keep the gold.

Kindness allows for relationships of growth and trust. Kindness fosters a spirit of  cooperation and collaboration. Kindness breeds creativity and best results. When we feel that we will be valued and treated with kindness we bring forth our very best. On the other hand, greed and self centeredness cause a business, organization, community, family and even an individual to shrink rather than expand.

You’ve heard the saying that ‘nice guys finish last?’ Nice guys may take longer to build something, but they receive the privilege of being permitted to finish. When you engage in dishonesty or manipulation, you may fool people once but you will rarely get a second chance to do so. Success is about creating something that will last and endure. Something that a mean spirited and self centered person will never get to experience.

Kindness is not just about being cordial, polite and politically correct. It is about being of service, leaving someone better than you found them and improving things wherever you go. Kindness does not mean doing everything for everyone, everywhere and every time. It means being filled with a desire to see yourself and others succeed and then doing appropriate things with consideration in an empowering way. Learning how to establish proper boundaries is an act of kindness. Kindness includes using wisdom. Kindness arrives often in the little things and comes from character more than pocketbook.

Kindness is not necessarily found in solving problems. It is found in pointing the way to solutions and giving hope.

Your rewards in life will be proportionate to your ability to be of service and improve the world around you. Opportunities for service and improvement rarely come with labels attached. You need to actively look for these. I challenge you to go on a quest to spread kindness and consideration. As you do so success will become yours.

Douglas Vermeeren is the director of the SUCCEED Research Center which is dedicated to sharing research on the systems that top achievers use to create lasting success. Over the last decade Vermeeren has conducted research into the cognition and behavior of more than 400 of the world’s top achievers, including business leaders, celebrities and professional or Olympic athletes. Douglas Vermeeren is the author of Guerrilla Achiever (With Jay Levinson) and the creator of The Opus. Currently Doug is completing another film entitled, How Thoughts Become Things. This film will explore the process of how our thoughts become manifest in our lives as reality.  For more on this film go to: www.HowThoughtsBecomeThings.com For more on Douglas Vermeeren go to: www.SucceedResearch.com Douglas Vermeeren can be reached for speaking engagements and training at 1.877.393.9496.

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  2. The film looks like it’s going to be a smash! Of all the 400 top achievers you spoke to, who did you learn the most from and why?

    Devin Scannura

    August 30, 2010 at 5:35 pm


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